What to do...

[arthur1]

Hi, got a problem here...

you see, there's this girl that recently i have realised I have a huge crush on. But the thing is, we have been friends for about a year and we hang out with all the same people and all, so i'm afraid if i do anything about it it'll end up being too complicated, but I really like her alot. What should i do?

[ImCoolBeans]

Being friends first can be complicating, but it also can work to your advantage. She already knows you well, she already trusts you and I assume she likes your personality since you're friends with her. If you feel like its the right thing to do - talk to her about it. If not you could wait until you think you're ready or just let it fizzle out.

[AlexTorkin]

Yeah being friends with the girl you have a crush on can work to your advantage really well. At the same time, it might not work. It all depends on what her feelings are, and it's best to just tell her straight forward that you like her. If she likes you back, then you're all set. :) If not, and she's cool enough, just ask her if you still can be friends. Most likely she'll stay as your friend. And it does boost their self esteem when they know someone likes them, even if they don't share the same feelings. Just be sure that if you plan on telling her, you tell her alone. That's very important. If the situation has other people involved, (such as a school dance or something) then it gets awkward very fast. Believe me, I've tried it. But in general, it should work out for the best.

[Bob_]

Agreed with Alex, NEVER make a move on someone at a dance (or most school events in general). It will result in someone get very mad almost every time. But for friendship, They both explained it best; it helps with trust and personality, yet is a negative when it could easily make things very awkward. Honestly, we can't help you with most of that, but we can suggest what we believe to be in your best interest. It all depends on if you're willing to risk the possible failure and awkwardness.

[Genghis Khan]

Since you two know each other well enough already (I'm assuming since you said she's been your friend for a year) it's likely that she would have a romantic relationship with you over other guys that she's not too sure about. You've already built some sort of trust between yourselves and that's a big step already, I'd think about it a little before going anywhere with it though, just in case it doesn't turn out to be a temporary infatuation.

Good luck.

[supadupahitz]

Talk to her about it. Talking is under rated.

[arthur1]

Thanks for the advice. I'm actually thinking about talking to one of her girlfriends about it to see what they say - do you think that is a good idea?