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[ForeverBlue]

My ex is wanting to talk to me again and be friends with me. However, he broke up with me and had cheated on me. Another issue is the fact that my friends hate him, and want to quote "punch his face in." Strangly I still want to be friends with him....

should I?:confused:

[Hyper]

Well if you will be the largest chance is that you'l end up being in a relationship again and getting cheated on for the 2nd time by the same guy

The choice is yours of course

[Hyper]

Almost all of the people who have cheated once will do it again ;P

And you'd be basicly threatening your friendship for some asshole

[ScotsGirl]

My ex is wanting to talk to me again and be friends with me. However, he broke up with me and had cheated on me. Another issue is the fact that my friends hate him, and want to quote "punch his face in." Strangly I still want to be friends with him....

should I?:confused:


Why exactly, do you want to be friends with him?

You don't need to answer on here if you don't want to, but its definately something you need to ask yourself.

Anyway, at the end of the day, Hyper is right, the choice is yours to make. Your friends just care about you, and they dont want to see you get hurt again. Im sure they will support whatever decision you make.

xxx

[dylan]

well just cause you broke up u just doesnt mean any thing i mean i feal pity on you cause he cheated on u but maybe you should try it again i mean people change. i had cheated before and i know that it was the bigest mistake that i have ever done and if he does something like talk to you about the cheating problem (and maybe you should bring it up) that tell him what it felt like to you and hell fell really bad about it and change

[Sage]

With dearest respect ForeverBlue, fuck your friend's opinion of him. You life your life, your friends dont. If you feel he is absolutely sorry for cheating, then I see no reason why you still can't be friends.

[ForeverBlue]

With dearest respect ForeverBlue, fuck your friend's opinion of him. You life your life, your friends dont. If you feel he is absolutely sorry for cheating, then I see no reason why you still can't be friends.

thanks. But I still don't know if I want to be friends with him. I mean he's a really great guy, but I don't want to lose all my friends. Then I would just be, like I was from 2nd through 4th grade, a loner.

[Sage]

If they cant accept your decision to be friends with him or not, (or anyone for that matter), are they really worthy of your friendship? I had such judgemental friends once, good riddence to them.

Besides, being a loner is only bad if you convince yourself its bad. I loved being a loner back at public school. Excuse the arrogance, but I didn't feel anybody there was worth wasting time over.

[Gumleaf]

i have a strong opinion about people cheating as it has happened in my family. i think cheating is one of the most awful, disrespectful things anyone could do to someone. if it ever happened to me i would be shattered and would find it very difficult to even face the person and speak to them. you must be very forgiving, which is a good thing, but in this case i agree with your friends. have nothing more to do with him.

[Sage]

trigger, in your situation, was the person cheating married to another person? Because cheating in marraige would obviously be far worse.

[Hyper]

I don't realy see your point Tim.. Cheating remains the same, it all depends on the person and the situation of the relationship.. But if a relationship goes bad ppl should stop it, rather than cheat on their partner

[Gumleaf]

trigger, in your situation, was the person cheating married to another person? Because cheating in marraige would obviously be far worse.

ok. to answer your question it did happen in a marriage. but i still believe cheating is cheating. i think cheating is the same whether it happens when your married or when you have a girl/boy friend when your 13. the only difference is when you are married, the situation can't just be solved by breaking up.

[RowanVer.3.0]

He's honestly not worth your time if your feelings mean that little to him.

[ForeverBlue]

I feel like I still like him, in a romantic way, which is totally wrong. I mean he CHEATED on me, but yet I still laugh and joke with him. It's just too weird.

[Gumleaf]

I feel like I still like him, in a romantic way, which is totally wrong. I mean he CHEATED on me, but yet I still laugh and joke with him. It's just too weird.

do you still love him? they say love is blind, maybe that saying is true. i still standby what i have already said (see previous post above) but in the end its up to you. you have to follow your heart. :)

[ForeverBlue]

do you still love him? they say love is blind, maybe that saying is true. i still standby what i have already said (see previous post above) but in the end its up to you. you have to follow your heart. :)

I think I do. We dated for a long time, and now...I just don't know what to do.

[Gumleaf]

ok. well these are the things i would consider:

1. do you still love him? not like him a bit or enjoy his company but actually love him?

2. is he worth it? is he likely to cheat on you again and are you willing to risk going through all the heartbreak and pain again if he does?

3. would this cost your friends? given your friends hate him, they may not stand by you if you got back together. who is more important to you, him or your friends?

hopefully by answering these questions it might make things a little easier for you in making a choice. hope you make the best decision for you!!!

[hesopchoie]

You should probably think about if you still like him or not. If you think you wont end up with him for more than a year, then its pointless. If you think its going to end up like before. THEN dont go for him. you can be his friend. but dont go farther.