i cant stop

[ReasonsForWeeping]

i cant stop i want but i need it i cant stop burning myself how do i take someones hand for help if a cant stop on my own i dont want to disappoint but i feel like if i stop ill lose myself and i know i need to but will i lose myself in the process?

[Jupiter]

Have you heard of the butterfly project?

[ReasonsForWeeping]

i tried it and failed

[Jupiter]

how long did you work on it?

[ReasonsForWeeping]

a day

[ReasonsForWeeping]

and im gonna be a god mother

[Jupiter]

A DAY?! listen, you gotta slow down. projects take time..

[ReasonsForWeeping]

i know and i need to quit if im gonna be kays baby god mother

[Jupiter]

good.. good. at least you know that something is encouraging you.

[StoppingTime]

Try the butterfly again. Just because you didn't get past a day, doesn't mean you failed.
It isn't ever easy to just quit and say, "that's it, not one more cut"
But yes, it is good to have a really good reason for stopping. This will always be easier to follow than just willpower an positive thinking.
If you need to talk to someone, I'm always here.

[ryantombs]

Thts good now yu have something you want to stop for. I feel this is one of the most major things you need besides own will power. Try butterfly again and the way i think of everything is its a game everything you do is just a game life is a game with say god or who ever. You have to be mentally tough to win. I always say mind over matter. Dont think wont do. (yes i know triggers and easier said then done) but i cut too. Im clean for basically two weeks or so. The way i am beating it is by music drawing writing feelings. DONT STOP COLD TURKEY. its to hard try weening off. Ok well i cut myself 7 times a day for the next week it will be 5 times every day or every other day. I did. My thumb nail into my othr finger. Does it draw blood or even close no but it stillgives me tht sense of pain tht i need to calm down. Plus i can do it in front of anyone anytime and no one nitices no scars but even that im slowly stopping. Will i ever get rid of triggers as of now no im still triggered but i think of the people i will let down if i do it again and then i think of this quote THE MAN WHO SAYS HE CAN AND THE MAN WHO SAYS HE CANT ARE BOTH RIGHT. say yu can yu can beat this addiction put yur mind into it start today slowly ween off. You have all of VT behind but we cant help yu if yu cant help yourself. Hun do it for us. Hell do it for a pet. Jus someone or something you dont want to fail. Believe in your heart and mind that you want to stop and you will stop believe it convince yourself and hun you will slowly stop:)
Also another quote i kno deals with success- you will succeed if and only if you want to succeed as much as you want to breath.
Hun do it for me or faithandtrust or bogumil or stopping time (sorry the peoplr who i remembered and stood out in my mind) i can gaurentee they are worried about you and want you to stop:)
I hope this helps
Love,
Ryan

[ReasonsForWeeping]

thAnks its just i have such a hard time opening up an expressing how i really feel b/c of my mother ... long story i just ended up not trusting b/c of that

[davinabenet147]

I also can't stop myself when I start eating but it happens that I stop my own and i do relax for some time because of the disorder of eating I have gain a weight alot now i am trying keep myself away from eating too much.

[Amaryllis]

The butterfly project didn't work for me, either. There was no one I could envision the butterfly to be. Some things don't work for everyone. We're all different and unique in our own way. Some people need to be helped with gentleness and patience, some by having no one and some with strict determination and brutality. That's what people need to learn to understand.

You can't group cutters into one. We're not the same. What we do on the outside is just that, the outside. On the inside, we are different. Different recovery methods work for different people.

Sweetheart, no one can help you but you. We can't take the blades from you and expect that to be it. We can't carry you through it all. In the end, only you can do this for you. Contrary to what most people say, life doesn't get better. Well, not unless you do all the hard work and make it so. You choose to wake up tomorrow and smile or wake up tomorrow and cry.

You have a choice here. You can't change what anyone else does but you can change how you react to situations like that. Cutting and burning are both horrible. I used to burn and it got to a point where it was -ugly-, like those holes in your skin? Absolutely repulsive.

Some feel the rain and some just get wet. Be the former.

Love,
Faith and Trust

[Wintergirl_80.0]

I understand you completley hon.