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secretly_secret
October 16th, 2011, 07:18 PM
My family is Christian, and my parents strongly believe in courting.
I kinda want to be allowed to date instead, during the next couple of years.

But their idea is Courting Only! when you're 18!!!

But I think that's stupid.

Your thoughts?
Wonder.
October 16th, 2011, 07:32 PM
My friend's parents are the same way!

Really, just court, then leave. Unless your parents force you to go with some weird person. That would suck.

Or, just court. It's not nearly as bad as you'd think.

If you really want to date, talk to your parents about it. Be gentle, not aggressive. Make it more of a request than a demand. Trust me, that is one shitty road you don't want to go down.
Short Circuit
October 17th, 2011, 01:07 AM
Sorry for being stupid, but what is the difference between Dating and Courting?
secretly_secret
October 17th, 2011, 10:37 AM
Dating is when the girl and guy go out ALONE. Courting means parents are involved 24/7. I don't really mind that, minus the 24/7. I've gotta be allowed to have SOME alone time with him.

I don't even know why we won't be allowed to be alone anyway. My parents trust me.
anonymous53
October 17th, 2011, 01:48 PM
You're 13. Try speaking to them again in a year or so about dating :)
At the time, 13 years old me and my "Girlfriend" were only allowed to go out on dates with the parents there.
secretly_secret
October 17th, 2011, 02:02 PM
I meant in like 3 years. But ok.
NobodysCupOf Tea
October 17th, 2011, 02:04 PM
well personally, i still think youre quite young... so it may be acceptable for your rents to tag along. But i'd say after 15, dating is definitely okay.. but you're the one whos got to talk to your family :P
secretly_secret
October 17th, 2011, 02:48 PM
I want to start DATING at age sixteen. I mean, I'm cool with courting a little then, too, but I want to get to be alone with my guy.
anonymous53
October 17th, 2011, 03:32 PM
Your parents opinion will change by the time you're 16.
Jupiter
October 17th, 2011, 03:34 PM
I think you should be able to do what you want.
secretly_secret
October 17th, 2011, 03:43 PM
If they knew about my VT account, I'd show my parents this post.
Then of course, I joined VT for a reason I couldn't talk to anyone else about, so...
DerBear
October 20th, 2011, 01:46 PM
My family is Christian, and my parents strongly believe in courting.
I kinda want to be allowed to date instead, during the next couple of years.

But their idea is Courting Only! when you're 18!!!

But I think that's stupid.

Your thoughts?

There is also the old fashioned rules of courting. Courting does not simpley mean they are involved but they tend to be more involved.

There are like guidlines with courting where as dating is a lot more straight forward