Too young?

[Jordan1234]

Hi, Well i am in relationship with girl younger than me. I am 13 and she is 12. And we only kissed.

So do u think we shall do some sexual? Like masturbating together or oral, idk she is young i think maybe she will scared idk. Maybe she dont masturbate!

[StoppingTime]

I think that relationships at this age are pointless. Where is it going to go? Do you guys really love each other? I just dont see how it's possible at that age. I definitely wouldn't do anything sexual with her, unless she asks. She's only 12! Just a week ago you were talking about being with a girl who you "loved". Is this her?
Again, I really wouldn't bring it up to her. You are too young, and so is she.

[Kujiro]

I would not splash to say that a relationship is pointless, but do take it as a learning experience for both you and your partner.

Its better to conduct it without the sexual element, as her being only 12, its likely you would be getting yourself in trouble with the law.
A relationship can be lead in a healthy way, just with strolls in the park, mutual respect and understanding.

It would be hard to achieve them considering the age she and you are in, but as ive mentioned, she is not the only girl in your life, as you are not the only guy in hers.
Take it a step at a time and conduct it with respect.
Kissing is fine, and as far as it is, you too know which are the boundaries you should not cross.

Even if she is to make the first move, its always better to stop her progression and educate her what can be done now and what can be done later.


Good luck
*smile*

[StoppingTime]

I would not splash to say that a relationship is pointless, but do take it as a learning experience for both you and your partner.



You honestly think, at 12 and 13, the relationship has a chance of going anywhere? I just can't see this being possible. It's obviously fine to be good friends with her, but to call it a relationship, I don't know...

[Kujiro]

Its not entirely impossible, im no expert and guess im far from one, but im 13 and conducting a relationship with someone at 14 now, and its working out pretty ok.

There are still the ups and downs, the arguements and the sexual advances.
Regardless of the age, theres something which can be learned from every relationship.
It may not get far, but as ive mentioned, its a journey not a goal.

Falling is common but we cannot rule out that its totally not viable.

[StoppingTime]

I can see the point. I just wouldn't go too far with her. Just be friends, and as you get older,see where it takes you. I'm 13, and I just don't see how I would want to be in a relationship and actually have it go somewhere.

[kuuliluuk]

As much as I have read most teen realtionships won't last long. Don't ask too many questions. Feel what is right for you. Talk with your gf., and be open minded with her. Be respectful toward her whatever she likes or doesn't like. And then you shouldn't feel false quilt.

[TrevorTime]

Yeah, kissing is okay, but I wouldn't go beyond that. You guys are way too young to be having serious sex.

[Shenron]

My two cents: You have yet to cross the line, but you are a frog hair away from stumbling to the other side. At your age there is no reason to be thinking of a relationship. I'm not going to preach the no sex thing, but you should listen to those who have. What I am going to say is this, a relationship at your age has a 99% chance of failing. There is no need to put yourself through that. Hell, even at my age or a little bit older, relationships are a bad idea. They cause stress and pain and they rarely do any good. People care nothing about whether they hurt you or not because they didn't realize what they were getting into when they became your significant other. Unless the both of you are extremely mature, this will end badly.

[ImCoolBeans]

You honestly think, at 12 and 13, the relationship has a chance of going anywhere? I just can't see this being possible. It's obviously fine to be good friends with her, but to call it a relationship, I don't know...

If it makes them happy and they enjoy each-others company then why shouldn't they?

[AllThatYouDreamed]

Woah man, slow the fuck down.
First off. She's 12. I'm not saying 12/13 together is wrong, I'm saying you need to make note that she's younger than you and *probably* hasn't had enough sex-ed pertaining to her own body [girls rarely do]

Are you able to talk to her about it? If *you're* too awkward to, then the answer is gonna be wait. If she is, then it's still wait. that's the thing w/sex. You HAVE to be able to both talk about what's going on, and what you'll be doing, and where your limits are, and understand that if you're told to stop you STOP.

Not gonna tell you to not do anything under any circumstances. I'll admit I've been messing around a bit *probably* a touch younger than most people would consider normal, but we also were able to be clear about what was gonna go on.

Also. ffs. Keep it somewhere private. Groping in public is a bad thing. Someone's bedroom, or somewhere equally private to the rest of the world [NOT A PUBLIC BATHROOM, common sense plz&ty]

[Maxxie]

I think preaching the whole "no-sex" thing is the way to go... It's fine to have a relationship, but the line at your age is blurred as to what's acceptable and what's going too far - you are just reaching puberty and she hasn't yet even thought of (much less reached) a decade and a half. To put it bluntly... SHE'S TWELVE. Leave it at a relationship, don't push her and don't be pushed. You've got a lot to live for, and love at this age is as fleeting as can be - fucking it up (pun intended) with sex is not worth it and could destroy both of you.

[Jupiter]

Actually... When I had my first kiss, I was 13, and she was 12 :) I don't think you should push it....