I don't know what to do

[ackmedsgirl666]

so i am out of options. the guy i lost my virginity to and who i thought was the man of my dreams has turned out to be a complete asshole.... he has cheated on me several times and has gotten 2 girls pregnant so he lied to me when he said that i was the first girl he had unprotected sex with. hes making me feel bad because i cant get pregnant and they could. he also made fun of the fact that i have M.P.D(multiple personality disorder) and the fact that i have biopolar. he thinks hes so perfect well fuck that shit. i love him and can't decide what to do anymore. im hopeless. i cant even make a man happy :(
i might as well just curl up in a hole and die!

[User Deleted]

You need to just leave him. He doesn't deserve you. There is no reason you, or anyone else, needs to make him happy. He doesn't deserve it. Anyone who would lie, cheat, and make fun of peoples problems, has something seriously wrong, because he could stop it. With bipolar and M.P.D. you cant do anything, and people should accept you for who you are.

And you should never tell yourself you should die. Things will always get better.

[Amaryllis]

You know what? I'm bipolar and my psychologist thinks I may have DID as well. That's okay. Because what the hell, someone will see pass our "mental issues" and someone will help you through it. There will always be assholes, this isn't the last one. Be glad you won't be stuck with an asshole forever. He isn't worth your tears, child or pain. Let him go, you can do better than this.

Being bipolar and having multiple identities is hard. I know. And you should know by now that romantic relationships aren't the only things that will get you through. You can't expect someone to fix everything for you. You have to do this for yourself. After I... Okay, this guy fucked me over. And... Sooo... Anyway, I started cutting really bad and then I developed a couple eating disorders. And man was it not worth it. I dropped to 50lbs, I wanted to die, my life sucked, it still sucks, I wish it never started.

No one is worth doing shit to yourself.

I guess telling you to not give a damn about any guy and never having a relationship like how I am would be dumb. It's not a good thing. But try your best to let him go. There will be others. Whatever pain you are in now will be dull in comparison to the pain you will experience if you give in.

Love,
Faith and Trust

[ackmedsgirl666]

awe thanks u guys are ever so helpful. i still havent decided what to do but i can no longer take his abuse
part of my disabilty FASD(fetal alcohol spectrum disorder) makes me clingy and feel that i need to have someone with me and that i cant be alone. i hate that i have all these problems wrong with me...
i feel so helpless

[Jupiter]

i feel so helpless

you might, but trust me. this is where we can help you, VT is amazing :)

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

walk away from him and heal, its all you can do. good luck x

[ackmedsgirl666]

i feel so broken hearted
he just broke up with me cuz he claims hes gay :( and that i cause too much drama and that i am bringing him down. am i that bad of a person?

[StoppingTime]

Don't listen to a word he says to you. Of course, nothing he said about you is true, so don't let that bother you. You aren't the bad person here, he is. He knew what horrible things he was doing the whole time. He could have came clean to you about what he did right after, but he didn't. You did nothing wrong. And there is no reason in the world you should feel bad about having MPD. There is obviously nothing you can do about it. This guy knew this as well, I'm sure, but like you said, he was a horrible person. And making fun of you because you couldn't get pregnant? Also, this is absurd. Don't listen to anything negative he said about you, it isn't true. You will find someone who wil love you for you, just give it time.

And if you ever need anything, feel free to talk to me about it :)
Good luck with everything!
~Steve/StoppingTime

[User Deleted]

i feel so broken hearted
he just broke up with me cuz he claims hes gay :( and that i cause too much drama and that i am bringing him down. am i that bad of a person?

Don't worry about it.

As I said before, he doesn't deserve you, HE was the wrong one, so gay or not you don't have to break up with him, because he did it for you.

Bringing him down? Yeah right. He doesn't have a clue. HE abused you and so the only drama was self inflicted on him. You can't abuse a person and expect them to take it. And people shouldn't be abused in the first place!

Everyone has issues, and people need to have to respect that, and try to sympathize, or even empathize. You are NOT a bad person, anyone who had to deal with so much would have troubles. And troubles don't make you bad.

[RyanKo]

Don't listen to him aand don't believe him. What you can do is leave him. Don't feel sad.

[ackmedsgirl666]

i have been trying to talk things out with him to get a better understanding on how i feel and where i stand... for now i have decided to drop the whole pregnancy thing and ignore it.... for now till i get my life back on track. he has agreed to try and change also but idk if i can believe it i mean im dating a gay guy for fuck sakes(no harm intended against gay males here) its just so confusing
i feel inlove with the wrong person and now idk how to get myself out of this situation?
what can i do other then leave him
\can i stick it out and hope it get better or just try and let go???

[Funkapotamus]

i have been trying to talk things out with him to get a better understanding on how i feel and where i stand... for now i have decided to drop the whole pregnancy thing and ignore it.... for now till i get my life back on track. he has agreed to try and change also but idk if i can believe it i mean im dating a gay guy for fuck sakes(no harm intended against gay males here) its just so confusing
i feel inlove with the wrong person and now idk how to get myself out of this situation?
what can i do other then leave him
\can i stick it out and hope it get better or just try and let go???

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

Do what you feel is right. Remember he doesn't have you bound.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.

Do what you feel is right. Remember he doesn't have you bound.
how did i fool u?

[Funkapotamus]

how did i fool u?

No not me silly. That person that did this to you. If you're thinking of taking him back remember that saying. If a person breaks your trust, I always believe in forgiveness and letting go of that mistake, because in the end we are all human with mistakes after all. But if he does it again, assessing the situation wisely might be an idea. And moving on is probably inevitable but a positive move for you.

Don't be a sucker for love, remember that.

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok so i have decidced im gonna try and move on the only thing that breaks my heart ios he says if i leave him hes gonna move on and go have a kid with somebody who actually can get pregnant. as of right now im not :'(
im so full of stress right now.. hes threatening to kill himself and he wants to be with some guy he dated years back so im not gonna stop him anymore
\IM DONE!!!

[Funkapotamus]

ok so i have decidced im gonna try and move on the only thing that breaks my heart ios he says if i leave him hes gonna move on and go have a kid with somebody who actually can get pregnant. as of right now im not :'(
im so full of stress right now.. hes threatening to kill himself and he wants to be with some guy he dated years back so im not gonna stop him anymore
\IM DONE!!!

Well done! Personally that was a wise decision. You've got a mental weight lifted and you no longer have to worry about what is going on behind closed doors. Now the trick is moving on completely.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Yeppers and its the hardest thing i have ever done