i hate going to school.

[imgonebyebye]

since ive been in secondary education ive practically been the black sheep i get associated with being an "emo" because i listen to rock and have long hair im sick of it most girls in my school alsways take the piss going aaargh im gonna slit my wrists and kill myself aaaargh, im fucking sick of it and i have a medical condition where i cant controll my bowls very well and well something happened in school and now i get shit for that aswell its been 4 years of hell i have about 2 true friends that i can rely on.
about a month ago i punched a mirror and had 2 big cuts and people keep saying i tried to kill myself i explain what happened but they just say oh bullshit you fucking emo go die.
i really dont know what to do now.

[Dimitri]

Well I am sorry to say this but often catagorize us with the personna we project. Have you spoken to your parents, guidance counselor or a teacher about this. I think that you need to talk to someone about this. Please talk to someone who can help you do something about this.

[imgonebyebye]

i have talked but they just talk to the people and it keeps happening i usually get on with it but this one girl just really made me feel bad today

[Dimitri]

Well maybe you could try sitting down and talking to her about it, she possibly might be afraid for herself or she might be going through something similar and he way of coping with it is by taking it out on you?

[Jupiter]

I have to side with Rob on this one. I gotta say also, maybe just forget about it. Lots of things happen, and we just gotta move on. :) Keep in touch.

[Afraid Of Me]

i look at it like this. i used to be worried about what my friends would think if they found out that i cut myself and when one of them asked me about my scars i lied to him about it. but now i know what ive been through that has me the way that i am. they dont know so they cant judge me. now i wouldnt think twice about telling them i used to cut i'd just do it. you know you didnt try to cut you're hand or anything so let them be wrong. they dont know what you go through so they cant judge

[imgonebyebye]

thanks for the help guys

[Wicked_Syn]

Take this straight up to the school authority and tell them that they NEED TO DO SOMETHING about this instead of sitting on their asses. If they don't do anything, I would go straight to the board of educatin for where you live and make a complaint about what is happening to you at school and also tell them that the school doesn't do much to help you out.

I'm getting really sick of how school officials blow shit off like that. I was once in the situation and they really don't do much to help.

[Dimitri]

Take this straight up to the school authority and tell them that they NEED TO DO SOMETHING about this instead of sitting on their asses. If they don't do anything, I would go straight to the board of educatin for where you live and make a complaint about what is happening to you at school and also tell them that the school doesn't do much to help you out.

I'm getting really sick of how school officials blow shit off like that. I was once in the situation and they really don't do much to help.
No, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, same for emotions. If you go up to an adult, pissed off then they are not going to care.

Teenagers always complain how their are not treated as an adult whereas if they acted more like an adult instead of running around throwing tempertantrums they would be more respected.

Treat people how you want to be treated, if you want your teacher or administrator to handle this with respect then you better be able to show respect, they are still an authority figure not your little friend that you can bitch at......

If you have anymore questions feel free to ask....

[StoppingTime]

since ive been in secondary education ive practically been the black sheep i get associated with being an "emo" because i listen to rock and have long hair im sick of it

These people don't know who you are, and they obviously don't know what you have through. They don't realize who you really are. Just forget about those comments, they are meaningless. There is nothing wrong with you, and though most people don't realize, there will be some who will.

most girls in my school alsways take the piss going aaargh im gonna slit my wrists and kill myself aaaargh, im fucking sick of it

As I said, they don't know what you have gone through. They don't realize what cutting really is, and just automatically assume the worst. If they do bother you that much, than try to really say what it is. Tell them that it isn't "emo, or suicidal", if you feel comfortable with it.

and i have a medical condition where i cant controll my bowls very well and well something happened in school and now i get shit for that aswell

This is horrible. The people obviously don't understand a simple medical condition. And even if they do, they are just trying to make fun if it, with makes no sense. They probably know there isn't anything you can do about it, and they are just acting immature. What do they say to you about it?

its been 4 years of hell i have about 2 true friends that i can rely on.

As long as you have true friends to rely on, things will be fine. These people understand you and your situation. Try talking to them about it, and they may be able to help you. There is nothing wrong with you because you cut, but having friends for support in bad times is crucial, and they will always come through for you.

about a month ago i punched a mirror and had 2 big cuts and people keep saying i tried to kill myself i explain what happened but they just say oh bullshit you fucking emo go die.

Same thing I said before. They are immature people, and they don't know your situation, and what you have/are going through. There is nothing you can do to make them shut up about it but ignore it. You know what happened, hopefully your friends do as well. Anyone who really cares about you will be able to see past the surface and the stereotypes, no matter what. These people are never easy to find though, so be patient.

i really dont know what to do now.
That's what we are here for. Come on here, and just talk to people, they are more than happy to help. Talk to your friends too. They understand you, and they can help you. Spend time with them, and your life will look up.
If this does get truly out of hand though, take it up with a trusted person, such as a teacher, counselor, or administrator. They will be able to help you if things get worse
Good Luck with everything,
~StoppingTime/Steve

[Wicked_Syn]

No, for every action there is an equal and opposite reaction, same for emotions. If you go up to an adult, pissed off then they are not going to care.

Teenagers always complain how their are not treated as an adult whereas if they acted more like an adult instead of running around throwing tempertantrums they would be more respected.

Treat people how you want to be treated, if you want your teacher or administrator to handle this with respect then you better be able to show respect, they are still an authority figure not your little friend that you can bitch at......

If you have anymore questions feel free to ask....


Ummmmmm, I never told the kid to go yelling at the person did I? NO.

[StoppingTime]

Ummmmmm, I never told the kid to go yelling at the person did I? NO.

He didn't say this. He was saying that he shouldn't go to every teacher in the school about it.

[DerBear]

the BOE wont do anything sure they make promsises but thats all it is

Why dont you stand up for yourself and tell them what you think of them not so nice when the tables are turned

[Jean Poutine]

Look, I've went through my whole secondary education getting laughed at. I got out of it without any scars, emotional or otherwise, even though people constantly put me down, spit on me, masturbated in my stuff even, and loads more.

The truth is your school won't do jack squat. They don't have to. They don't want to. I don't know how it is in the UK, but in North America the school system is basically mini-politics. Principals and school board employees are politicians, nothing more. They get elected there, they want to stay there. You have to quickly realize this. And they do what all politicians do : they get funding to fix a problem (like bullying) and let it go as long as possible to siphon more money.

You might think that it's useless to talk to your parents about this. No, it really isn't. There's another source they can help you reach and they will do something.

The cops. If it's really grave and unbearable, call the cops.

Sounds dumb? Yeah, I know it does. Again, I don't know about the UK. But in Canada there is a little something called a "right to good reputation" that is codified in our Constitution. And when your rights are violated, you sue. And when those ruining your reputation are minor, it's the parents that eat the lawsuit. And civil lawsuits cost money.

I called the cops with my parents (I was about 15, and adults help a lot when dealing with authorities). After they understood that this wasn't some routine teasing, they showed up on the bullies' doorsteps and told them to stop or we'd sue.

The effect was about instantaneous. Suddenly nobody called me names, shoved me in lockers, or any of the other badness. I was left alone. Obviously nobody liked me more, but I didn't care ; hell stopped. You have to hit where it hurts. Imagine if I sued and won. No more money, cellphones, car, allowance or whatever else. This made them stop. It might be even better if you can get a local lawyer to draft you a legal letter threatening lawsuit. It shouldn't be very expensive and the threat will have more backbone, even if you don't really want to sue.

Bullying can toughen someone up or break them. If it breaks them, I think they should be helped. When I finish law school I will do pro bono work to help bullied children. If letters don't work, I will have no qualms about going to court free of charge and siphoning as much money as possible off the bullies' parents. And I'm going to love it.

As an aside, the other day I found an old bully of mine packing up my groceries, it was pretty nice.