Worried about future appearance?

[StrongSilent]

I don't really know how to start. I guess the best place is to say that I'm scared of how other people will think I look in a few years. Everyone I know in RL will think this extremely silly, seeing as I've finally tackled my weight problem and things are going alright.

The thing is, I'm worried that I won't be attractive to anyone later. I'm not talking about 45-60 later, im talking about 20's later. I guess this problem stems from the fact that I don't find anyone older than me attractive. Nor do I find half of the people my age attractive. Maybe I'm just terrified of being seen as a man soon and not a boy, or I don't know. I turned 18 last Thursday, but a lot of younger people I meet tell me I look 15. All older people appparently think I'm older than I actually am.

I know that this sounds a little off color, but I really want someone to strongly desire me, the way I look at people younger than me.

Anyone know where I'm coming from?

[PureReality]

I don't really know how to start. I guess the best place is to say that I'm scared of how other people will think I look in a few years. Everyone I know in RL will think this extremely silly, seeing as I've finally tackled my weight problem and things are going alright.

The thing is, I'm worried that I won't be attractive to anyone later. I'm not talking about 45-60 later, im talking about 20's later. I guess this problem stems from the fact that I don't find anyone older than me attractive. Nor do I find half of the people my age attractive. Maybe I'm just terrified of being seen as a man soon and not a boy, or I don't know. I turned 18 last Thursday, but a lot of younger people I meet tell me I look 15. All older people appparently think I'm older than I actually am.

I know that this sounds a little off color, but I really want someone to strongly desire me, the way I look at people younger than me.

Anyone know where I'm coming from?

I know where you're coming from. I wouldn't worry about the future right now, and if you are having appearance problems now, take care of them before you get any older. You probably don't find people older then you attractive because they are older and not your age. Some are attracted to younger people, others are attracted to older people. :yes:

[russsh]

why worry you cant do much about it?

[StrongSilent]

Not what I'm looking for... -_-

There are no appearance problems. =\ But I still can't help but worry about it.

[Jstr]

Yea they say I look 16 years old and depressed haha

[PureReality]

There are no appearance problems. =\ But I still can't help but worry about it.

You'll be fine, and you'll find somebody, someday, whenever you are ready. It's one of those things, you know? I would journal about it, that really helps me with problems.

[StrongSilent]

That has almost nothing to do with the original post... =\

Thing about a journal is the possibility of people finding it.

You've been extremely helpful so far, by the way. It's much appreciated.

Please don't double post; instead edit your first post. I've merged both of your posts together. -Jon/Donkey

[Jstr]

Sorry just tryin to help if your not gonna take any advice from the people who are actually trying to help you... Than I can't help you I'm sorry for our inconveniences

[StrongSilent]

How does your post remotely help me? It has nothing to do with me... it was directed towards me but only deals with you....

[PureReality]

Thing about a journal is the possibility of people finding it.

Yeah, that's why I always keep mine in my school bag, and a lot of times, I won't write about drama going on in my life...just really, really deep thoughts and if someone wants to snoop, it's not like they would understand what I'm going through anyway. Lol. :)

And thank you, I try my best. I'm glad I'm helping you. :D

[Jstr]

The "anyone know where I'm coming from"
That states that your asking for anybody who is in a similar situation as you are in
So I stated my first post to say that I am
Just becuase I didn't say anything a bout you in my first post doesn't mean I didn't respond to what you asked.

[StrongSilent]

The "anyone know where I'm coming from"
That states that your asking for anybody who is in a similar situation as you are in
So I stated my first post to say that I am
Just becuase I didn't say anything a bout you in my first post doesn't mean I didn't respond to what you asked.

So you're also worried about your future appearance in 6 or 7 years? Worried that because of your age no one will find you attractice anymore? Worried that in 6 or 7 years the only people you will find attractive are the same ones that you do now? The ones that are 1 or 2 years younger than your current age and will consequently be much younger in comparison in said span of time?

If not, then your post had nothing to do with the issue, nothing to do with the TITLE of the thread.

Your post was about people saying you look older than you are.

Maybe I'm just inexplicably dumb, but to me your response is only coherent with the last one or two lines of the thread, not the main issue that 9 or 10 other sentences addressed.

[Donkey]

When you get older, your interests are different - you'll be looking at older people too, and they'll be looking at you. You won't want 16, 17 year olds finding you attractive when you're 22. It'd be like having some 14 year old checking you out now.

Honestly mate, don't worry about it. You won't get any less attractive. You'll just get older; your face will mature and many people will find that more attractive. There's nothing to worry about. You'll keep on growing and you'll keep on changing; that applies both physically and psychologically. You won't be a 15 year old stuck in a man's body or anything like that.

[StrongSilent]

Well hello again Jon, its been awhile.

Thanks for your response, but there is one snag.

I have 15 year olds all over me right now... -_- You did say 14, but... its almost the same thing.

[Jstr]

YOU know what I'm not gonna waste my time doing this with you
I tried to help but I couldn't cuase they dont relate Im sorry for being a neusence to you.

[Donkey]

Just merged your two threads together.

Things will work out man. People grow up and everything else develops with it; even those early and late bloomers grow up to look and think the same as everyone else.