Just a Question

[Blue63]

So in the past few months I've relapsed. Well, I'm not sure I could call it relapsing. When I first started cutting, well, it lasted for a few weeks and they were only scratches. I was young then. Now I'm legitimately cutting and have been for a while. I have strange scars.

Anyway, quick question.

I first started seeing my therapist a few years ago because of depression. He helped me work through a lot but I never really told him about my cutting. Now I'm still seeing him, though less, it got me thinking if I should tell him about the cutting. The thing is, I'm neither depressed nor suicidal. I'm afraid he'll over-react. I'm not really sure I want to stop cutting, either. However, if I tell him, since I'm still a minor, does he have the right to tell my parents? Seriously, if they found out there would be weeping and bawling and probably a few days in the hospital, not to mention everyone and their brother would know what a mental case I am. I'm really fine. Level-headed. I'm just a normal teen dealing with pain.

I'm just curious if a) you think I should tell my therapist and b) if he can go behind my back and tell my parents? If you could let me know that'd be great, thanks!

[ryantombs]

B) depending on where yu live it changes. But i think rule of thumb is if he senses tht yur in grave danger then he can tell... Dont quote me on this... Maybe ask him wat his legal rights are for telling yur parents... And honestly yur in the same. Boat as me it how i dealt with pain and my parets and gp thought i was like suicidal but talked to my therapist and. They kno im not in danger of tht...
Its up to yu thoto tell only yur heart knows... But if yur worried wit hospitalization... Maybe wen yu tell him tell hi
Yur fine but its yur way of coping... And tht yu want to find a new way to cope...

[xXl0sth0peXx]

Depends hon.

Where I live, there are some things that doctors/therapists/etc HAVE to by law report. Suicidal threats, threats of hurting someone, etc. However, cutting is not reportable. Research some laws around where you live and figure out what the laws are. I used the law against my doctor. She wanted to tell my mom, but I told her legally she couldn't. And she couldn't.

It's all up to you whether you tell or not.

Good luck!

- V

[Blue63]

Thanks guys!

I did a little research and basically found that there are no clear cut laws, it'll come down to the psychologist. There are a lot of clauses indicating that the psychologist basically has his own choice if I'm suicidal or harming myself or others. I feel like I will not be able to convince him that this is not serious enough to not tell my parents. This kind of sucks, but I guess there's not much I can do about.

This feels like a dumb choice, but I'm not really ready to tell people about this yet. Two friends know, but I'm pretty sure they've pushed it out of their minds. My own battle. My parents would...oh god, so not ready for that. This is dumb, but I guess if (when) I reach my breaking point I'll deal with it then.

Thanks guys!

[xXl0sth0peXx]

This feels like a dumb choice, but I'm not really ready to tell people about this yet. Two friends know, but I'm pretty sure they've pushed it out of their minds. My own battle. My parents would...oh god, so not ready for that. This is dumb, but I guess if (when) I reach my breaking point I'll deal with it then.


Not a dumb choice at all. I'm not ready to tell mine either. I'm not ready for the idea of my parents figuring out.

Good luck. <3

[ryantombs]

Bud its no where near dumb. Trust me i was the same way still didnt tell my parents they kno and now i go to therapy for depression... I told a friend who told them... Tell them when yur ready as with yur friends. Maybe they did and maybe they didnt the only one out of 3 or four ppl i told ask me how im doing idk if the othr ppl are worried about me or not and stuff dont worry yu got us :)

[Aubrie]

Usually they won't tell unless they think you're going to kill yourself, but you may want to check your local laws.