Socially Inactive?

[GeorgeCurious]

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To put it all in a nutshell, I am invited to social events and such and so keen to go when I find out about it! But when it actually comes to the event, I usually make up a lame excuse and don't think further. I don't know why I do this, it's not me being lazy or anything, it's just I don't want to attend social gatherings with these people. They're also really good friends, been friends since kindergarten, but I just don't know how to react.

I honestly want to go, but I just can't find the effort to go. I go socialise with other friends pretty much all of the time (we rarely do things outside school) but with the other group I just don't go? (This group of friends go out alot, and I go occasionally)

Is there something called being "too socially active"? I have previous experiences that may have caused this and it's nothing to do with the negativity of my friends. But yes, sometimes they put me down alot but I guess we put each other down alot to show our appreciation for each other?

I honestly don't have an idea what's going on, it's only been happening since I started year 8?

I was just curious as to what is wrong with me? Do I have a mental disease, if so what? :/

Thanks for your time.

[Jupiter]

It's okay. Maybe it's just you and that's fine. We are all unique, and I don't normally like riding in cars with other people that are my friends. Kind of the same, we might just have different likes and dislikes.
:) Eric

[Clawhammer]

Maybe you're just not a people person. The best advice I can give is avoid being a flake, if you aren't going to go, and you know it, just that you can't make it. If you say you will go, keep a stiff lip and do it. There's nothing wrong at all with not being very sociable, I know that I'm not. Pisses my parents off some but it's just who I am. All I can say is do it or don't from the very beginning. And don't worry about it, man, it's not some huge crisis.

[GeorgeCurious]

When I don't go out with friends, they usually think I'm playing computer games rather than seeing them. They call me nerd, etc for doing this. Just kind of pisses me off that they don't know what's going on and just assume that I'd rather play some games than hang out with them.

[kezyy]

Story of my life right there.

[StoppingTime]

You may just feel insignificant towards your friends, but don't. If they really are great friends, then if you go to one of these, if you really feel comfortable, I am sure they will be happy to see you. If you are still a little uneasy, maybe try talking to one of them, ask things like "How was the party?" etc... If they say it was fun, and if you feel ready again, you should try it every once in a while.

When you say you don't go out and hang with them, what are you doing? It doesn't make you a nerd. Also, if you feel comfortable, maybe you could try to hang out with them a few times before attending one of these parties, to "ease yourself in".

You most likely don't have any mental disease, so don't worry about that either.

Good Luck!!

Steve/StoppingTime

[Jean Poutine]

If this is not in the correct section, can you please move it or hit me up with a PM? Thanks. :]

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To put it all in a nutshell, I am invited to social events and such and so keen to go when I find out about it! But when it actually comes to the event, I usually make up a lame excuse and don't think further. I don't know why I do this, it's not me being lazy or anything, it's just I don't want to attend social gatherings with these people. They're also really good friends, been friends since kindergarten, but I just don't know how to react.

I honestly want to go, but I just can't find the effort to go. I go socialise with other friends pretty much all of the time (we rarely do things outside school) but with the other group I just don't go? (This group of friends go out alot, and I go occasionally)

Is there something called being "too socially active"? I have previous experiences that may have caused this and it's nothing to do with the negativity of my friends. But yes, sometimes they put me down alot but I guess we put each other down alot to show our appreciation for each other?

I honestly don't have an idea what's going on, it's only been happening since I started year 8?

I was just curious as to what is wrong with me? Do I have a mental disease, if so what? :/

Thanks for your time.

Cocooning.

The best invention ever.