venting

[princessjess]

so i dont know if this is exactly the right place to just vent but its the same topic so im going to.
okay so during the summer i was 8 my moms step-dad sexually abused me. he had always been a liittle too touchy for my taste but that day he was babysitting me and we were alone in my house 20 minutes from anyone in our family. and i was helping him get ourr house ready to sell because my mom dad me n my siblings were moving from michigan to tennesee. so that was pretty much the last time i went anywhere with him and i kept it to myself. i figured that i was oving 12 hours away and i would only have to see him during the summer and my momma would be there to protect em. so i told no one.
this past april i was raped. not even by some stranger. it was by my bestfriend. me and him had been on and off for about 6 months and we were great friends now. well he had to go graba change of clothes from his moms house and we were the only two there. not gonna go into details but he took advantage of me. i am a very quiet, nice, shy and caring person (not trying to sound full of myself just saying my personality from all my friends POV), but apparently im too nice. i didnt yell or anything i only got upset and i only puushed. too afrais that he would get in trouble if i yelled and someone heard and too afraid he would hurt me if i tried to hurt him. so i am dealing with that right now but i found out about 2 months ago that my moms step dad, the one who molested me, had been molesting my little sister for about 3 years. and i feel terrible now. i know that if i had said something when i was little then she wouldnt have had to go through that and i will forever be sorry for not saying anything.
and something i want to ad is that if something like this happens to you tell someone. anyone. atleast a close friend or family member. i lived for years with that haunting me and it will destroy a person inside and hurt you more than if u tell someone. people might say youre making it up when u say something but tell anyways. if not for yourrself then to protect others.

[Shenron]

Please don't feel bad for this. It wan NOT your fault. Many people, even adults, have trouble telling someone when this happens. Have you or your sister talked to your mother about what happened? If not I would bring it up. Even though it was long ago it could still help someone in the future. I hope you understand that most people in your situation would have done the same thing. Don't beat yourself up over this.

[StoppingTime]

That was not your fault. You can't be expected to be able to tell someone something like that immediately. It is incredibly hard think to do. Don't blame yourself for it. But now, do make sure you tell someone what happened, if you have not already.
I am really trying to stress this,

It is not your fault at all.

[Dimitri]

This is not your fault, don't you think that one bit, he was wrong to do any of that, you cannot blame yourself for anything. Some people can tell other people and soem just keep it inside. If you feel confortable talking to someone I would suggest you talking to a school counselor.... they are trained for things like this and if they feel you need help that is beyond what they are comfortable dealing wiht they can reffer you to someone else....

[senior.2013]

Like everyone said, its not your fault. Dont think you caused any of it. Anyone who does this is a bad person. Unless youre very comfortable and not afraid of them, you can try ti bring it up with someone to vent to.
If you need someone to talk to, all of VT is here. Im also here, check my contact info if needed.

[Jupiter]

:( hey, if you need anyone to talk to... im open.

[princessjess]

my little sister told my mom and i told her my part too. hes moved out almost completely. the only thing thats still reallllllllllllllly bothering me about this is that my gramma still talks to him and buys stuff for him and acts like nothing happened. she goes out with him and does stuff like everythings normal. which i dont get. how could u be so quick to forgive and forget something like that. how could you pick someone youre related to by law over blood?

[princessjess]

and thanks by the way guys (:

[Amaryllis]

I understand why you didn't tell. I'm in a simillar situation, except with me it's my father. I don't know if my half sister was molested as well, but she's 30 now. Don't blame yourself for not telling. It's dirty, sick, and sometimes you're just pretty damn ashamed. My father's not around any kids. So, I'm not worried so much.

I have 3 more years of this and it'll all be done and over. I don't think I'll ever speak up. It's really brave of you to. I hope your sister's okay. I hope you are. Don't let anyone hurt you and get away with it again. Forget whatever cruel things your stepdad or "friend" have said. You're an amazing, strong girl.

I have so much respect and admiration for you. All the best, sweetheart. Thank you.

Love,
Amaryllis

[Slytherin_Prince]

Jessica,

First of all, allow me to say that I am very sorry for what has happened to you.
What happened to you was terrible, and I cannot express how much respect I have for you for talking about it so openly. I know how hard that is. In fact, even to this day, I am still too weak to actually "vent" myself. That being said, I admire what you did. You can be very, very proud of yourself.

As for what has happened, I know how horrible it is. I have had...similar experiences. It will never get easy, and it will never BE easy to talk about, but at least it's in the past. Look at the future positively, and things will get better.

As for your sibling, whatever happens, keep supporting her. 3 years of molestation can wreck somebody, something I have had to find out for myself. I've tried to commit suicide twice, and the memories still haunt me to this day. Trust me whenI say that she'll need you. I do not know how old she was when this happened, and considering the psychological effects vary depending on the age it happened, my situation might not be able to compare.

Still, I respect you and admire you, and whatever you do, don't give up.
You may always message me, or my better half Amaryllis, whenever you need help. She is a great person to turn to, I can say from experience.

And on that note, I will conclude this post.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[princessjess]

I understand why you didn't tell. I'm in a simillar situation, except with me it's my father. I don't know if my half sister was molested as well, but she's 30 now. Don't blame yourself for not telling. It's dirty, sick, and sometimes you're just pretty damn ashamed. My father's not around any kids. So, I'm not worried so much.

I have 3 more years of this and it'll all be done and over. I don't think I'll ever speak up. It's really brave of you to. I hope your sister's okay. I hope you are. Don't let anyone hurt you and get away with it again. Forget whatever cruel things your stepdad or "friend" have said. You're an amazing, strong girl.

I have so much respect and admiration for you. All the best, sweetheart. Thank you.

Love,
Amaryllis


thankyou so much Amaryllis(: we are both alright now, i hope youre alright, and i pray youll have the strength to say something one day, because it does help you let it go and forget about it in the long run.
(:

[princessjess]

Jessica,

First of all, allow me to say that I am very sorry for what has happened to you.
What happened to you was terrible, and I cannot express how much respect I have for you for talking about it so openly. I know how hard that is. In fact, even to this day, I am still too weak to actually "vent" myself. That being said, I admire what you did. You can be very, very proud of yourself.

As for what has happened, I know how horrible it is. I have had...similar experiences. It will never get easy, and it will never BE easy to talk about, but at least it's in the past. Look at the future positively, and things will get better.

As for your sibling, whatever happens, keep supporting her. 3 years of molestation can wreck somebody, something I have had to find out for myself. I've tried to commit suicide twice, and the memories still haunt me to this day. Trust me whenI say that she'll need you. I do not know how old she was when this happened, and considering the psychological effects vary depending on the age it happened, my situation might not be able to compare.

Still, I respect you and admire you, and whatever you do, don't give up.
You may always message me, or my better half Amaryllis, whenever you need help. She is a great person to turn to, I can say from experience.

And on that note, I will conclude this post.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

thankyou(: she was 7-10 when it happened, and i will(: im sorry that it happened to you): and im glad you never went through with either attempt, your an amazing person. thankyou for the offer, ill keep it in mind most definitely(:
between you and Amaryllis i am close to tears because you guys gave me so much hope.
thankyou, so much,
Jessica

[xxbunkxx]

thats really bad why didnt you tell?

[StoppingTime]

thats really bad why didnt you tell?

Its very hard for anyone to just tell someone this.

[princessjess]

thats really bad why didnt you tell?

Its very hard for anyone to just tell someone this.

@xxbunkxx,
exactly what Stopping time said. it was really difficult to say anything even after 8 years. it doesnt seem like it would be something difficult to say but it is. and it also embarrassed you a little bit too, makes you ashamed. makes you feel like you must be doing something wrong, and why would anyone want to admit that. and it hard to even admit that it really did happen. thefirst reaction i had was to shove it to the back of my mind and never think about it again. i didnt when my "best friend" raped me, i told my mother that night. but, it killed me to do it. its much easier to just forget about it (or atleast attempt to), ven though it haunts you hen you dont. i hope this kinda of showed what i mean but i feel a little like im simply rambling..
Jessica

[libra210]

This isnt your fault. Dont guilt yourself because of it