If anyone found out

[Megson]

(Warning: Long-ish rant. Skip to last paragraph to get to the point, if you don't like reading...)
I don't know what I'd say. How I'd explain it. I don't even hardly know why I cut sometimes.

My parents would demand an explanation, which I would not be able to give. They never understand anything I do, and cutting is something way out of reach for their minds to wrap around. I wouldn't say they're narrow-minded, per se...but maybe slightly closed. They don't try to and don't want to learn about something outside of their comfort zone.

They'd probably just tell me to stop cutting and be done with it. Take away my razors, maybe, and keep an eye on me. Demand to know WHY.

Like I could ever explain it. Why tell someone something they don't want to know? What right do they have to know? Yes, I'm their daughter. But I AM my own person. If I don't want to tell them, or explain my motives, why should I?

Okay, to SUM this up: How in the world do I explain my SH to my non-understanding parents if they found out? AND why should I tell/explain it anyways? (Don't give me the obvious answers of 'they're your parents' and 'they'll find out anyways' and 'you need help.' I've heard them all and it's not enough.)

[sarah newman]

To be completely honest, your parents would be worried sick if they saw cuts on your body. The would wanna know why you do it because there worried. They might act unsupportive because they don't know how to handle it or they haven't dealt with a situation like this before. Yes, it isn't them going through what your going through, but your there daughter and they would be so scared.
If they saw cuts then you need to tell them the truth- save them the stress. Saying "I got cut on a holly plant" or "some wood from where I was climbing the trees scratched me" is all okay saying, but what would you say next? You will eventually run out of excuses and that's if they believe the excuses you make. You must tell them so you could talk to someone. They might pleasantly surprise you on how supportive they are. I know you don't want to hear this but I think you should seek some sort of help- even if it is talking to someone- because then your parents won't smoother you and be worried sick, and you won't have to worry about hiding them. There are plenty more ways to cope with what your going through, you just gotta find the right technique.
And yes, it is normal to cut and not really know why you do it. Or you might be doing it for a reason that isn't yet obvious.
Stay safe. Pm me whenever you want, I'm always here to talk. Don't cut to bad, save yourself the emotional/physical pain. Good luck with what you decide.

[ryantombs]

I understand kind of what your going through. I told a friend and all i got was a yur stupid but then out of anger i said do yu kno wat pain yu have tO be in this. She then preceded to cry and stuff butthen she told her parents who told mine. Long stOry short i have to go to therapy. But like before tht i saw my GP and he kdpttalking bout suicide and my parents tell my therapist like stuff how they are worried im suicidal. I nvr told or talked to my parents bout it but i wish they and my friend read up on it before taking action. It gets me so mad. But i stopped im 2 weeks clean:)

And i didnt tell my parents as yu kno but honestly this therapist is truely helping me with all aspects and stuff i alwaysthought i was a deep kid but shes really pullin stuff outta me. So in the end my parents finding out is helping me. Even tho i stopped befpr they found out. I hope this answers yur question and i agree wit the above poster lol
-ryan

[Sadworld]

I agree with sarah on your first question. Truth is the best explanation. Although when you are not willing to say the truth or you just don't know what the truth is, I think telling them that you haven't been all too well lately and you want to sort some things out before telling why you cut should work. But be warned they would yell, demanded explanations and reasons. It will be tough and triggering. Helps to think that they are just worried, scared and angry but honestly, it is not that comforting.

I'm not saying you should excuse yourself from telling them. They need to know but not right now, not right in the time where things are all stressful. Just promise them you'll tell them when you are ready and don't forget that promise.


Why should you tell them besides the obvious reasons? Because you want them to care, you want someone, anyone to care because you deserve it. Nobody in this world, in this life, that doesn't need people, family or friends to care. Lets face it Self-Harm is about you. It's about you not being able to cope normally. It's about you feeling alone, lose and out of control. But truth is, with a little of help, you are none of these.

Hang Tough :)

[LonelyOleander]

I have the same problem. I want to tell someone, but I'm scared. And I wouldn't know how to. I have a feeling my parents would support me...but would they?

[cutie-pie]

to be honest i dont understand why parents would freak out about cutting i mean i used to do it and it feels only like a cat scratch ( well to me) its not like smoking heroin or something. i stopped though because i got sick and tired of hiding.