I want to make friends but i'm scared to

[tav18]

I feel as if I'm anti-social and i don't know what to do with myself I feel like others might think of me as weird person to talk to. I'm a quite person in my class which I've now noticed has added to the problem and on the other hand I've never had any real friends. My mom says I'm a conservative kid and not many kids my age aren't the conservative type. My sister who is 22 now has a bit of the same problem and hope I don't end like her. the thing is there aren't many kids that are on my level and that makes it difficult for me find a friend to start with. The kids in my class mostly talk about stupid stuff but I was always the one who talked about the things that made sense. Being on this computer right now makes me feel comfortable because I'm afraid to meet someone face to face and I don't have to worry about being nervous. But in the real world It's like I not an interesting person I feel myself at times I'm not that interesting. I don't go outside, I don't play sports or any of the stuff that normal teenagers do I just stay in my own little world. I'm starting to fell even more upset with myself because i fell I don't have a fun life like other kids do right now I'm starting to tear because I feel like a failure and that I wasn't ment to have a perfect life I'm sorry if this is long but don't bash me on it because I only want positive responses right now.

[Shenron]

There are a good number of teens like us. We are mature, we like to talk about things that actually mean something, and we don't like stupid people. This makes it hard for us to find people our age to talk to, much less find friends. I know it can be hard sometimes, but you just have to try and find someone on your level. Try making friends with older people, I find that they usually have something more relevant to say.

Let me know if there is anything else I can do for you.

[tav18]

Thanks, it's nice to know that there are people out there that deal with some of the same problems.

[AppealToReason]

I feel this way too. I really hate talking to anyone I don't know and choose to stay home rather than go places, so I'm seen as boring. Sucks, but it's my fault.
There really isn't an easy way around these nerves (that I know of...) except for talking to people who enjoy the things you do. I know, easier said than done, but sometimes you just have to put yourself out there. Join clubs that interest you and see if you meet anyone you like. Some of my best friends came from things I enjoyed doing like band or gaming. Hell, some of my friends were even the ones who talked about stupid stuff to other people, but had mature conversations with me. Don't forget that it's fine to have stupid conversations sometimes. You don't have to be mature all the time. :P
Point is, you've got to take some risks and just talk to people.
This probably sounds like I'm rambling or a bit hard to understand, so I apologize. Bit sick tonight.

[Slytherin_Prince]

Regarding your thread,

Your problem is more common than you may think.
Many people indeed experience the same, on this site as well.
Therefore, I am sure you will be able to find support here.
As for your social awkwardness, I do not see this as a disfunction.
Social behaviour often means conformity with peers. I don't go out myself, nor do I go outside often, but my life has meaning. My academic achievements are substantial, my intelligence is above average, and so on. I am no social person at all, and I have many, many issues, but nevertheless, I will have a prosperous future. One doesn't always have to rely on others for success, as I have had to learn the hard way. Your individual is defined by you, and no one else.
As for the conversations, I could not agree more. It's hard to find eloquence among teenagers these days. Still, exceptions are always there. You just need to be open to those moments, and exploit them when they arrive.
In short, I wouldn't worry so much if I were you. Things like social contacts come naturally, they should never be forced. You probably shouldn't seclude yourself too much though, as I often do myself. Not many can handle solitude. Just live your life the way you want to.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[abdheuuuchjc]

Just be confident people always love a confident person. Even if ur not confident pretend like u r I do ever day