Still having sex with my ex. Among other things

[redmann]

OK so me and by boyfriend broke up a month ago because he said it was bad timing for him cause life right now is too stressfull. but we decided to still be friends well like a week later we went on a date and then a couple of days later we went out again. So for the past month we have still been going on dates, holding hands, kissing and we still have sex, and we still tell eachother we love eachother because we still love eachother. Absolutely nothing has changed. Except we are not officially dating. Im not really sure whats going on. I asked him about it and he said he wasnt ready yet and he wants to wait until he moves out of his apartment with his friends cause they party to much and he cant focus on school. so he is going to move to a place of his own. I am just really confused. Nothing has changed and yet it is to stressful for him to be official. I havent pushed it cause i dont want to be annoying. but im just really kind of confused. Any advice as to what i should do?

[Short Circuit]

Sounds to me like he just wants all the "benefits" of being in a relationship, but none of the responsibilites that go with it.

You say he lives with other guys, do they know he is in a same sex relationship, or even do they know he is gay/bi? In either case, it just sounds to me that he is using you.

[redmann]

No he lives with two girls. Idk im just sad because i do love him. And im just confused as what to do

[ryantombs]

Talk to him it seems yur very intimate... Becuz if hes jus having sex to have sex yu shud talk to him

[Jupiter]

Yeah, you should really just sit down and talk to him.

[AmusedDJ]

FWB. nuff said

[redmann]

Fwb?

[botwa]

I guess that if you're satisfied with the things as they are then no worries.
otherwise I agree with others that this guy is just using you. break up and don't hesitate. too much hesitating makes the break up harder.

[Carlyle]

fwb means friends with benefits. Everyone else pretty much told you the rest, it seems like he is just using you.

[redmann]

As much as i hate to admit it. Everyone is probably right:-/ Ill make arrangements to just talk to him sometime this week

[Donkey]

That's probably best. When you're in any kind of intimate relationship with somebody, it is best if both parties understand completely how the other feels about the relationship otherwise you get what you've got here: a lot of confusion; I don't doubt that your ex is a confused too.

[Erii94]

i have a similar situation and really u have to sit your "boyfriend" down and talk about it or all you will do is hurt your self, im speaking from experience and the more you put it off , the more it will hurt you and i bet that is the last hting you want.
if you both are close then you should be able to have this conversation with him, make him see that you do care enough to say something and that you deserve an answer

[redmann]

Thank you everyone! So i talked to him today and he said he loves me he is just afraid of getting hurt and he wants us to be together but the timing is not good and so i told him i would be willing to be understand and wait for him but i think i will stop having sex and such and just hang out with him so i can make sure what his real intentions are i just really love him and i want to be with him...this is kind of breaking my heart. *sigh*

[syd1298]

Awkward turtle if your boyfriend finds out...!