scared of bully and getting outed.

[surfmonster]

:confused:I'm a 14 year old dude,bisexual.my best friends older brother caught us naked in bed and beat us with a belt. He is 17 and a big fighter, together we can't even stand a chance against him. He stole my skateboard and when I tried to get it he beat me up and tried to rape me. I was crying hard and he got scared and stopped.now he is threatening to tell everyone about us, we are surfers and being Bi or Gay is not accepted. Help?

[Commander Thor]

Intros :arrow: Sexuality

[Koffing]

Bad to hear what you are going thought :(.
Do you know how your parents are thinking about gays? If they are accepting, then I think it's best to tell them. Let them speak with your friends older brother.

Good luck ;)

[Perseus]

Uh, if he tried to rape you, you might want to call the cops.

[SosbanFach]

Uh, if he tried to rape you, you might want to call the cops.

This. It may not solve all your problems, but beating you and trying to rape you? That's illegal, obviously. You should go to the police, or at least to a teacher or other adult you can trust.

[Hajara22]

i agree with that. if he tired to rape you then you should do your best to stay away and tell someone you trust. though sounds like he is on a power trip from being older. sorry and good luck.

[Surferchic2362]

Stand up for yourself and fight dirty. The only one that can stop the bullying is you. Just remember there is no wrong way to protect yourself.

[Spreadingwings]

actually there are many wrong ways to protect yourself, (like dirty fighting). Anyway, have courage, learn to fight, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, and by exploiting your ennemy's weakness. Use your witts to out smart your opponent, don't taunt, sadden, or enrage him, emotions are strong. Keep your emotions under control and project an aura of confidense, don't be a juggernaut. Defend your self from physical harm, keep your emotions under control, only attack if you did not through the first punch. Your emotions are powerfull weapons, but they can help or harm you, cloud your mind or make you weak, keep them under control and don't swing that sword blindly. Fight for your cause, enpower your spirit with the will to defend and stand up for yourself, but don't be cocky. Fight when you must defend yourself, and find your ennemy's weakness then use it to your advantage, don't play dirty he might seek revenge, fight righteously. Fight as a last resort, talk to people of authority for guidence and to bring justification, (also if he lays a hand on you without you provoking or attacking him take it to the police, remember that no war was won by one single person). And it may be wise to slow down in your love life. But Most importantly, don't take my word as absolute truth, listen to what I said if you choose to BUT don't listen entirely, use common sence and don't compleatly ignore advise, be righteous in your actions be prepared for nothing and don't loose track of everything.

[logan fields]

he sounds like a real creep and i would tell him if he didnt leave me alone i will call the cops and tell them he tried to rape me and he will go to jail. i bet he would stop then.

[Bufalo]

thats totally disgusting what he did and he should be sent away for it. but i get where your coming from, i was in the graffiti game and that was strictly no gays or bi people but i was bi in it. just gotta learn to roll with the punches. if its time for it to come out i dont think you have a choice.

[Sosaku]

I'm calling bullshit on this, one, you are 14!!!! you have some fucking common sense!!!! Here are my reasons, (hate me if you will) also, you haven't commented in 8 days...if you needed help you would have been back here...

1. I can understand emotions getting out of control, and him maybe beating you with a belt...that's ok.
2. If he is AGAINST homosexuality, what would raping you do? Except give him pleasure for like 3 minutes, then having you scarred for a few years if you ever learn how to let it go...or it could have life long consequences...
3. You're 14!!!! Call the fucking cops! tell a teacher, tell a counselor!!!!!
4. To a rapist, for one...fear and causing pain are generally what turn them on, and don't say "he's not a rapist" he wouldn't consider it if he wasn't, and technically, now he is...so he wouldn't have stopped, he would have continued.
5. Don't be stupid!!! he's 17 there is SO much you could do to ruin his life...especially if he is a surfer, if surfers don't like Gays or Bis, tell them that he tried to rape you! then if he says he caught you in bed with your friend naked, tell them he's just trying to defend his actions...and that he came up with a story.

[noturnback]

he sounds like a real creep and i would tell him if he didnt leave me alone i will call the cops and tell them he tried to rape me and he will go to jail. i bet he would stop then.

I wouldn't do that. Knowing my luck, once I told him that he'd really rape me then kill me and throw my body in a lake so I can't call the cops. Especially if he's stronger then you and you can't do anything about it.

[Sterling26]

this is fairly straightforward, TELL YOUR PARENTS

[LGCALI]

Quit being a victim tell your parents or other responsible adult NOW! Period!