They dont care..

[scouse-emo-chick]

I used to be bulimic, and it was a complete and utter secret, but I told two of my mates and I soon started recovering, when I saw that I was the same weight that I was 3years ago. That was two weeks ago, but yesterday I weighed myself in science. It said I'm 6 and a half stone.. Half a stone more than last time >.< I wouldn't eat at lunch and my best friend told me off, started calling me anorexic; then ratted on me to my boyfriend. :/ he's annoyed that I even think I'm fat, but I am so, so scared of putting on weight. I'm not as close now to the girls that knew last time, and whenever I do eat I starve myself the moment in not with friends, or I purge..
As far as my bf knows in just overly consious of my weight, and my best mate doesn't really give a shit.. But I know I need help. I need to stop before, it gets out of hand.. I'm sorta scared and don't know how to tell/ask him... And ideas?:/ :what: :(

[mikeywrenn]

As a male, I'd like my other half to be honest with me. As, in this case, you should tell him as much as you feel comfortable with telling him. I'm sure he'd happily listen and offer his advice.

If you're only worrying about your image, what other people see you as, then f'k 'em! When you're walking down the street, NOBODY looks at you in a bad light because you're fat, or too thin, or black, or white, or God knows what! The only thing that matters is what YOU think, and if that's why you want to be thinner, then I have a solution.

Not eating properly can actually add weight, which is a sad truth. You need to be out and exercise, perhaps take up a hobby or get a gym membership? Eating properly and exercise is the perfect combination, trust me on that.

I hope you've read it how I intended, I guess I'm not always completely clear.
I hope that helped you.

[scouse-emo-chick]

Thanks dude.. He ended up calling me anorexic, and I corrected him. :L but yanooooo... >.<

[Afraid Of Me]

yeeah yeeah. exercise! or talk to your doctor about seeing a dietition you know?

also you cant go your whole life caring about what people think about you. shit'll eat you in half emotionally

[mikeywrenn]

Nobody ever means it when they say "Hah, you're anorexic!", it's a misused word most of the time. It, to most people, just means someone that's dieting, when it's actually a very serious thing.

Just eat normally, or a GOOD BREAKFAST, it'll give you the energy for the day, and your metabolism it at its highest rate in the mornings (I believe, correct me if I'm wrong.)

[Amaryllis]

Honey, you have recover for -yourself-, not for them. They're great motivators but they won't be there forever. You don't -need- anyone to recover. All you need is yourself and the drive to. I did it on my own because I don't want this. I don't want my life to be controlled by my eating disorders.

I want to sleep at night. I don't want to be so underweight that I can't sleep. I was sick of being in pain every second of the day. I wanted to think of something other than food. I wanted to love what I used to love. I was sick of being alone.

Think of all you've lost and all that you will lose. If you fall any deeper, you -will- lose everyone you love. The fact is, people don't know what to do. They don't know what to say and they don't know how to help. If you would like, refer your boyfriend or friend to this: http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=118480

I completely understand how you feel. I wanted someone to help me more than anything. I still do. In fact, I just wanted a friend. I was so alone. People talked about me. They thought I had some terminal illness. My friends all left me. It was absolutely terrible.

But you can't expect anyone to be there for you through it all, sweetheart. They most likely do care. They just don't know what to do. They don't want to know. Eating disorders mess with our minds, it turns us into horrible people.

But it doesn't have to be this way. Reach for professional help. If that's not possible, it's okay, too. All you need is the will to recover. You can do whatever as long as you want it bad enough.

[scouse-emo-chick]

You've helped a lot Amaryllis, thanksyou so much. :') only problem is I'm so, so upset about my weight 24/7 :/ I honestly do think I'm fat, and after I've comfort ate/ binged I starve myself.. I'm finding it so so hard to *want* to recover.. I know I should, but.. "/