Single. The Single Life.

[PureReality]

I don't know how long I have been single. Maybe a year now. I haven't had many serious relationships. I'm gay, living in Oklahoma, and it's not the easiest.

Being single for this long, really makes me think badly of myself. Is there no one out there for me? I always tell myself, "I don't need a man in my life, it's just another thing to worry about and I worry about myself enough." But, sometimes, that's all I want; someone to be there for me, love me, hold me, and make me happy. I'm not a very sexual guy, so I don't really go for booty-calls. It's kind of ridiculous. I know I'm not ugly, or so I'm told. I've built up my self-esteem within the past two years but this really doesn't help it. I see all these people in relationships, and I know I don't need anybody to make me happy but sometimes...we all need somebody, there for us, right? I wouldn't consider dating a chick - just not for me. I know what I like. There are tons of girls that would hook up with me, but like I said, I'm gay and don't want a booty-call. So, where are all the guys then? I'm nearly sixteen, and still waiting.

You can only wait so long until you lose hope. And I am nearly to the point of saying there is nobody out there for me at this point in time - I know I'm only 15, but at this moment in time - that's what I'm getting out of this situation. Am I unapproachable? Just not attractive? What? I've always thought I was fat, and still even a little bit today so I strive to lose weight and even made a diet and work out plan. But, I don't do this for others, I do it so I can be comfortable with myself when looking in the mirror. But...yeah.

Just wanted to get this out there and see everyone's responses.

[PureReality]

Anyone?

[DerBear]

Hey Logan.

Being single is hard for everyone. You asked where all the guys are, well as you know Oklahoma and the majority of the USA are not know for its welcoming of gay people so many until they leave and go to college don’t come out. Also you may find that you are just having a bad experience with the relationship angle, many people have this issue its just waiting game until you find the right person.

Also there is no point in blaming yourself, as its not good for you and you have done nothing wrong, theres just no one who has liked you enough to want a relationship again this is not your fault.

I suggest you put this to the back of your mind you are young, you have plenty of time. It’s just a case of waiting until you have found the right person, that’s all

[Arantor]

Im striaght, but I used to feel the same kind of thing..i felt pretty bad because i didnt have a real girlfriend for a long time.

however, then i did find one. I went out with her for about 10 months.

Needless to say, never again will I be sad about being single..

[Jupiter]

You know what, being single for forever is way better than dating a trillion people. One right after each other. We all know those people.

[secretly_secret]

I'm not allowed to date. How's THAT? Even if the boy asked me out, I wouldn't be allowed to. Not like he'd be allowed to either...he's a PK....

[PureReality]

Hey Logan.

Being single is hard for everyone. You asked where all the guys are, well as you know Oklahoma and the majority of the USA are not know for its welcoming of gay people so many until they leave and go to college don’t come out. Also you may find that you are just having a bad experience with the relationship angle, many people have this issue its just waiting game until you find the right person.

Also there is no point in blaming yourself, as its not good for you and you have done nothing wrong, theres just no one who has liked you enough to want a relationship again this is not your fault.

I suggest you put this to the back of your mind you are young, you have plenty of time. It’s just a case of waiting until you have found the right person, that’s all

Thank you for that. :yes:

Im striaght, but I used to feel the same kind of thing..i felt pretty bad because i didnt have a real girlfriend for a long time.

however, then i did find one. I went out with her for about 10 months.

Needless to say, never again will I be sad about being single..

Hmm...bad experience to say the least? :confused:

You know what, being single for forever is way better than dating a trillion people. One right after each other. We all know those people.

Hmmm, interesting point of view there; yeah, that is true. :yes:

I'm not allowed to date. How's THAT? Even if the boy asked me out, I wouldn't be allowed to. Not like he'd be allowed to either...he's a PK....

That truly sucks, I'm sorry. :(

[Emiil]

you are just like me :( i understand what you're going through :/

[PureReality]

you are just like me :( i understand what you're going through :/

Good - it's finally nice to meet some like-minded people. :(

[Efflorescence]

Um, I'm single and lovin'it......I feel so independent and free (and I'm 17).

And don't feel bad, you shouldn't really. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are. If no one wants to go out with you? THEIR loss not yours.

[StoppingTime]

I don't know how long I have been single. Maybe a year now. I haven't had many serious relationships. I'm gay, living in Oklahoma, and it's not the easiest
Being single for this long, really makes me think badly of myself. Is there no one out there for me? I always tell myself, "I don't need a man in my life, it's just another thing to worry about and I worry about myself enough." But, sometimes, that's all I want; someone to be there for me, love me, hold me, and make me happy.

Don't think badly of yourself because for single. You can't give up just because you haven't found anyone... yet. They will come, and you will know when it is right. I think it is better to wait then to date anyone you can find, just to say you aren't single.


I'm not a very sexual guy, so I don't really go for booty-calls. It's kind of ridiculous. I know I'm not ugly, or so I'm told. I've built up my self-esteem within the past two years but this really doesn't help it. I see all these people in relationships, and I know I don't need anybody to make me happy but sometimes...we all need somebody, there for us, right? I wouldn't consider dating a chick - just not for me. I know what I like. There are tons of girls that would hook up with me, but like I said, I'm gay and don't want a booty-call. So, where are all the guys then? I'm nearly sixteen, and still waiting.

Like I said, you will find someone. You're only fifteen, giving you plenty of time. Personally, I am not even sure the point to dating until 18, (but that probably doesn't mean I won't :P. Anyway, how many times do you see HS relationships working out. It is unlikely that you will find "the one" at that age, and I think it is just better to wait unit you think it really could be "the one". You don't need to worry about appearance at all. And I don't approve of booty calls either. I think that it is just stupid, and obviously won't get you anywhere in the long run. If you do this, and then when they leave, you may end up feeling worse than you did before.


You can only wait so long until you lose hope. And I am nearly to the point of saying there is nobody out there for me at this point in time - I know I'm only 15, but at this moment in time - that's what I'm getting out of this situation. Am I unapproachable? Just not attractive? What? I've always thought I was fat, and still even a little bit today so I strive to lose weight and even made a diet and work out plan. But, I don't do this for others, I do it so I can be comfortable with myself when looking in the mirror. But...yeah.

Like I said, appearance is not an issue here. Don't worry about that at all. I really doubt that has anything to do with it. Also, don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If they are in a relationship and you're not, don't be jealous of them. It may be their time, it may not. Like you said, one night stands are stupid, so don't start doing that just because others are as well. You are only fifteen, and I definitelywouldn't want to rush something like this. It is the rest of your life, so take it slow. The right person for you is out there, you just may not be able to see them yet. But when you do, you will know.

Just wanted to get this out there and see everyone's responses.
If you ever need anything else, don't hesitate to PM me.


Good Luck!
~StoppingTime/Steve

[PureReality]

Um, I'm single and lovin'it......I feel so independent and free (and I'm 17).

And don't feel bad, you shouldn't really. Just be yourself and be proud of who you are. If no one wants to go out with you? THEIR loss not yours.

It is their loss.
Thank you for this. :yes:


Don't think badly of yourself because for single. You can't give up just because you haven't found anyone... yet. They will come, and you will know when it is right. I think it is better to wait then to date anyone you can find, just to say you aren't single.


Like I said, you will find someone. You're only fifteen, giving you plenty of time. Personally, I am not even sure the point to dating until 18, (but that probably doesn't mean I won't :P. Anyway, how many times do you see HS relationships working out. It is unlikely that you will find "the one" at that age, and I think it is just better to wait unit you think it really could be "the one". You don't need to worry about appearance at all. And I don't approve of booty calls either. I think that it is just stupid, and obviously won't get you anywhere in the long run. If you do this, and then when they leave, you may end up feeling worse than you did before.


Like I said, appearance is not an issue here. Don't worry about that at all. I really doubt that has anything to do with it. Also, don't worry about what anyone else thinks. If they are in a relationship and you're not, don't be jealous of them. It may be their time, it may not. Like you said, one night stands are stupid, so don't start doing that just because others are as well. You are only fifteen, and I definitelywouldn't want to rush something like this. It is the rest of your life, so take it slow. The right person for you is out there, you just may not be able to see them yet. But when you do, you will know.

If you ever need anything else, don't hesitate to PM me.


Good Luck!
~StoppingTime/Steve

Very, very well said. Thank you so much for this. :D

[Jess]

I'm still single and most of my classmates are already in a relationship. you aren't alone.