Jealousy? Can I fix it?

[Gummi]

I have a girlfriend, and shes the type of person that likes to talk to everyone. Shes really funny and can make the grumpiest people laugh. I don't know why, but when she talks to other guys (even ones that can't compete with me at all) I get jealous, mostly when she tells jokes and they're laughing. I love her, and she loves me, and I don't want to be jealous because I know I shouldn't be. I've been trying to fix this for a while, and it has gotten better, but I still feel a sting of jealousy when she talks to guys, especially when the guy is trying to flirt with her (she usually notices and starts talking to me instead).

I really don't want this to interfere with our relationship, so I want to fix my jealousy. If someone can help me out and give me some tips please do.

Please, I love her and don't want to lose her to jealousy. Thanks :wub:

[Amaryllis]

She isn't yours. You don't own her. Her life doesn't revolve around you, she has other people in her life, as well. Trying to put chains on her and holding on will only mean your relationship will falter. There are thousands of people in the world for her, you're only one. She chose to stay with you. Be appreciative. Let her go. Whatever will be will be. If you lose her, fine. It won't be the end of the world. If you don't, great.

[Abyssinian]

I know it's hard, but just repress it. Think about how she always comes back to you, by the sounds of it she wouldn't cheat or anything. Focus on the fact that she loves YOU.

There's nothing else you can do. I do know that jealousy and prying can drive a massive wedge in a relationship.

I'm naturally very flirty, everyone I know loves me and I'm exceedingly bubbly and happy with my friends. The last guy I was seeing made it obvious that he didn't like that.. But as far as I was concerned, it was ABSOLUTELY none of his business how I talked to my friends, and the jealousy made me feel untrusted. I had to end it on that basis alone.

Stay cool, trust her and remember that she's given you her heart as well. That should be all you need to be happy =)

[Gummi]

She isn't yours. You don't own her. Her life doesn't revolve around you, she has other people in her life, as well. Trying to put chains on her and holding on will only mean your relationship will falter. There are thousands of people in the world for her, you're only one. She chose to stay with you. Be appreciative. Let her go. Whatever will be will be. If you lose her, fine. It won't be the end of the world. If you don't, great.

I'm very aware of this. I don't act like she belongs to me. I have my friends and she has hers, and I'm aware I can't have her to myself. I let her talk to everyone, whoever she wants. I know that I can't control who she talks to and I don't want to. I am very happy and lucky that I'm with her, and I don't take it for granted at all. I give her a bunch of room and don't try to control her at all, she does what she wants and thats fine by me. Thank you for your opinion.

I know it's hard, but just repress it. Think about how she always comes back to you, by the sounds of it she wouldn't cheat or anything. Focus on the fact that she loves YOU.

There's nothing else you can do. I do know that jealousy and prying can drive a massive wedge in a relationship.

I'm naturally very flirty, everyone I know loves me and I'm exceedingly bubbly and happy with my friends. The last guy I was seeing made it obvious that he didn't like that.. But as far as I was concerned, it was ABSOLUTELY none of his business how I talked to my friends, and the jealousy made me feel untrusted. I had to end it on that basis alone.

Stay cool, trust her and remember that she's given you her heart as well. That should be all you need to be happy =)

Thanks a lot for this. I've gotten better already.

[Bob_]

Well I'll give you one simple question to keep in mind when you get jealous: Would she really cheat on you or even give you any reason to be jealous? And with that, you should be able to trust yourself and her.

[Abyssinian]

Thanks a lot for this. I've gotten better already.

Very very glad to hear it! And you're welcome xD