What do you think

[ryantombs]

So the only person I wanted to tell that I SH and wanted to talk to her for her to help me to stop well thinks im just doing it for attention... i talked to her bestfriend who i am pretty good friends with and i told her and she cared more about it then my best friend... and she is the one who told me my bestfriend said i was just doing it for attention... anyway my point is why do you think you or people self harm...i kno its to relieve mental pain and punish but in my opinion i along wit other people self harm as almost a cry for help but to afraid to almost tell someone be it a doctor or a friend.... i know i could offend people by saying it this but yea... like i want to stop but i dont want to go to any doctor dont want to tell my parents i just want to talk to my best friend / be loved... in a way seeking attention/ cry for help...

its not attention oh heres my cuts gonna put it on facebook and say oh feel bad for me no its not that seeking attention nor is it hey i cut yea wanna see and stuff i want one person... i know its confusing but what is your opinions on self harm... im looking for honest answers... sorry if its confusing and stuff and please if it seems like i came off the wrong way tell me because i dont want to because i also SH

[Ambrosia]

i along wit other people self harm as almost a cry for help

Which explains why your friend thinks you do it for attention. In all honesty, self harm is a cry for help, silent or not. Just not everyone is actually wanting people to know. Hurting ourselves is how we help ourselves.

I self harm because it gives me control of myself. It's like the breaks on a car. When my mind starts to get out of control, and my emotions try to get the better of me, I hurt myself to make it stop. Like a slap in the face, I guess. I don't want attention in any way...It's too hard to explain to people, I don't want to lose it, so why would I want people to know?

If you don't mind my saying, why not leave out the "I do it because I want people to pay attention to me!" part when you talk to her about it.

[AlmostHomeless]

Maybe I would enjoy talking to the couple people I have chosen to confide in if I wasn't such an antisocial, but talking in person to anyone about any of this stuff is always super awkward for me. I just can't stand it. I find it consoling to talk online though.

[ryantombs]

@stephen304 thats how i am i will talk to people online even that certain ones... and thats why i only wanna talk to this single person but there is a long confusing story behind this single person...
and i understand what you mean how you have control... but in my opinion that you want help (not really you specifically) everyone i think does in the end but you dont know where to go almost... i forget who posted it on here but this one person said i jusst wanted someone to tell me its ok to cry complain be sad, and after reading her posts she was SHing for reasons way worse then mine...