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[jaden6]

I dont feel good at all i felt deppesd so i got drunk and wayyyyy to drunk and now im like wooohhh anyone elsh get drunk when deppesed
:rolleyes:

[staying_alive]

Can't say I've never done it. But it's definitely not a healthy habit - it's fun for a while, but eventually you end up depending on it when you're depressed. This dependence is an early sign of alcoholism, so I'd be careful. Try to find more productive activities when you're depressed, like going for a run or another physical activity.

[aperson444]

Everyone always told me that exercise would help depression. It really did not for me; It made it worse. But alcohol isn't so great either. Not nearly as healthy.

[staying_alive]

Everyone always told me that exercise would help depression. It really did not for me; It made it worse. But alcohol isn't so great either. Not nearly as healthy.

It definitely can't hurt to exercise, especially when the alternative is sitting around and moping about being depressed. Every time I think about my age of depression, I realize that it was magnified by my lack of activity. I found dwelled on my depressed state. Had I been more active, such as going for a daily run, I think things would've improved more quickly.

Vigorous exercise is the key. Setting seemingly-impossible goals for yourself is a good thing, because eventually you'll reach them. And this makes you feel good.

[aperson444]

But if you don't reach them? It depends on your reference and the relativity of the goal. For me, all I wanted was to be able to bench 110 lbs. Not at all a far fetched goal, kids still laugh at me for not being able to do it. I tried for 1.5 years working out weekly, I upped my frequency, took protein and went to the gym when I really didn't want to. Yet nothing I could do pushed me to that point. I gave up and went back to being more depressed that I was before. Because reality sucks, failure hurts. Set goals at the moment, don't set high goals, but see things through as a continuum. Have forsight, that is, and depression will be shielded until you realize the futility of it all. At that point you have to decide what the ultimate goal is. Where do you want to go?

[staying_alive]

But if you don't reach them? It depends on your reference and the relativity of the goal. For me, all I wanted was to be able to bench 110 lbs. Not at all a far fetched goal, kids still laugh at me for not being able to do it. I tried for 1.5 years working out weekly, I upped my frequency, took protein and went to the gym when I really didn't want to. Yet nothing I could do pushed me to that point. I gave up and went back to being more depressed that I was before. Because reality sucks, failure hurts. Set goals at the moment, don't set high goals, but see things through as a continuum. Have forsight, that is, and depression will be shielded until you realize the futility of it all. At that point you have to decide what the ultimate goal is. Where do you want to go?

I'm sorry you didn't reach your goal, that really sucks. Was it an unrealistic one though? I think if you couldn't reach it after one and a half years + protein + the gym regularly and you didn't improve, perhaps it was unreasonable to set as a goal.

When I say "set goals" I mean more in terms of running a marathon (very much a training continuum): you have to start very small, setting goals on a daily and weekly basis. When you reach those goals, set new ones. Sure, the long term goal is to run 26.2 miles (or bench 110 lbs), but you can only reach that if you train regularly and continue to improve.

You're right: Reality sucks, failure hurts. But it teaches more lessons than any success-filled dream world I've ever been in. After my own experience with depression, I learned that I never wanted to miss out on what the future would hold. No matter how much I felt like ending it all, I always realized that I'd regret not seeing what the future held.

There's always something at the end of the tunnel: it might not be light, but there's peace in darkness, right?


EDIT: also finally reached 500 posts! been a long time coming...