Telling mom about my BDD

[BrokenButterflies]

Again, I don't really know why I'm posting this. Having no one to talk to in real life, I guess this is my best outlet :-/
Anyway, yesterday I finally told my mom that I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder. I don't really know why I told her, I mean, now I'm freaking out that she'll figure out the fact that I have an eating disorder (which I'm working my way up to telling her). She want's me to see a therapist, to which my reaction is "like hell I'm going back to a shrink!". The last time I had to go to a therapist they tried to put me on Lithium or some damn anti-depressant, which is crap because I might be a lot of things but I'm not a major depressive (as they labeled me).
Idk, I'm starting to wish I hadn't told her that. I didn't say it because I wanted to see a shrink, I said it because I wanted to be able to talk to her about it...

Sorry, there's most likely nothing anyone can say about this. Just had to vent it.

[Weeping]

Can't you try to talk to her about the fact that you just wanted to be more "open" about it with her? Meeting a therapist might work (even if it didn't last time) but she shouldn't force you to do so, try to explain it to her. (:

:hug:

[BrokenButterflies]

I am/did. She says that people only feel that way if there is something really wrong (she wasn't trying to be mean, just honest), and that she really wants me to see a shrink over it...She probebly wont make me, she never has before :(

[FuzzyLittleNightmare]

Why don't you try telling her that part of BDD is being uncomfortable talking about your body. I also have BDD and for a girl who never cries, I come close when someone tries to make me talk about my body. I mean, sure maybe a therapist might help some people but if it isn't going to help you, then it is just a waste of time for you

[Amaryllis]

Psychologists and psychiatrists are two different types of people. Psychologists do not prescribe medication. I've only been on medicated for a month or so. My parents refuse to let me take medication, no matter what the professionals say.

You're going to have to go through tons of psychologists till you find the right one. I'm on my 7th and I'm still looking. I don't want to give up. It's really brave of you to seek help from your mum. I respect you so much for that. You need to keep trying, recovery is worth it. It really is. It's worth more than being skinny or beautiful.

I'd pick freedom and inner beauty over outer beauty and misery any day.

[Spook]

Even though I have never suffered through an eating disorder, I know what therapists and medication look like. I have been to therapists, and I always swore to it I would never talk to them. I felt like they were invasive, telling me and my parents things about me when they never even knew me. I always wanted to scream at them, run out of the building and yell IM NOT CRAZY. It didn't make it any better they talked to me like I was 5 years old. So sorry, I'm not here to tell stories, but I do know what you are going through. Despite the fact that I hated it, the medication prescribed to me helped alot. I was alot happier, and I was truly more independent. Medication is not to change you, just to bring you back to a normal, healthy state. Medication really helps, and I know that it can help you. I don't know what scares you about it-- if it does, but you shouldn't be. Trust me on this one, I was alot happier and more in control of my life afterwards. :)

Get well.

[BrokenButterflies]

Thanks for all the responses :) It's nice to know people actuly care enough to answer.

So I talked to my mom about it some more. She says, for now, she won't make me see a shrink or a psychologist, and only will if I get worse about it. And I have no freaken idea if she knows about the ED. If she does, she hasn't said anything to anyone about it...

As I said, I really appreciate your guys' feed back :)

[Abyssinian]

It sounds like if she did know about your ED she would make you see a shrink, or at least try to help you herself. Personally, if I were to have a child, friend, family member, ANYONE I knew who had an ED I would do everything in my power to make them better! No way would it be ignored.

I've seen a psychologist before and I hated it. I've never gone back, but as mentioned above, it might take some time to find a good one who "clicks" for you as someone who can potentially help you. I never bothered because I managed to help myself, and I hope you manage to do the same, whatever you decide on doing. =)

[Dancergurrl]

It's very good of you to tell your mom. It's a hard thing to do, I know. I've had anorexia, bulimia, and binge in the past 4 years alone. Still am fighting the battle, as well. Never have I had the strength to speak out and get help. I've always been too scared, too weak, too something. But seeing your post has inspired me. Maybe I won't go tell my mom this instant, but I really am going to consider it. Because I do know that I need help, regardless of whether or not I feel that I want it. Thank you for being brave enough to inspire me. Stay strong.