Parents don't understand

[blackout123123]

So, I am bi. A couple of months ago my mom pretty much found out when she went through my phone and saw me talking to this one guy about me being bisexual. She flipped out and reprimanded me heavily for it.

But now, yesterday she went through my phone again and read about how I really like a guy at school. She tells me I have broken her trust. But what bothers me the most is that maybe 6 moths ago she was talking to me about how my orientation doesn't matter, she would love and support me either way. But it seems like it is the complete opposite now. She thinks I am choosing to be this way, perhaps because of people I hang out to or I am being pressured or fooling myself. She won't accept that this is who I am, my mom thinks that I am straight-out gay, as if I can't have an attraction towards both genders.

It really hurts me that all my friends can accept me, but my own family doesn't, when they supposedly would have in the past. :( So, my question is: How can I make my mother understand? I don't want to live with this for the rest of my life.

I apologize if this is all confusing... I just can't seem to think straight right now.

[Sosaku]

You could sit her down and explain that your pheromones (sex hormones that your body will react with, if you want i can go into detail with my belief about that) will react with another person's pheromones, despite how you chose it to be. You can then tell her that you have needs that must be met, and that need just happens to be met by a guy at school. Tell her that you don't want to be in a relationship with a guy just for alot of sex, tell her that there are emotional components to each relationship, and you're body is capable of having relationships with people of both genders. Tell her what you feel, tell her you are hurt by her sudden change of belief ( or whatever changed)

[Shenron]

It can be a hard thing to deal with when your own family will not accept you. I understand what you are going through. I know that if my dad found out I am bi he would most likely disown me. If I were you, and your mom is reasonable, I would let this blow over for a week or two and then take her aside and talk to her about it. Tell her that you were not sure how to approach her with this newfound side of yourself. Tell her that you wanted to tell her but just didn't know how. Ask her forgiveness for keeping it from her and assure her that you are not choosing this. Let her know that it could be a phase and you understand that. Tell her that you are going to keep your mind open and consider whatever may present itself in the years to come.

I hope this all works out for you and if you need any help or advice feel free to pm me.

[SeanM1997]

I completly understand, I helped a friend out who was in this situation.

1.Sit her down and tell her that you are just "curious" even if you are bisexual.

2. "Confront" her on what she said, if she denies it. You have all rights to just not talk to her or do what ever you please.

3. If she understands, all is hopefully resolved.

if this helps anyone in his situation, please rep+ me :)

you can come to me for advice anytime! :)

[LuckyLuke]

Although Michael's, the first post, advice should be noted and appreciated, parents don't want to hear a long scientific explanation. It just doesn't sound nice. Think about it, explaining scientific theory to two grown adults while you're in your teens is a bit condescending and counterproductive EVEN IF they don't know about any of it.

I'd go along the route of sitting her down and saying that you are BI sexual, really like BOTH girls and guys and although she's only found texts sent by you discussing a guy you like, perhaps that's because you don't feel comfortable talking about girls around her and felt that discussing it via text would avoid her seeing it. Or maybe even consider that you don't really have someone to talk about girls with and that's why you were talking about a guy with a friend.

Discuss the possibilities, discuss who you are, and most importantly- discuss how much you love her.

[Sterling26]

yea thats a shame, ur moms going back on what she said, remind her of that