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Nexus
November 1st, 2011, 02:49 AM
Simply put, things are shit at the moment.

Where do I start...

I just started university in September and so far my academic performance has been so poor that I don't even want to discuss it with my family, on any level. Not only am I reluctant to bring it up, I avoid it at all costs. Every time the topic comes up, and believe me, it happens quite often, I change the subject. This, more often than not, causes my meddling relatives to speculate that I don't really want to be in school and I'm merely wasting my Mother's money for my own gain. Does that even make sense?

I'm depressed for a variety of reasons. One being that somebody that I fell madly in love with has been progressively losing interest in our relationship. After making every attempt imaginable to rekindle things between us, sometimes even achieving moderate success in that regard, things fall to shit again. I've been made such a low priority and even though that's perfectly clear to me now, I refuse to accept it. I've always said that one can either accept the hurt that comes with the truth, or they can prolong the inevitable by remaining in denial. It seems I've chosen the latter.

I've been putting forth the bare minimum in all other aspects of life as a result of my failed relationship. It's all that matters to me. It's stupid. It's irrational and ultimately it's going to be my undoing, but I don't care. What should I do? Why am I so helpless?

Belle -_-
November 1st, 2011, 02:35 PM
Im in a similar situation in a way.

I just got expelled from school (before the new year even started) and my family couldnt make me feel like a fuck up anymore! to shorten it up... my family wants nothing to do with me anymore. my mom left papers for me about giving up her legal guadinanship with a note that said "pick someone".

I've know this guy for 5 years and i love him with all my heart. We dated but we eventually broke up because he had to move to the other side of the country. i cry almost everyday about him.

I try to always tell myself everything is gonna be alright. then listen to bob marley and the beatles. Everything will eventually work out for you and you will end up with your soul mate. try to do your best in school but it is what it is.

Nexus
November 1st, 2011, 03:26 PM
I'm sorry, Belle. My situation honestly pales in comparison to yours.

I can definitely see myself cutting all ties with my Mom and a large percentage of my relatives as soon as I can consider myself self-sufficient. They've done me an overwhelming disservice and I can't see myself having any sort of relationship with them. It seems that you and I at least have that in common.

Dark Vamp
November 1st, 2011, 04:05 PM
Hey nexus, sorry to hear about everything that is making you feel so depressed right now. Is this the first relationship that has not worked out? Sometimes we have to accept the things we can not change. Making your partner like you is beyond you. What makes you depressed is all the hopes and dreams you made with this person and now that you know there is a high chance that it wont happen it feels for you as thought the world is crashing. Its not. I know its not pleasant to deal with this, but it takes a process usually like when one of our loved ones pass away, there are steps, the first is shock/denial, 2) pain and guilt, 3) anger/bargaining, 4) depression, reflection, loneliness, 5) upward turn( your symptoms lessen) 6) working through, and 7) acceptance and hope. You have to work through this until you find another person.

As for college, you are trying hard are you not? You are not wasting your moms money, i think you are very stressed by life and perhaps you need a little break to settle down a bit and then return?

Hope you get better. You can do it!

SirentoCries
November 7th, 2011, 08:13 AM
:| No matter how, you will find someone you love again, and you are young!