Question for girls.

[TheGangstaSheep]

I'm not stereotyping here but why do girls always date the "badboys" and yet the people with a mind and are deeper always get left in the dust? The worst part is that these girls see that they're always being hurt by these guys and yet never give the average guy a chance. Unfortunately with school it seems everything is sorted by the social hierachy and when you're not too high on it, you get left behind.

Thanks, Cihan/Turk.

[Riaa]

Well, my opinion is that some girls want to be protected, which they think can be achieved by dating a "bad boy." Personally, I think a kind-hearted gentleman is a billion times more protective, but some or those guys tend to be shy, so when a girl wants a boyfriend, she goes for the other type that will gladly take any girl. Unfortunately, I'm a girl that wants a good guy, but A. those are hard to find these days and B. I'm super duper shy. Hope this helped!!

[TheGangstaSheep]

You're certainly right about nice guys being shy. I'm extremely shy and it doesn't help that I suffer with social anxiety :P I struggle to talk to any guy who I wouldn't consider a friend but I can't even say a word to a girl I don't know

[LuckyLuke]

It seems to be that way....


I'm certainly not a "bad boy" by any means but I'm fairly nice, confident, etc. I have no fear in speaking to girls.

I don't know what the hell it is but it's really tempting to put up an a*hole facade in effort to get a girl; I'm sure it's passed by every "nice guys" mind.

[TheGangstaSheep]

Yup, I suppose it is. In the end, if you're changing yourself for a girl then that girl probably isn't right for you. Well that's how I feel about it.

[kuperman11]

dont get the bad boy idea but really im not shy (ok a little) but still i get over taken buy the ones with lots of muscle and the "badboy" attitude

[KatieBaby]

I'm not really into the bad boy type. i dont like guys that are full of themselves or show off alot (a little is ok haha). im even into kinda nerdy guys sometimes, it depends on the personality. shy guys are cute, i dont mind that at all. but i dont like guys who are mean or act mean to people.

[Smith98]

I've noticed this too. I'm sick of hearing girls complain about their bf when he's an a$&hole. I like nice guys myself

[adrenaline500mg]

I don't even know what type i go for. I go for the metalheads. Or juggalos. They usually carry around knives. One even wore a trench coat all the time.. But i notice that with they're friends they're confident, make jokes, tough. Around me they because soft and loving/caring. I think i date guys in the middle of bad boy and nice guy.

[zerosix22]

I've noticed this too. I'm sick of hearing girls complain about their bf when he's an a$&hole.f

totaly agree to this.

[avater159]

You're certainly right about nice guys being shy. I'm extremely shy and it doesn't help that I suffer with social anxiety :P I struggle to talk to any guy who I wouldn't consider a friend but I can't even say a word to a girl I don't know

Yeah i know how that feels im the same way.

[otrapersonak2nosabes]

I think what girls like is confidence, not ban boy types. It just so happens that bad boys have a bunch of confidence. Not that im a bad boy, but I have come to find that acting a bit rude and cocky gets a girls attention a lot easier than the submissive nice guy routine

[Kimy]

I'm not into those 'bad boy' types but they're normally the only ones who ask to do anything with me, if some of you good guys just came up and asked me to go out with you or whatever i'd probably be very happy to agree.

[supadupahitz]

I'm quiet, and it gets confused for shy alot, but I'm not shy. The loud mouths or "bad boys" get more attention, but the attention usually doesnt last as long. To me, the girls that go after the "bad boys" usually aren't what quacks my duck anyway.

[Haleyzmont]

Im a girl and i dated only 1 bad boy but that was because i wanted to be cooler (stupid) but then when we brokeup a few moths later i dated a kind guy and i seriously believe girls should date kind and funny boys

[scott757]

The age old riddle of my life :what::what::what:

I go to a school where there is a 75-25 split between "badboys" and "nice guys". I personally am a "nice guy" I am not so much shy as nervous. If you get to tallk to me you will probally realise that I would be great to be with (great sense of humour, talklative, smart, abitious, always happy, no matter what) but if you would pass me in the hall in school you would probally say I was shy and quiet. I really am one of those people who you need to know to know what I am really like. I'm sure if some girls just stopped and spoke to someone like me for five minutes they would probally find a long-term relationship. Instead of going out with a "badboy" for two weeks and saying he is the one and breaking up, being heartbroken just to start that process again the next day witch is just stupid.

Only exception though, girls who are "orange" (a.k.a half a tub of fake tan on their face) really are a turn off to me.

[nath0]

The age old riddle of my life :what::what::what:

I go to a school where there is a 75-25 split between "badboys" and "nice guys". I personally am a "nice guy" I am not so much shy as nervous. If you get to tallk to me you will probally realise that I would be great to be with (great sense of humour, talklative, smart, abitious, always happy, no matter what) but if you would pass me in the hall in school you would probally say I was shy and quiet. I really am one of those people who you need to know to know what I am really like. I'm sure if some girls just stopped and spoke to someone like me for five minutes they would probally find a long-term relationship. Instead of going out with a "badboy" for two weeks and saying he is the one and breaking up, being heartbroken just to start that process again the next day witch is just stupid.

Only exception though, girls who are "orange" (a.k.a half a tub of fake tan on
their face) really are a turn off to me.

Same.... Agree. On the fake tan also lol :D

[aperson444]

Yea, I've always wondered this. I'm really, really shy. More shy than usual (i.e social anxiety shy), but I really don't want to be. Talking to girls seems so difficult to me because there's so many factors you have to take in like body language, tone, actual content and stuff like that. You also have to maintain a consistent image and be somewhat within social norms. The same applies to guys, but it's not as hard because I can say soemthing totally random or crack a joke or something. I've almost tried to become a "bad boy", but I still fail miserably at it (i.e get in trouble, act like an asshole, etc etc). It didn't work so I just kind of gave up trying to talk to girls -- at least from a relationship/dating/attraction perspective.

I've heard about the whole confidence thing a lot, and it is pretty true. A lot of the guys who end up with a lot of girls are extremely cocky or at least sort of loud and extroverted (so they know a lot of people but only have a few really good friends). I've noticed that people who aren't well connected socially (close circle of good friends) and more introverted tend to get fewer girls.

[Bob_]

Here's what I've noticed... Sure, most girl say they'd rather date the nice guy, yet ALWAYS end up going for the bad boy guy. It's what happened to me, and that sucked. I'm rarely shy with people, unless I like a girl. Then, I get soo nervous around her, I can't even initiate a conversation most of the time. It really bothers me, especially since they usually end up going for the guys who just found out they exist when the girl just spent so much time trying to talk to him. So, I just wish I could talk to that girl, and I wouldn't want it to end like they normally do.

[otrapersonak2nosabes]

I just wanted to offer advice for the " shy guys". I used to be the exact same way. I didn't want to even speak. But here's what helped me. I found a group (not school friends) who supported me and they were app older. They became my friends. And I i realized. Who I am in one situation isn't who I am in another. When you're shy its because you think about your own limits. Never think "who am I to speak to this person". It will never work. Just think. Wow. I like this person. I want to know more about them. Let me speak to them. It really helps to just drop that comfort zone of friends we grow with. It changes everything...