Do you ever feel guilty?

[FullyAlive]

I feel really guilty for what I do, and by that I mean throwing perfectly good food away or purging what I ate. I mean my mother spent money on it and it goes to waste. I feel horrible knowing I do that whilst others starve, but I can't bring myself to eat it either. But it really gets to me :/
Is it normal to feel bad about this?
And is there anything anyone could suggest to stop me feeling just so guilty?

[Timmy93]

Don't feel bad I feel at times I'm getting fat but if you're hungry you're hungry..you have all your life to gain and lose weight so beat yourself up over one meal.

[FullyAlive]

Either I'm not taking your comment the right way, or you didn't understand what I was asking.

I'm not talking about eating too much... I'm talking about throwing stuff away and the guilt I associate with that?

[Timmy93]

I know exactly what you mean I'm saying don't be guilty oer hat just save it if you feel guilty and eat it later

[Amaryllis]

Don't feel bad I feel at times I'm getting fat but if you're hungry you're hungry..you have all your life to gain and lose weight so beat yourself up over one meal.

I know exactly what you mean I'm saying don't be guilty oer hat just save it if you feel guilty and eat it later

She has an eating disorder. It isn't that she just feels bad about wasting food, it's that her mother is forcing her to eat. Eating disorders don't allow you to -not- beat yourself up over food. Given the choice, she probably wouldn't eat at all or just purge everything. Which would mean she would be dead.

Sweetheart, I understand completely. I used to do all sorts of things to make it look like I was eating when I really wasn't, like tucking stuff underneath my plate, napkins, "accidentally" dropping them onto the floor and hell, I shouldn't be giving you all these tips. THEY ARE NOT TIPS. Don't do it. It'll make life worse and make you feel even more guilty than you already do.

You can't lie and hide forever. Is this how you want to live for the rest of your life? Hiding, wasting, lying, suffering, puking, hating, crying? This isn't the life you asked for so this won't be the life you'll live.

It's difficult and it'll be like, 2 steps forward, 2 steps back, 1 step forward, static, 2 steps back, 6 steps forward, 1 step forward... You just gotta keep going. One day you'll get there. Don't give up. Recovery is worth it.

Love,
Faith and Trust

[FullyAlive]

She has an eating disorder. It isn't that she just feels bad about wasting food, it's that her mother is forcing her to eat. Eating disorders don't allow you to -not- beat yourself up over food. Given the choice, she probably wouldn't eat at all or just purge everything. Which would mean she would be dead.

Thankyou I was finding it difficult to explain, and I guess you're right with the second part.

Sweetheart, I understand completely. I used to do all sorts of things to make it look like I was eating when I really wasn't, like tucking stuff underneath my plate, napkins, "accidentally" dropping them onto the floor and hell, I shouldn't be giving you all these tips. THEY ARE NOT TIPS. Don't do it. It'll make life worse and make you feel even more guilty than you already do.

This is exactly what I do, I make it look like I eat. And then I have to feel twice the guilt first for eating something and second for wasting the majority. It'd be so much easier if people just wouldn't force me to eat meals with them, I know that I need to eat, but if I could just eat the amount I wanted then there wouldn't be any waste and I wouldn't have to feel bad about it.

Thankyou for your reply, it's easier to know other people have felt this too. Thank you :)

[Amaryllis]

I +repped you, by the way. For opening up and having the guts to ask for help. Few people can do that.

Sweetheart, people can force-feed you, put you on a drip, dump you in a psychiatric ward but if you don't want to recover, you won't. You alone choose to beat this eating disorder. You choose to be stronger than those voices in your head. No one can beat this for you except yourself. They can encourage and give you a push the right direction but you -have- to want this bad enough.

Do you really want to live like this forever? How painful and miserable is this life you're living? It doesn't have to be this way. Read my guide to EDs? It's a sticky. It's quite long but it's worth a try. Good luck, hun.

Love,
Faith and Trust

[Fiction]

I thought I was the only one :P

I don't have any solutions, but yeah you're not alone, I get this too.

[davinabenet147]

I feel sorrow whenever I fight with my own brother I feel really guilty and tease myself and also use to harm my own body with sticks and also feel guilty when I do something wrong.

[Love.Hate]

I feel guilty all the time, more so when you watch these children starving in other countries. Don't worry, like everyone has said your not alone.

The only way I can feel any less guilty is by thanking mum lots for the food, I know that may sound odd.. But to me at least she knows I was grateful for it :)

[SWMG]

Just try to think, that it is the normal thing to do, all humans NEED to eat in order to survive it is not a privilege or something that you earn. And yes your mom spends time and money in it besides that it is you who benefits from it.

[BrokenButterflies]

I think that's fairly normal...I am that way too. when this whole thing in africa was going on in the news a while ago, I felt so bad for throwing away my diner, what would any of those poor people have given for that? But no, I just throw it away...
And I also feel guilty for looking at people that are an inch from death and wishing I looked like them.
Sorry, that didn't help you at all :(

[Triceratops]

Yeah, I did all the time.

I felt bad about killing myself with it too.