How did you approach sexual experimentation?

[SABoy]

I'm in a very odd situation...all my life I've been emotionally attracted to girls as well as physically. Lately though, ive been gaining a physical attraction for guys too. Now, my problem is I don't know how to play it out...do I explore that other side of myself, or do I ignore it?

[Slytherin_Prince]

It's only natural for you to feel those things. You just need to find out for yourself what you prefer, by whatever means you think is best.
As for myself, I didn't experiment in order to discovermy sexual preferences.
Might sound cliché, but I literally just woke up one day and realized I didn't find myself attracted to the female gender.
Therefore, I'm probably not the right person to advise you in this matter.
All I can say is that you should find out by yourself, and make the decision individually. How you get to making that decision is up to you.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[SABoy]

Well Rob...let's say I did go for the experimentation side of life. Would it be a good idea to do it with a close friend who I trust?

[clr9823]

I hate to sound crass, but gay porn may be a good place to start to explore.
Any further experimentation well, that basically requires finding a friend willing to do the same (can be very hard depending on your friends) or getting close to a guy who is gay and starting a relationship (difficult if all you're wanting to do is experiment). If it's with a friend, then it can destroy friendships if it makes things awkward. Even if it doesn't it can change things, so be careful with that.
You could just think about it though. If it's only physical then it's just teenage emotions, but if you start to develop emotional and romantic connections then you're swinging towards gay/bi.
But don't label yourself, be cool, don't rush into anything, think about it and don't stress about it. That's all the advice I can give

[Sterling26]

yea never try to do it with a close friend, cause more than likely they wont be interested but then theyll think u have a crush on them, fucks everything up

[AlexTorkin]

You should most likely experiment with those you don't know very well. If you try it with a close friend, things could mess up really quickly.

[Sosaku]

I hate to sound crass, but gay porn may be a good place to start to explore.
Any further experimentation well, that basically requires finding a friend willing to do the same (can be very hard depending on your friends) or getting close to a guy who is gay and starting a relationship (difficult if all you're wanting to do is experiment). If it's with a friend, then it can destroy friendships if it makes things awkward. Even if it doesn't it can change things, so be careful with that.
You could just think about it though. If it's only physical then it's just teenage emotions, but if you start to develop emotional and romantic connections then you're swinging towards gay/bi.
But don't label yourself, be cool, don't rush into anything, think about it and don't stress about it. That's all the advice I can give

hmm, well for one, You said "If it's only physical then it's just teenage emotions,..."
If something is physical, how is it emotional? Also, teenage emotions shouldn't just be pushed to the side, emotions as a Teenager are the strongest for us, (since we haven't become adults that is...)
Pay attention to your emotions...also, you said THINK about it, I disagree with this also, ya see...if you THINK about it, you're going to most probably think, "What turns me on?" Then you'll start thinking about the usual, female things, well, you get turned on, you probably look at porn, then masturbate, then you stop thinking about it until the next day, well you start again, and you're like, "well, i know girls turn me on, what about guys?" so you start thinking of situations with guys in it, and how the guy looks, and you start getting turned on, why? well most probably the guy you thought of, (if you watch porn) is the guy that is there, well when you watch porn, you probably fantasize about being in his place, so when you see him, or someone similar to him, you'll get turned on because you remember (subconsciously that is) of what happened when you imagined being him...so technically while you were thinking of a guy, your body was probably thinking of the girl...therefore, it doesn't work...

To sum that up, don't think about your sexuality, don't label yourself, all it does is cause complications...you tell someone you're gay, then you get this crush on some girl, adn everyone either calls you a liar, or no one believes you...just be who you are, and if people ask what you are, say you are you...and that is all you know, and care to know.

[SABoy]

That's great advice guys...I've never liked labels myself :-P Haha, well I do have this one friend who is very chilled with me...but we've ever gotten far with each other. Never touched each other besides hug. One time we slept in the same room together, busted out my iPod and started checking out porn. We ended up wanking next to each other. Although, the lights were off and we didn't see anything...

It was all under the covers, wasn't really awkward...i think it happened because we were both really horny!

I didn't wank for...15 days!!! So yeah. Next time, I'll fix that :)

[Nexus]

I had a friend try and come onto me when I was 13. He was 16 and A LOT more developed at the time. I had told him I was curious and such, and he really just made me feel uncomfortable, but I won't go into detail.

My advice is that if you decide to experiment with a friend, make sure both of you guys are comfortable with it. I don't hate my aforementioned friend or anything like that, but it definitely set an awkward tone for awhile being that I was so young and clueless at the time.

[SABoy]

Ola Jordan! :-) This friend of mine is pretty chilled...and we were able to speak about what happened afterwards comfortably. We agreed that it was intense and that we both enjoyed it. I think it's a lot more fun wanking with a buddy than it is wanking alone...maybe it's because I like the naughty factor :) but even so...it's just nice sharing that other side of you with someone else in the same situation, you know?

[clr9823]

hmm, well for one, You said "If it's only physical then it's just teenage emotions,..."
If something is physical, how is it emotional? Also, teenage emotions shouldn't just be pushed to the side, emotions as a Teenager are the strongest for us, (since we haven't become adults that is...)
Pay attention to your emotions...also, you said THINK about it, I disagree with this also, ya see...if you THINK about it, you're going to most probably think, "What turns me on?" Then you'll start thinking about the usual, female things, well, you get turned on, you probably look at porn, then masturbate, then you stop thinking about it until the next day, well you start again, and you're like, "well, i know girls turn me on, what about guys?" so you start thinking of situations with guys in it, and how the guy looks, and you start getting turned on, why? well most probably the guy you thought of, (if you watch porn) is the guy that is there, well when you watch porn, you probably fantasize about being in his place, so when you see him, or someone similar to him, you'll get turned on because you remember (subconsciously that is) of what happened when you imagined being him...so technically while you were thinking of a guy, your body was probably thinking of the girl...therefore, it doesn't work...

To sum that up, don't think about your sexuality, don't label yourself, all it does is cause complications...you tell someone you're gay, then you get this crush on some girl, adn everyone either calls you a liar, or no one believes you...just be who you are, and if people ask what you are, say you are you...and that is all you know, and care to know.

Sorry, meant to say hormones. And teenage emotions are kind of shit; they're overblown, and disproportionate to most situations. I know, I'm going through them. Of course they can still cause major problems (mental illness etc. in extreme occasions) but taking them too seriously is just a bit silly.

I'm afraid I really couldn't follow much of your point about not thinking about your sexuality, but that sentiment I must disagree with. For people questioning it does play on the mind, so you can either bring it to the front and think about it and try and work it out, or try not to think about it and suppress it.

[cpr97]

I'm in a very odd situation...all my life I've been emotionally attracted to girls as well as physically. Lately though, ive been gaining a physical attraction for guys too. Now, my problem is I don't know how to play it out...do I explore that other side of myself, or do I ignore it?

it is most likely just your hormones goin crazy... but i wouldnt ignore it i think you owe it to your body/mind to check it out even if it is a curiousity thing just make sure YOUR ready for it when you do n whatever you do decide to do be safe doin it

[twotall]

ive been here and i did it to see what happen. then i decide to second guess myself but then i know that i figured out im bi and make sure it someone close they could help you but make sure there ok with it too

[Sceneboy612]

Do whatever you feel is right. If you want to, go for it, and see how you like it. But if you don't feel good about it, don't. Idk, this is something you really have to make up for yourself.

[james wolf]

yea never try to do it with a close friend, cause more than likely they wont be interested but then theyll think u have a crush on them, fucks everything up

You should most likely experiment with those you don't know very well. If you try it with a close friend, things could mess up really quickly.

I get what your saying but I wouldn't want to do it with someone I didn't know very well.

[Can'tHelpIt]

You could possibly be bisexual and your just so fixated on the guys part your not also thinking about the girls so you assume your gay not bisexual or straight. Starting thinking about girls, watch lesbian or straight porn. that might help ya.
:)

[SABoy]

You could possibly be bisexual and your just so fixated on the guys part your not also thinking about the girls so you assume your gay not bisexual or straight. Starting thinking about girls, watch lesbian or straight porn. that might help ya.
:)

Haha I don't think I'm gay...my attraction to girls did not wane. I am still very much attracted to girls emotionally and physically. I'm just at an age where I feel like I need to test the waters. I wouldn't even bother putting a label on it.

[cpr97]

Haha I don't think I'm gay...my attraction to girls did not wane. I am still very much attracted to girls emotionally and physically. I'm just at an age where I feel like I need to test the waters. I wouldn't even bother putting a label on it.

seems like you just answered your own question dude so go with it