Am I Gay or not!?!

[smartkid1]

Ok, I really need help!!!!! Im 13 and im really self consious and have low self esteem and all that................ I grew up with all girls. I liked the same girl for like 6 years, until last year, I liked someone new. It was the biggest crush on a girl ever, but I guess I either got over her? but I think I still like her a little?? anyway, Im not really sure if I like her or not, i might not like like anyone...? also... i am not like the other boys, like I dont go LOOK AT HER ASS or SHE HAS NICE BOOBS... I dont see whats so good about it... i just like a girl bc I do...? I dont play sports, i was never good at them. i have a few guy friends, but the majority of my friends are girls... bc im just a really friendly guy and all the girls seem to like me... sometimes guys can turn my on, and i question whether or not im gay so i try to look at all different porn to decide!! when I watch gay porn i get hard... when I watch lesbian and girls NOTHING!! but I do not understand!! i liked girls all my life! did I suddenly turn gay?? I really need help! ): someone plz help me, what do you think? am I gay?

[AppealToReason]

I can't say whether you're gay or not. You could be straight, curious, bi, or gay.
That's up to you to decide.

[smartkid1]

but I dont want to be gay if I am, and I always had crushes on girls, so is it possible that i "turned gay" (I dont like any guys right now, I dont really like anyone)

[thecanjump]

If you can see yourself dating a boy feeling physically and emotionally attracted while not wanting to date a girl, then you're probably gay. If you are just having random thoughts like hmm I wonder what it is like to have sex with another male you might be a little bi-curious this does NOT mean you're gay. If you can't see yourself dating a guy and feeling for him you are most likely NOT gay. Hormones might give up some gay thoughts and this does NOT mean you are gay. Watching gay porn does NOT make you gay.

[hcm_2014]

I was exactly like this. I think it is normal to like a girl for personality. I am turned on by gay porn and stuff also, it is just hormones. I am straight. But it is whatever you decide.

[smartkid1]

I see myself in the future with kids and a wife, never with another man... i just think its weird that when i looked at gay porn i got hard, and girls dont really get me hard (when I think about a girl I like it can get me hard, but girls on the internet nothing, whereas when I think of guys at school fucking ew, whereas online, they get me hard sometimes)
Thanks for all the answers already

[thecanjump]

Here's something to clear up the porn situation. Porn is fake and is unreal that might not be enough to turn you on unknowingly. Gay porn might appear more "real" to you unconsciously. Realism>fake
Hope that clears some things up

[smartkid1]

ok thanks i guess that can be why

[LuckyLuke]

Straight: Emotional and sexual attraction EXCLUSIVELY to girls

Bi: Emotional and sexual attraction to both girls and guys

Gay: Emotional and sexual attraction to EXCLUSIVELY guys

IF you have a sexual attraction towards either sex but not an emotional attraction, this does NOT mean you're whatever orientation that may be, you must also have an emotional attraction.

[smartkid1]

oh well I was never emotionally attracted to guys... Is it possible I just dont like a girl right now? and ive been emotionally attracted to girls (well by this I mean I got all nervous, got red, when I was near her)

[bwdude15]

well only you can be sure if you are...you cant have people tell you what you are. to me...sorry! :/

[smartkid1]

yea but thats the thing... im unsure how to tell, basically im confused i guess

[cpr97]

but I dont want to be gay if I am

im not really sure there is anyway to tell your body you do or dont want to be somethin n if you happen to fool your body into thinkin your somethin your not i dont think you will ever find true happiness... as i dont think if you are gay and want to be straight or even vise versa theres anyway to honestly make that happen and be happy with it... i think we are who we are and those that really are our friends and care bout us will accept us for who we are the way we are!



I see myself in the future with kids and a wife, never with another man... i just think its weird that when i looked at gay porn i got hard, and girls dont really get me hard (when I think about a girl I like it can get me hard, but girls on the internet nothing, whereas when I think of guys at school fucking ew, whereas online, they get me hard sometimes)
Thanks for all the answers already

dude i wouldnt worry or base your orientation off of what gets you hard i have learned that from other posts here that the whole staright/gay/bi thing is strictly based on emotion not physical pleasure like someone told me you like jerkin off right? so it dont make a straight guy gay cuz he plays with a penis even if its his its still a penis... your hormones are just goin crazy right now all i can say is go with what your heart n mind tell you... deff dont jump to conclusions just cuz of what type of porn gets you "hard" maybe you are havin curiosity bout sexual things with other dudes (theres nothin wrong or gay about that) but dont have the emotional connection but no matter what im sure it will all work out in the end for you least i hope it does but dont try tellin your body your somethin your not

[smartkid1]

so ive felt an emotional connection with a girl before... does this make me straight?

[thecanjump]

You don't have to like a person 24/7 to be this or that. Also, why do you want to label yourself so badly? Just go with the flow and do want you feel is right.

[Anima]

Ok, I really need help!!!!! Im 13 and im really self consious and have low self esteem and all that................ I grew up with all girls. I liked the same girl for like 6 years, until last year, I liked someone new. It was the biggest crush on a girl ever, but I guess I either got over her? but I think I still like her a little?? anyway, Im not really sure if I like her or not, i might not like like anyone...? also... i am not like the other boys, like I dont go LOOK AT HER ASS or SHE HAS NICE BOOBS... I dont see whats so good about it... i just like a girl bc I do...? I dont play sports, i was never good at them. i have a few guy friends, but the majority of my friends are girls... bc im just a really friendly guy and all the girls seem to like me... sometimes guys can turn my on, and i question whether or not im gay so i try to look at all different porn to decide!! when I watch gay porn i get hard... when I watch lesbian and girls NOTHING!! but I do not understand!! i liked girls all my life! did I suddenly turn gay?? I really need help! ): someone plz help me, what do you think? am I gay?

OK your situation is like EXACTLY like mine dude, im the exact same way haha
im not even sure if were gay or not

[smartkid1]

i dont know, i guess its because im so self consious and its junior high and all that lmfao

[thecanjump]

Don't stress out over it, in time you'll know for sure but it seems to me that you are straight with a little curiosity

[smartkid1]

also, so its normal that I dont really like a girl right now?

[LuckyLuke]

also, so its normal that I dont really like a girl right now?

Of course it is.. you don't have to like someone 24/7

[smartkid1]

ok thanks, i feel better now... and what if i were gay, its not that I dont like gays, but I dont think i want to be gay... i would never be able to deal with it

[LuckyLuke]

If you are gay, that's okay. Millions of people are and they "live with it" everyday.

There's nothing wrong with it.

[cpr97]

i think your just stressin this whole thing way to much just breathe n let your body / mond sort things out n be happy with whatever it decides hormones n puberty do crazy things to our minds n bodys dude theres no way to change any of that so its not worth spendin all your time worryin bout somethin you have no control over your body/mind/hormones are gonna do what they want whether you stress it or have fun n enjoy life so might as well have fun n enjoy life... right???

[Willy94]

its up to u to decide

[smartkid1]

hehe hormones must be a funny thing, i was just watching some "girly stuff" and i got hard lmfao

[cpr97]

yes they are very funny n unpredictable 1 thing that turns you on tonight might not even intrest you tomorrow thats why my motto is dont stress what you cant control our hormones n bodys are gonna do what they want to durin puberty we just gotta kinda deal with it go down the roads they lead us even if its a dead end