my dad hurts me.

[product_of_my_parents]

i am kind of new here. i joined about a month ago but i haven't got on here much. my dad hurts me. he hits me and punches me and at night he comes into my room and molests me. i know that what he does is wrong, i know it. but i have tried to tell my school counselor and she didn't believe me because my dad is on the school board. i went to the police and told them and they came out to our house and talked to my dad. they left laughing. that night i got a beating so bad, it was horrible. i couldn't go to school for a week. no one believes me. i don't know what to do. i want to kill him but i know i can't. i don't want to go to hell. i guess what i am trying to do is ask if anyone can give me the courage to try again to get help. i have tried and it hasn't worked and i have given up hope. so i need the courage and the faith to try again i guess. but i don't know how to get it.

thanks for any help or anything else.

[Whisper]

the police in your area are horrible they should all be fired!

I'm so sorry this is happening to you
its not fair
and it shouldnt be happening
dads are supposed to be the protectors they scare off the monsters there not supposed to be one

:hug:

Hun you need to go get help go to the hospital show them your marks
Contact a womans shelter
Go to social services
Fire department

you need to get away from him push comes to shove run away go hide at a friends er something
my grandpa used to beat my mum n her lil sis they would hid in the bushes till he fell asleep
drunkin ass

I know you can do this not because of faith not because of destiny
I know you can do it because you already have you never loose courage it burns within us always
the beacon of hope never falters hun
no matter how hard they try

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Product, It isn't your fault, he's the sick pervert not you, and you have every right to feel disgusted by what he's doing, because what he's doing is disgusting! Don't ever give up hope! Help can come from very unexpected places, but that does not mean that you should give up looking for it. Tell everyone and anyone who can help, and someone will. I was, until a few days ago, in a situation like yours, minus the sexual abuse. Help will come in the end. Never give up.

PM me if you ever need to talk, I will always be open for you if you need a listening ear or a shoulder to cry on.

[product_of_my_parents]

i'm really not sure what i did to lynn. i feel bad that i made her mad somehow.

i can't leave, he would find me and hurt me even more. i can't hardly take what he does to me now.

maybe lynn was right in that i like it. if i didn't then i would work harder, fight back more, try to get help more. but then again, i am so scared to try again. i don't want worse.

i don't like it, i swear. it makes me so sad and depressed and sometimes makes me think about killing myself. but i couldn't do it.

last night was the worse. he had a bad day at work and went to the bar after. by the time he got home i was in bed. he came in and started yelling and screaming. he smelled so bad of alcohol. he screamed at me to take my nightgown off and i kept telling him no, no, no. he said i couldn't deny him this because he deserved it. he started to hit me over and over again. he ripped my nightgown off and started touching me all over. then he went in.

sometimes i pretend while he is doing it that it isn't really me he is doing it to. it is someone else and i am just watching, like a sick movie or something. i can hear him screaming and grunting and moaning, but i don't say a word. it isn't me. it isn't. it isn't.

i wish i could stop it all. i wish i could, but i can't.

[product_of_my_parents]

i might be able to go back to school tomorrow...that's a good thing.

[Ironic Infidel In England]

Yes, it is. Is there a school councilor, or someone at school you can tell?

[product_of_my_parents]

i didn't get to go back, i still have bruises showing. and no i tried telling my school counselor, it backfired on me and she didn't believe me.

[Emryl]

Those guys are freakin' idiots! have you talked to your mother? Does she beileve you? If you have any marks, you SERIOUSLEY need to show them to the police. They may beileve you. If your father is hiding any guns, blades, whips, knives, anything like that, Show that to them.
Other than that, I feel really guilty saying this but i think you should run away..... There's no point getting help since the best of the best are acting like the worst.

[product_of_my_parents]

my mom isn't around or i would tell her. that is why my dad thinks he can do this is because he doesn't have a wife to fulfill his desires. i cant run away because he would find me. iit's like this is some game to him and he refuses to lose. i hate my life right now. but it will get better, i think it has to.

[product_of_my_parents]

i wrote a letter to a therapist in my town at the hospital and told her my story. hopefully she will help me because pretty soon i am goign to kill myself.

[Maverick]

Hang on Hun. Don't kill yourself. You can get through it.

How did your counselor not believe you? What happened? What did she say? Did you show your bruises? School counselors are supposed to take these cases seriously and I can't see how they can turn you away. There are procedures and I just don't understand. Something doesn't add up.

[Bobby]

Do not kill yourself. That will not accomplish anything.

If the conselor doesn't help, Call the police again. They will laugh once, but if you call again, they might believe you.

[product_of_my_parents]

Hang on Hun. Don't kill yourself. You can get through it.

How did your counselor not believe you? What happened? What did she say? Did you show your bruises? School counselors are supposed to take these cases seriously and I can't see how they can turn you away. There are procedures and I just don't understand. Something doesn't add up.

i went and told her what was going on because she had always been nice to me but then she laughed at me because my dad is on the school board and he is a realy important person in our town. so she thought i was doing it all for attention. this was all before i started to tell her everything so i didn't continue. i was too mad at her and mad at me for beleving that i could get away from my dad.

killing myself will help me. it will get me away from my dad. you don't understand, to me there is nothing else worse then what i am getting. but i won't do it until i hear back from this therapist lady.

[Maverick]

You need to go to the police and tell then what's going on. Don't take the easy way out and kill yourself. Try and get out of this by going the police. At least try you've got nothing to lose by trying.

[product_of_my_parents]

i did try and go to them. they came out and left laughing. no one believes me. i don't know how else to explain that i have tried as hard as i can to get help. i am left with nothing.

[Maverick]

I don't believe that the police and school counselor would laugh. You're lying.

[product_of_my_parents]

thanks.

[Bobby]

Ask to talk to the chief. Then, tell him your situation. Make sure you tell him/her about the cops who laughed.

[Antares]

i would get the fbi involved. its the law for them to look into something like this. also you could go to the hospital cuz i think they have like rape tests and then that would really get things goin for you.
and if nothing works call a news network if you are comfortable with that and just tell them to keep your identity concealed and then you could tell them how you went all over to seek help and they will do a huge report on it

[northskater110]

google for phone numbers of people who help kids in your prediciment. (sp?)

you should never kill urself! life is too much worth for that. You have your friends and other family members who care, and so do vt. never resort to killing yourself.

remember, if u kill urself, u will let ur father win, and no way is that son of a B17(H gonna win when im here =]

(excuse that please)

[R&b_Boy]

We have to left u up in pryaer..cuz what he is doing is pure Evil..dun worri too much..he is going to get his one day..he really is!

[ThePhantom]

Sorry i know it is mean but i am having a hard time believing this, however it may vary depending on where you live. In America, the counselors are forced to send for help even if it was a joke, and police do not leave without creating some kind of note.

[Antares]

well i guess you dont live in the us
she just said that her dad is very influential
who would tell on him
use your common sense
dont worry product i believe you

[Antares]

I can't add much to everyone else's advice except that I believe that you need to reach out for help... and I'm one of the very many people here who would listen if you ever needed someone to talk to. :)

And for fuck sake, delete the post before this one!

why?

[Flame]

This is absolutely awful, and should not be allowed to happen.
I am very surprised that no one has mentioned childline www . childline . org . uk The people here will sort out any problem that is to do with abuse. Also, there's nspcc www . nspcc . org . uk The people here will do the same as in child line - have a look in both. (I have had to change the links, because it thought that this was spam!)

I fully believe you, and what you are saying. This may be easer said than done, but try not to worry. Do not try to run away from home Unless it gets really bad. BUT before you do anything else, go to one of those websites!

And NEVER try to commit suicide! This may sound very strange, but there are actually people who would rather be in your position - people who are starving in poorer countries, such as Africa, and people who have a condition that can not be cured, weather they were born with it, or weather it is something like cancer. You CAN be helped! Please do not suffer in silence - DO something about it! You do not in any way or form deserve any type of abuse.

Also, I am surprised that this thread has been just left; although, I suppose, what else is there left to say?

Thanks.

[Flame]

What? why does it say that my post is spam?

EDIT: It did until I removed the links.

[sfmdraw]

i believe u! i started CRYING when i read this, for ur situation was like my moms. her father always molested her, but she didn't say anything in order to protect her mother from him. he had peepoles to watch her undress, and one to see her in the bathroom w/ her pants down. she stayed their for 18 years, and now knows she did the wrong thing by NOT saying something. when he was sick 3 years ago, my mom told me all of this. five minutes later we got a phone call saying he died! HALLELUIEGH! (sp???) then, her mom who at the time lived w/ us, admitted that she knew what he was doing and incouraged it. turns out he also raped both of my mom's cousins and showed himself to 2 little girls when he was overseas in WW2. so ur sstory is close to me, and i really hope all turns out A-OK.
~Sean

PS- PM me if u want to talk.

[countrygeek]

Oh my God, please don't kill yourself. Whatever you do. I am begging you. That adds one more defeat to the perverts of this world.

Yur story reminds me alot about the story of a man named David Pelzer (author of the autobiogrophal books A Child Called It, The Lost Kid, and A Man Named Dave). His mother tortured him day in and day out, everything from giving him no food for weeks, to making him sleep on a cot in the garage, to putting him in a room with a bucket of Clorox/amonia mixture (which could possibly kill you) until he got whatever job it was done. It's sick that there are actually people in the world like this.

My advice would be to find someone and show them your bruises, someone who doesn't know your dad, AND believes you. It's a shot in the dark, but soon someone will believe you and help you escape to a foster home. I'm afraid staying with ANY family member is not an option now. You need to go somewhere where your dad or any other abusive family member will not be able to easily locate you, and unfortunatley the system of foster homes is usually the best way. If someone does believe you, you will likely have to go to court over it..

Whatever happens don't give up, ya hear? Stay strong and don't ever think that "you like it" because you don't fight back. Fighting back is the worst possible way to deal with this. He will make your life the closest thing to Hell without kiling you. You're smart to not fight back. Don't do anything to aggitate him either. You will get through this.

I'm on my knees begging you not to kill yourself. You're in my prayers.

[Underground_Network]

Flame, it didn't let you post links because you are not allowed to post images or links until you get at least 10 posts. Anyway, when was the last time Product logged in? I'm not so sure she's still alive. I mean, I don't wanna be a pessimist, but wouldn't she have updated this thread if something better or worse occurred? There seem to be only two explanations to me: 1) Her situation hasn't changed; 2) She's dead...

[Ironic Infidel In England]

3. she doesn't come here anymore. Don't forget that.

[helpingman]

Go to your friends pearents, show them what he does. (friends moms are really good about this) . Go to a hospital, they will examen you. There are ways. Also get in touch with Social Servies. They WON'T turn you down. their there to beilve and help you.

[CryingEye666]

the police in your area are horrible they should all be fired!

I'm so sorry this is happening to you
its not fair
and it shouldnt be happening
dads are supposed to be the protectors they scare off the monsters there not supposed to be one

:hug:

Hun you need to go get help go to the hospital show them your marks
Contact a womans shelter
Go to social services
Fire department

you need to get away from him push comes to shove run away go hide at a friends er something
my grandpa used to beat my mum n her lil sis they would hid in the bushes till he fell asleep
drunkin ass

I know you can do this not because of faith not because of destiny
I know you can do it because you already have you never loose courage it burns within us always
the beacon of hope never falters hun
no matter how hard they try


yea seriously, all those cops [pigs] should be fired if they just laugh at you. and yea its severely worse when your dad beats you at night just for trying to make things right. look, im not a miracle worker, but maybe ask a friend's mom or dad? maybe they could help someway? or a guidance person even though i dont trust mine anymore
=/
hmmm...
well if you wanna talk with me, you could PM me
i can at least try to help you
goodluck with everything dude

[helpingman]

I can only imagine the pain and the fear your going through. I was beat when from age 7-15. I finally got away it. It took me all these years to get the courage to come forward. I tried killing my self god only know's how many times. My mom died when I was 6 1/2 so from then that piece of shit (i dont call him my dad) got into drugs and drinking and beat me and my brother. We were adopted two years ago by this amazing family of three (my real family that saved me) Me and my brother continue to go to counsling every friday. The best thing we have learned was to let out aggrestion out. Please don't wait talk to some one. It will be to late.

[Takashu]

Go to a safe spot, a place where they have that sign with the person holding someone, such as a library or a wal-mart and tell them, get them to take you to a hospital and show them the bruises. If they try to return you to him run. Its not worth it to be beat by that sick bastard.

[Ddeswz]

Don't. Don't try to kill him, you'll end up worse, and you'll suffer much more. Don't harm yourself either, it's not your fault... If that letter doesn't work, go directly to a public hospital, As far as i know, if abuse is seen on any person, they *must* call social services, which will take care of it. If you can't do that an idea would be to call 911 on a cell phone when you suspect something is going to happen so the the police can get him 'on the act'.

edit: oh god i sucked, didn't see the post date for some reason :p newbie me :p

[Mirataku]

Or go to the FBI website and find your local office, contact them, they should help

[Hyper]

Don't. Don't try to kill him, you'll end up worse, and you'll suffer much more. Don't harm yourself either, it's not your fault... If that letter doesn't work, go directly to a public hospital, As far as i know, if abuse is seen on any person, they *must* call social services, which will take care of it. If you can't do that an idea would be to call 911 on a cell phone when you suspect something is going to happen so the the police can get him 'on the act'.

edit: oh god i sucked, didn't see the post date for some reason :p newbie me :p

For this forum it's okay, I belive.. Cuz alot of ppl who need help will read through old threads..

But yes, if you ever get beaten go to a hospital immideatly and tell them what happend, and have them ''document'' it, I think most hospitals could do it.. And if they can't you can go to the cops.. But basicly do it as soon as you get beaten, cuz the marks and injuries are much more visible and so on..

If you just say 2 weeks later your parent/sibling w/e beat you, and you have no bruises or anything wrong with your body.. You wont get far

[Jamie12gray]

i think that she should run away to a friends house that your dad doesn't know about
but i'm wondering is she still alive?

[Maverick]

This user hasn't been on in quite some time now so this thread is now locked. Product, if you come back and want to post an update, make a new thread.