My mom saw my scars today

[Belle -_-]

When my mom saw all the scars on my thigh.. she wasnt sad, she yelled at me. She scream "what the hell are those?" I said i was walking through the woods and got cut.

She makes it very obvious to me that she wants a perfect daughter. And im not even close to her 'perfect' persona.

Shouldn't she be worried when she sees the fresh cuts? That seems wrong to me

[LonelyOleander]

It could be that she just doesn't know how to handle it. You can't let other people bring you down...and if you do decide to continue cutting, use some part of your body that you can hide well. Unless you're pulling what I tried, making my scars real noticable so I could get help. Still, no one saw them.

[Weeping]

Well, she might be sad about it, it's just that she doesn't know how to react, etc. She probably don't want to see you like that, you're her daughter.

Do you think she might have had any idea about it before she saw them? Because she might just be shocked, if she thought that you were "her happy little girl", or just simply because she wouldn't expect you to hurt yourself like that.

I think it's your choice if you tell her the truth or not though, at least for now, so that you can wait until you're "ready".

:hug:

[georgiamay]

There's a chance she could be in denial. Telling herself that it's not happening and allowing herself to believe your excuses could be her way of dealing with it. Maybe if you told her how you really got the cuts/scars she'd be more concerned about it.

[Aubrie]

She's probably in denial. My mom had a similar reaction. Maybe it would help if you wrote a letter to her. Most parents don't know how to deal with it. It won't make you feel any better if she ignores it, but be sure that you're ready to tell her.

[Amaryllis]

My mother reacted the same way. It wasn't that she was in denial, she just... Didn't know how to react any other way. And your mum is probably partially angry with herself for letting this happen, and angry at you for doing such a thing to yourself.

They don't understand. If you trust and/or love your mum to some extent, you should try to explain. Even better, cry and ask for help. You know your mum best. How would she react? What should you do to get a better reaction out of her? What type of person is she? Angry? Emotional? Reserved?

Good luck, sweetheart.

[kenoloor]

Agreed with Amaryllis.
When my Mom found out that I was cutting, she didn't know what to do or say; and as humans, we get angry when we don't know what to do. We don't like to feel helpless. Also, she blamed herself for my cutting (even though she had nothing to do with it) and she was angry with herself because of that. More than anything though, she was just so sad.
Your mom might be going through the same thing? Try talking to her about it. Keeping things taboo is never effective, I've found.