I SUCK at this.

[LuckyLuke]

It seems like there's NO girls that are attracted to/like me. I mean, maybe I'm delusional and it's likely I can't read into when girls are attracted to me/like me or not but it seems like NO ONE finds me attractive.

I don't think I'm hideous. I'm not a mean person. I have quite a few friends, mostly females; I honestly don't know what the hell I'm doing wrong.

This is really making me feel a little insecure because I hear about guys my age making out and doing loads of things and see them being happy with their girlfriends and I just think, "why can't I have that?". I mean, I'm 17 and I've had one girlfriend that I don't think even liked me :(.

I don't know exactly what I'm asking so some general responses would be nice... Something I would like an answer to is how to know a girl likes you! I'm horrible with flirting and I'm bad at looking for the signs (what are the signs anyway?). Thanks!

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[PureReality]

When looking for a girl, always be yourself. You're cute, so you have nothing to worry about. She will come along some day - along with my man, some day.

[AmusedDJ]

same with me... im insecure about it too, and ive only had 1 gf but i dont count it. and i havent kissed anyone either, or held hands for that matter.

[prob1996]

When looking for a girl, always be yourself....

^^^good advice to start with^^^

Luke,

First off, you're right, it does sound like your insecurities are creeping in. dude, you're not hideous. you're actually quite cute if you don't mind the compliment. You've already had one girlfriend so something must've worked for you in the past. Plus I've read some of your advice and you would be the first to tell someone else not to worry about what someone else has done at what age or to compare.

Next up, flirting and how to tell if girls are into you. There is no easy signs on this one. Flirting is an art. I'm naturally flirty with everyone boy, girl, whoever...LOL Some signs are when they put suggestive comments out there, sometimes when they seem shocking or forward like, stuff like that or they turn comments back on ya. Really just a play on words. Don't get discouraged, friends are always telling me that people are flirting with me and I'm like " Huh, really?" LOL

I don't think you're doing anything wrong. You seem to have alot going for you and that's great! The only thing I can think of from reading your posts and reponses is that you have alot of friends that are girls and are often mistaken for gay. It could be that you've fallen into some sort friend zone where girls just don't see you any other way. Maybe by flirting some more or being more direct with them may help with breaking you out of that zone.

Hope this helps man. I'm sure you'll find someone soon!!!

[Joseph1994]

Hey i dont really have much advice but i can relate to your problem. I am also 17 and have hardly had any girlfriends. Just thought i would let u no that u r not alone.

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

Dude, we're in the same boat!!
Look - when it comes to a girl liking you (as a general rule) she will make an effort to let you know. It is most likely to be subtle, most girls don't just jump out and say 'hey I like you!'
Which would make things easier... But its the same with guys! I can never tell. But the general rule I go by for guys is 'if he likes you, he'll make it happen.' that may be absolutely no help to you, but if you think a girl likes you, just go for it.

Your young, not hideous and just come out of a relationship. Of course you are going to be insecure, but give it time. Be yourslef and things will fall into place <3

[LuckyLuke]

Thanks for the support and advice everyone, it means a lot.

@Amused- I've kissed someone before, one person (an ex).

I guess it's something that I'm just going to have to get over and work out on my own. Not really something you can teach. Well, I'm going to keep going and keep pushing and hopefully I'll find someone who likes me for who I am before I head off to college.

Once again, thanks everyone :)

[Emiil]

ur hot ;D u just need more confidence

[Cybercode]

Bro. I've gone 16 and a half years with that mentality. But that all changed this weekend when I found out the girl I like likes me back. It just takes time and you have to be patient. You will find the right one soon.

[mredgar]

same here bro,but im getting better with girls now
push your self bro

[LuckyLuke]

Thanks again everyone, all your advice is greatly appreciated. I'm getting better, I am, I'm trying; it's just so discouraging when it seems like there's no one who likes you in "that way" as I'm sure some of you can empathize with.

I'm not so sure confidence is the issue, despite what this thread may imply- I'm not afraid to talk to girls and, as I've said, most of my friends ARE girls. It must be something else, I just don't know what that is and I'm likely going to have to find that out on my own.

same here bro,but im getting better with girls now
push your self bro

How'd you get over it?

[Philleeep]

...hey.


I can never make up for what I did. The least I can do is help you the one time I'm on. And when you need it.

Relax. Your over thinking it all in my opinion. Go with the flow. You'd Be surprised but I guarantee there will be someone who likes you but don't have the courage to say. Another point is that don't get too friendly that they become your friend I, honestly think that's part of your problem. You become friends first. Or you just don't take the step and talk to them in the right way if that's understandable.

Phill x

[Jupiter]

Just be yourself. The right girl will come along eventually.

[andy223]

That's how I feel sometimes. At least I'm not one of those guys who's with another chick every week...

[Jess]

I am in the exact same situation as you. I'm still single, and I'm going to be in college soon. I sometimes really want to have someone that I could love and love me back. I'm really shy, and I've never been asked out or asked to a dance. Nothing. But I'm still waiting for the right guy. The right girl for you will come eventually, don't worry

[dmeek7]

Same situation dude. :/ 17, and have been single for three years. My most serious and longest relationship was a month and a half long. I have a best friend that I have been friends with for 4 years, and have dated twice. This has been the only real girl who still tells me I'm attractive, and that girls would be lucky to have me even though she has a bf..She told me to just stop worrying about being with someone. she told me to just be friends with a girl without looking for anything more.Eventually I figured something out. Girls do not actually care what you look like as much as you would think. They want a confidant guy who can make up for his loss in looks. Having confidence, a good sense of humor, and a few good talents can really make a girl fall for you. If you just stop worrying about being with her, and be there for her, she will eventually be the one wanting you.

[ryantombs]

Its not the amount of girls you get its the amount of love you put into one girl. So what your 17 and had one gf. Im 17 and had one granted mine was on and off for a yr and then an 8 month relationship but honestly i just let it come to me. You cant find love you just cant. Its flow lmfao i jus let it hsppen. Im interested in this othr girl now one of my closest friends she needs to " practice" making out for another guy. I said i would help her... But im not goin in there having a plan. I hope it works out between us but if not oh well. She wasnt right for me. To me its finding one or two right gfs then have 10 gfs dont worry ya seem like a nice guy and yu nvr kno maybe one of yur friends likes yu