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james95lol
October 28th, 2011, 01:14 PM
I got dumped a few weeks ago and everyday since I've been heartbroken. sorry for the life story, no hating replys please! im not posting for sypmthy or anything it just makes me feel better typing how i feel, gets it off my chest.

i knew her for ages before we went out and we wasn't just bf and gf we were best mates. we both wasn't very popular so we just kinda had each other we bother we very clingy together and we saw each other everyday. we ended out going out for around 2 and a half years through two years of school and a few weeks of college. we argued alot but we had more sweet moments than arguments.

since being at college she got in with a group of friends and said that i was too controlive because she when't out with them while i was at work and i got funny about her going cinema and sitting next to some boy she'd known for a week. she through off the handle and claimed i was stooping her having mates and being free ect when in reality i just didn't want an oppitunity for her to meet someone else because i loved her.

even if i was a bit controlling for a while i appoligsed and said i wouldn't do it again, surely this wouldn't be enough to damage a two year relationship ?
she didnt achually tell me the reasons of the break up clearly, i recon she fancys someone she meet for like a week, she says she dont love me anymore but you dont just stop loving someone after 2 years...

at the time of the break up we went to a park to talk, i being a compleat idiot got desprate and got on my kness and begged for a second chance. i told her that however id upset her in the past id make it up too her. i really did all i could for a week to get her back i bought her lunch and chocolates trying to mend something i didn't break ! after a week though she kept telling me she wanted to move on so i done what was asked and broke all contact. i was really quite emotinall about it all because we was so close :( i thought she loved me!

since the break up she flirts with all the boys in her new friend group, she seams determined on using them to get back at me even though i dont feel ive done anything (but care for someone who doesn't deserve it) i deleted her on facebook because she sends them <3 all the time and stuff and it really upsets me. she's getting comments on all her photo's .. everything i see just cuts me apart. on my friends fb i saw she wrote a status calling me pathetic i feel so confused i wasnt expecting the break up at all and i dont understand why we split; i wasnt that bad fgs! i keep debating weather to add her again so i can talk to her but she might reject the request and i'll make my self look even more stupid.

to make things worce she's got invited to a party tomorrow achually and i just know she's gonna be down some blokes throat; i keep imagening in my head her getting drunk and doing all sorts. its really messing with my head the thought of her with someone other than me. she starts her single life with her idea of fun ! FML or she'll get no intrest and want me back ? i dont know whats gonna happen.

ive been reading alot on how to deal with this sort of thing because or the geek i am lol and the advice i found is that relise she isnt perfect and try to make new friends ect these both fail coz i think back to all the times she annoyied me and i just wanna fall to pecies because id get mad over something stupid and now id do anything to be mad at her for a silly reason. i feel like this is all my fault and i have no oppitunites of making new friends.

im so alone the only friend ive got is quite heavy into drugs, i went out with him the other day but when it came to talking to him i didnt feel like i could express how i feel because he seamed off his head. he's the only mate i have really and he only goes out the where there's drink or drugs, as much as i haven't got a problem with stoner groups i dont wanna be around him all the time.

i have no avenues of meeting new people. at work everyone is older than me and they go out drinking. and at colldege I sit alone all lunch time with no one to talk to. i feel so alone, shocked and just like i want to relive my life. i wish i could rewind things to how they were.

everyone keeps telling me that im only young and i have my whole life ahead of me but i really don't know whats for me now. me and the girl i was with had our future planed out. i feel so foolish for believing she coulda been my highschool sweetheart,I feel foolish for believing she loved me. she was just a fake after all this time. if she had loved me even a tiny bit she'd try and make this work. im not sure weather to send her the link to this page or what so she knows what shes done but i recon she'd tottaly ignore it or it might creep her out. im just such a mess right now.

the was a big issue where i owed her some money and she got her dad to come to my door demanding it, but my dad kinda said politely no lol it wasn't much but it was theater tickets booked when we were going out. out of bitterness i kept the money and she kept some of my stuff. i feel bad for all this and because of her dads involvement my parents hate her and her parents hate me. I don't think theres any chance of us getting back together and even if we did i dunno if id be able to be happy because she might drop me again.

i wish i could type this much for my homework lol, if you read the lot then thanks i appreciate it. this post is really unstructured lol this was suposed to be the end!

she hurt me so bad that i had a day where i thought about finding a nice big train to hug but thinking about it and achually doing it are two seprate things; i dont think id go that far. nevertheless my heart is broken really bad, i guess i just wanna hear from people that its normal the way i feel and how to overcome it. i need advice on what to do, i canrt stop thinking about this girl. i hate her so much because of all this but i still want her. i'm sacerd that i wont love or trust anyone else again. :(

i know some boys who get dumped are like all girls are who*es; i dont hate girl's in genral because of this ive seen what boys can do to a girls heart; i dont understand how anyone can be so cold. when im over her i want to find a nice girl whom aint gonna do this to me, but with the way things are now days most girls get new bf's everyweek .. im not sure whats gonna happen i know its a cliche but i feel like ima be lonely forever.

what do i do with my life? im stuck indoors on a friday night no one to talk to. my family are great, my mum works alot and they cartn be there all the time when i need a friend. i wish i could see the future ... i dunno what i expect from this but someone tell me what to do ? and that i'll be alright? thanks :(

james95lol
October 28th, 2011, 01:36 PM
I couldnt help it .. i sent her a message on facebook saying i miss her :( i just hope she feels the same way :'( arghhh why has life got to be like this. got my whole life ahead of me ? that aint such a good thing if life can mess you over like this

Jupiter
October 28th, 2011, 01:39 PM
Hey man. I know it seems like things won't get better, but you'll find someone new. Don't worry, everyone goes through these.

Mr. Awesome
October 28th, 2011, 01:41 PM
Wow what a shitty thing to happen to you, sorry to hear your in so much pain.

If i could suggest anything for you to do to get over her is to find some project to, build something, create something, immerse yourself in a book.

I wish i could say youll get over it in a few days but unfortunatly no one knows how long it will take. If thoughts come into your mind of her just try and remember the good times (sounds bad but atleast you will be in somewhat of a positive mood).

They way she went about braking up with you is totally wrong. She should not of called you pathetic but maybe this is her way of getting over you, her way of breaking contact.

Maybe you could join a club or society in your college when you feel up to it, They accept knew people all through the year, It will allow you to make new friends and do something that you enjoy while also taking your mind off you ex-girlfriend

As for what can you do on a friday night- there will always be someone here on VT to help you through anything.

Eventually things will be alright, you will move on from this, and to better things, even though you may not see it now

james95lol
October 28th, 2011, 01:41 PM
thanks so much for the reply !
I know but how ? everything seams so uncertain in life now :(

james95lol
October 28th, 2011, 01:46 PM
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Eagle63
October 28th, 2011, 03:31 PM
bro, its a post, not a book. but to answer the question that the thread title asks...

Go out with some friends and have the time of your life!

TDB95
October 29th, 2011, 02:11 PM
getting dumped sucks and even though it might feel like the end of the world its really not. just go out try and meet knew people make new friends and find new ways to keep yourself bussy so you dont think about her, it will take a long time to get over her but you will eventually but you need to stay strong and be happy :)