Like a guy friend

[Apollo.]

Right so I have a problem, I have a friend who I really like I'd go as far as love, problem is he doesn't know I'm gay or bi (I'm still confused) and I don't know if he is:/. I only really see him at weekends because of schools and college and stuff, until now I have just dealt with it but like all week I think about him and just always think about the next weekend when I can see him again. Does anyone here have any advice on how I can tell if he is gay or at least tell him I have feelings for him? Sorry for the long boring story but it's just really been getting to me lately

[Jupiter]

you really need to talk to him.. just talk to him about how you feel.

[thecanjump]

You could either just ask him or tell him you are bi/gay (once you are positive you are). Try to give him hints, like make a joke.

Also try and see if he wants to Skype with you (if you both have webcams).

Good luck.

[Apollo.]

Thanks for the advice from both of you:) I really want to talk to him but I just don't have the courage, I would also hate to lose him as a friend if he didn't take it well. FML!!

[Jupiter]

If he decides you are a bad friend because of something you can't control, then he isn't the guy you should be in love with.

[Apollo.]

I know that, but I don't want to find out if he is against it. I want to be at least close friends with him. I know it sounds so stupid and pathetic but it's been really getting me down.

[Jupiter]

Just talk to him. It's the right thing to do, and you know it.

[thecanjump]

If he decides you are a bad friend because of something you can't control, then he isn't the guy you should be in love with.

This and I really like my best friend and he knows it, our friendship didn't change just because of that. You can find the courage some time I believe in you =)

[Apollo.]

Thanks again, I really hope I manage to pluck up the courage to tell him, we are at another party together this weekend I can't wait to see him already and I was with him for like hours last night I need to do something about it all I can think about is him

[Jupiter]

good luck!

[Apollo.]

Another question does anyone know how to bring the subject up? Like how will I say it I will feel so awkward and nervous:/

[Jupiter]

Just ask him about dont ask dont tell.. then take it from there.

[Apollo.]

Ok, thanks so much for all your advice, hopefully I will be able to do something about it really soon:/ Again thanks I really appreciate it

[Jupiter]

hey, its no biggy. its what we're here for. its what the environment of VT is for :)

[thecanjump]

Maybe try to tease (flirt) him and see if he is comfortable with it and if he is tell him you might have feelings for him. Or just be blunt about it (which isn't always easy but gets the point across)

[Apollo.]

Ok I'll try the more subtle approach first like flirting a bit that shouldn't be to hard, we are really like inseparable at parties and stuff so maybe if I'm drunk one time I might just hit out with it and hope for the best. I'm still really confused about everything at the moment though so I think it's best if I wait before doing anything to serious hopefully this phase will pass and I can go back to just loving him as a friend:/ Thanks again to both of you for the help it's helped clear up some thoughts a little