Virginity

[Speedy29]

So ive been in a relationship before and ice done everything except sex , nd since then i havent got anything. So like i wana loose my virginity but i cant find any girls in my school to go out with b/c they arent my type. ima junior in h,s nd idk wuh to do

[Cybercode]

OK 1) that's not how relationships work. that's just called using a girl so you can loose your virginity. 2) you are a junior. you don't even need to worry about loosing your virginity. you have college to worry about.

and plus what you are thinking about doing is using girls. and that ain't cool. that's just being a jerk.

don't worry about loosing your virginity man, you have a whole life ahead of you, and even though i'm a virgin (i'm a JR in HS too) you will regret loosing your virginity at a young age (so I've heard from other people)

[Sage]

If losing your virginity is your top priority, then just go out with the school slut for a while.

[HandheldOutlaw]

Wait for love, is all I've got to say. Sex might seem really intriguing right now, but if you are just in a rush to do it it's really not all it's cracked up to be. It actually kind of sucks if it's not with the right person. It's all physical feelings and none of the closeness.
If that makes any sense..?

[Bath]

I think virginity shouldn't be a priority. You shouldn't go out looking for a girl to date because you want to lose it. You know, they have a term for that. Taking advantage.

If you meet the right girl, and she's alright with it, then go for it.

You're a junior. You're 16/17 years old. You're fresh on this earth. You have a long while ahead of you.

[Sage]

Wait for love, is all I've got to say. Sex might seem really intriguing right now, but if you are just in a rush to do it it's really not all it's cracked up to be. It actually kind of sucks if it's not with the right person. It's all physical feelings and none of the closeness.
If that makes any sense..?

I think virginity shouldn't be a priority. You shouldn't go out looking for a girl to date because you want to lose it. You know, they have a term for that. Taking advantage.

If you meet the right girl, and she's alright with it, then go for it.

You're a junior. You're 16/17 years old. You're fresh on this earth. You have a long while ahead of you.

From a male point of view, I think you two are overlooking the benefit of him just getting it out of his system. Bang the easiest girl around and you can only hope to do better from there on. Besides, plenty of girls are willing to just give it up for nearly nothing- there doesn't need to be any exploitation or 'taking advantage' of one party or the other.

Why not let him find out for himself instead of just insisting sex isn't all it's cracked up to be? I think sex is great, and so do many other people.

[Dack]

I'll have to agree with Sage; not because I am a male as well but because to solve his problem that would be the easiest method. Then he can try to one up himself, and make t actually have meaning for the next time; you feel so damn accomplished when you do the hardestto get girl in the whole city..

[StoppingTime]

So ive been in a relationship before and ice done everything except sex , nd since then i havent got anything. So like i wana loose my virginity but i cant find any girls in my school to go out with b/c they arent my type. ima junior in h,s nd idk wuh to do

This is not how you want to date. You don't want to call every girl in school and see if they will have sex with you just to lose your virginity. You want to find a person who you truly think could be worth it. I personally am not planning on it until marriage, but that's me. Don't be one of those people who goes around to everyone and asks for a one-nighter

[Shellygirl]

Are you ready to be a daddy? There's no such thing as pregancy proof sexual intercourse.

[StoppingTime]

Are you ready to be a daddy? There's no such thing as pregancy proof sexual intercourse.

What? There is safe sex.

[Arantor]

Seriously, Don't lose it to someone you don't know you love. I lost it to someone I thought I did, i regret that a lot....

[mxiii]

why you so eager to lose your virginity?

[greekyogurt]

If you're ready to deal with the consequences, go for it. There is no "right or wrong" as long as you know what you're in for (i.e. if you do it with the wrong person, you're not only exposing yourself to the possibility of impregnating the girl, getting caught, or having people find out - but also regretting it.)
In my personal opinion, keeping your virginity isn't going to kill you, so relax about it. I think you should stop worrying so much about it - or even thinking about it as much as you seem to, 'cause it's not something that gets in the way of anything that really matters.
So it's up to you. c:

[HaydenM]

If you can find a girl, look her in the eye, tell her that you don't actually love or even like her, and then get her to have sex with you then that is okay. Otherwise you are just using a girl to have sex. Which makes you a misogynistic git. If you find a girl, love her, and she loves you and you both want it, then go for it. But do not use a girl for sex.

[Sage]

If you can find a girl, look her in the eye, tell her that you don't actually love or even like her, and then get her to have sex with you then that is okay. Otherwise you are just using a girl to have sex. Which makes you a misogynistic git. If you find a girl, love her, and she loves you and you both want it, then go for it. But do not use a girl for sex.

That's not misogyny. Misogyny would be expecting women to be cool with that, when the reality is that only some people (in either gender) would be accepting of being in a purely sexual relationship. There is nothing wrong with having those sorts of relationships as long as both parties are fully aware of and consent to the terms outlined in that social contract. It's not 'using a girl just for sex' if all the girl wants is sex.

I don't know why everyone seems to have such a stigma against the notion of just having sex for pleasure.

[DerBear]

If loosing your virginity is your top priority. Well you need to have a long hard think as I dont think many women (or men) just want to have sex just to get it out of there system sure, there will be some people who do, but....not many.

Please re-think your prioritys loosing your virginity is something that you may come to regret not now but maybe later in life, find someone whos ready and is right for you.

But its up to you do what you feel is comfortable and pick the right person for the choice you make, dont hurt someone because if you dont want to enter a loving relationship make sure she does not as well because you dont want to hurt someone now do you.

Its up to you just think about everyones reply, and think about how you would feel from every angle.

[HaydenM]

That's not misogyny. Misogyny would be expecting women to be cool with that, when the reality is that only some people (in either gender) would be accepting of being in a purely sexual relationship. There is nothing wrong with having those sorts of relationships as long as both parties are fully aware of and consent to the terms outlined in that social contract. It's not 'using a girl just for sex' if all the girl wants is sex.

I don't know why everyone seems to have such a stigma against the notion of just having sex for pleasure.

I have nothing againsts it if both people know that it is sex for the sake of sex. But if one lies then i think it is horrible.

[Craig1995]

Why do u want to loose ur virginity so badly :s

[Fiction]

If all you want from a girl is to lose your virginity to her, then just don't bother. What if you find a girl and she doesn't want to lose her virginity? What then? You pressure her into to doing it and end up leaving her with psychological problems that can last years, or even the rest of her life?

Loosing your virginity should not be your first priority. Maybe try looking for a loving relationship first?

Using a girl for sex can harm her psychologically more than you could ever imagine and honestly I have no sympathy for anyone that ever has that in mind. Just don't do it.

[Spook]

[QUOTE=greekyogurt;1471772]If you're ready to deal with the consequences, go for it. QUOTE]

I don't exactly agree with this statement. I don't think anyone is really ever ready to deal with the consequences. Alot of kids and young adults look at STD's and pregnancies like: "Hey, it won't happen to me!" And they just dive into it. But in truth, it DOES happen, and especially those who don't protect themselves- especially those who think they are the special few.

Sex isn't something to be given away, or to be bragged about- as it is commonly treated. Sex means love- it is a commitment in a way. You will always have a chance to get pregnant even if you do use protection. There is always that tiny 1% that does. The reason why you want to wait for love circles in a small part around that reason. It is a commitment to stick by your partner, through birth- perhaps, and love.

So you- as a junior, in no way should be rushed into it. I admire people who have the strength to both stay abstinent until they find a partner- and those who respect women. If you think you can just pressure a girl into sex, that is disgusting. Alot of girls give themselves in this way if they have low self esteem. They still should not be taken advantage of- and that is just what they are doing.

Think before you dive into something- think about the consequences, about the feelings or regrets you will have afterwards- and most definately about the other person. Think about how they will be harmed- or scared- or guilty.

There is no certain age to have sex, you just need to think, and to have the maturity to handle- and accept the consequences of your decisions.