help for my friend?

[sammy1996]

i dont cut, but i've just found out my friend does, i've seen the cuts on her arms and i really dont know what to do, any help?
advice on what to say or anything would be appreciated.

[ryantombs]

idea... hang out with him/ her and maybe ask her or something how she is doing. if she says fine and stuff dont pressure her too much... really bad. but make sure you convey to her/ him that you are always there ANYTIME and will do anything for her/him and just basically say yu can be a true friend. and just give him/ her a loving hug.
^thats one option^
i know wen i SH it was on my leg so no one cud see but i always wished someone wud of come up to me hugged me and said i know something is wrong wat is it and you have to tell me and stuff
you can come flat out asking her/him wats going on i see scratches or something and just say that your worried and stuff
but if they say dont worry about it... dont pressure just make sure your there supporting him/ her... sorry if its a bit confusing
just two options

[Ambrosia]

In all honesty, I think things like this are best handled in two different ways. Depending on how close you are to this friend, of course.

If you are good friends, then mention it. Be kind, don't threaten to "stop being friends" with them or to hurt yourself if they do it again. Offer to be a shoulder of support to them when they want to cut. Ask why they do it. But nice.

If you are just acquaintes, then ignore it. You could probably make it worse by bringing it up to someone who you don't really hang out with that often.

[AlmostHomeless]

One of the most important things to remember when confronting someone about this is to do your best to not look like you are overreacting or mad. Try not to get frustrated and if there is something you don't understand try to talk it out. The worst thing that could happen is getting mad or upset at the person, which adds to the stress that is already present.

Suggesting the idea of getting help is okay as long as you don't make it seem like the only choice. It is important that she feels (and is) free to decide her course of action.

Good luck.

[StoppingTime]

If you two just happen to have the same class/es together, then I wouldn't do it. Usually, anyone who self-harms only wants people extremely close to them knowing about it; they try to keep it private. However, if you know what they is going through, and know enough to help them, then it is OK.

Don't try to put pressure on him/her. It can be really hard for someone to stop. Especially if this person has never told anyone before. It will be hard for them to adjust to you helping. Make sure that you are comfortable talking about it. Don't over react, and just be patient and listen.

Also, if you think it is necessary, ask the person if they think they need to see a professional. Don't push this idea though, if they say no, sony bring it up a lot.

Good Luck!

[sammy1996]

its ok now i hope anyway, me her and her BF were all talking about it, she knows were here for support and she promised up to stop and she seems happier now.
i know shes gone through alot recently and i hope she sticks to her promise.