I hate my roommate

[ShatteredGlass]

I can't stand my roommate. I don't like her I don't like her I don't like her! She is inconsiderate! So inconsiderate! She talks to loud and she doesn't even like me. You can smile in my face but I can read the signs. When you go everywhere with everyone else and surprisingly seem to forget about me? The person about 2 feet away from you? Well then....well then...well then....I'm so sick of not getting what I put in...I hope she gets kicked out the program and now I'm mad at me for not acting like I should!

[Jagador]

You make it seem like its each others job to involve each other in the activities you do with other people just because your roommates. Don't bother. If you can't get along, then make due with it and put on a fake face. When people see that their mere presence irritates them, they will do everything in their power to make you more pissed. Alternate solution is to talk to her seriously and resolve the issue of why you two can't get along.

If you live in dorms on campus, you can talk to the supervisor of your dormitory and have her resolve it. If you aren't in dorms and you live in a apartment or something, then im sorry, you just have to either put up with it or come to a neutral agreement

[ShatteredGlass]

I know that! I was just venting sheesh! And our situation is more complicated then simply a college dorm.

[Jagador]

My apologies for showing concern and attempting to give you aid. Since you did not need it, then that is perfectly fine. Best of luck to you

[Jupiter]

im sorry to hear that.

[Donkey]

Education -> Family and Friends

[ShatteredGlass]

Dude you didnt give me any help...

And thank you for your sympathy! I'm working on not being so annoyed but its hard when we go to the same school and the same community sevrice and the same language courses....grrr

[Ambrosia]

Lets keep this friendly, shall we? No need to bash peoples attempt to help.

In all honesty, there is no need to involve each other in every activity that is found. Being roommates means you are roommates, and nothing more, usually. If you do not have a standing friendship with the person then it is just a give-in that there won't be any friendly outings with them any time soon. You have your friends, and she has hers. You two are probably just very different people. It would be a totally different thing if you two were friends, but since you are not, then there shouldn't be any reason for you to invite her anywhere or the other way around unless you are looking for companionship with her---which you have said you are not---

If you can not get a room change then just try and grin and bare it, it won't last forever. Sometimes just ignoring a person who is completely distasteful and annoying is the best choice. Be friendly, of course, to their face. Smile if they greet you, greet them if they smile, the works. You just aren't expected to engage any further than that. Share the room, and that's it. Since it seems you have some sort of an arrangement that is far different from college, that is all you can do. If she is a complete bitch to you no matter what, confront her. Tell her straight up, "Listen, I don't like you any more than you like me. Let's just ignore each other and get threw this year without killing each other. Okay? Good." And then walk away.