joeyjorulz
October 7th, 2011, 10:24 AM
web find...may assist answering some questions
I Think I am gay
Start with one important thing. Almost all of us are attracted at some point to people of the same sex. Whether this is a "crush" (I hate that word), or sexual excitement, or full blown love matters little. For most of us it truly is a phase and it passes.
If your fantasies are totally about bodies of the same gender as you; if you desire only people of the same gender, more than one person, several people, lots of people; if you see people of the same gender and only the same gender when you masturbate or daydream; if you have a distaste for bodies of the opposite sex; if your fantasies leave nothing to the imagination, if these are true, then there is a ninety percent chance that you are and will remain gay. The more so if you feel that you want to spend your entire life with a person of the same gender as your physical and emotional partner.
Only ninety percent, because emerging orientation is not fixed, and there is scope in your life to change as time passes. Weird but true.
I may be bisexual
You find that you are genuinely sexually, erotically and emotionally attracted to people of either gender. Fantasies come about both genders in equal measure, or in a ratio that you enjoy. You have no particular preference about whether you want your life partner to be male or female.
You are likely to be bisexual. Also the degree of attraction to one gender or the other may later, and you may develop to be homosexual or heterosexual. Simply be aware of the possibility.
I am heterosexual
Probably you are, if your fantasies are about the opposite sex, and if you cannot see yourself having any form of sexual and emotional fulfilment with a person of the same sex.
You may be here, reading this, because you experimented with a friend of the same sex, and are scared in case you are gay. You may be a parent, trying to understand your child, too.
Experimentation is not homosexuality. Experimentation is fun, a shared experience, binding, if you like, but not homosexuality. So you are heterosexual. You knew that, though. But you wanted to check.
I Think I am gay
Start with one important thing. Almost all of us are attracted at some point to people of the same sex. Whether this is a "crush" (I hate that word), or sexual excitement, or full blown love matters little. For most of us it truly is a phase and it passes.
If your fantasies are totally about bodies of the same gender as you; if you desire only people of the same gender, more than one person, several people, lots of people; if you see people of the same gender and only the same gender when you masturbate or daydream; if you have a distaste for bodies of the opposite sex; if your fantasies leave nothing to the imagination, if these are true, then there is a ninety percent chance that you are and will remain gay. The more so if you feel that you want to spend your entire life with a person of the same gender as your physical and emotional partner.
Only ninety percent, because emerging orientation is not fixed, and there is scope in your life to change as time passes. Weird but true.
I may be bisexual
You find that you are genuinely sexually, erotically and emotionally attracted to people of either gender. Fantasies come about both genders in equal measure, or in a ratio that you enjoy. You have no particular preference about whether you want your life partner to be male or female.
You are likely to be bisexual. Also the degree of attraction to one gender or the other may later, and you may develop to be homosexual or heterosexual. Simply be aware of the possibility.
I am heterosexual
Probably you are, if your fantasies are about the opposite sex, and if you cannot see yourself having any form of sexual and emotional fulfilment with a person of the same sex.
You may be here, reading this, because you experimented with a friend of the same sex, and are scared in case you are gay. You may be a parent, trying to understand your child, too.
Experimentation is not homosexuality. Experimentation is fun, a shared experience, binding, if you like, but not homosexuality. So you are heterosexual. You knew that, though. But you wanted to check.