Age Difference...Help!

[Smith98]

So here's the deal there's this guy who wants to go out with me and he's 19 and I'm almost 16. Is this okay I don't want him to look like a creep or anything. If you're wondering the relationship could involve sexual acts.

[ImCoolBeans]

Well, in your case that wouldn't only be illegal - but i think it would look rather pathetic on his part and a little disappointing on yours. But hey, thats just my feeling.

[anonymous53]

Honestly, as long as you're closer to 17 and he's pretty much just turned 19 I wouldn't see a problem with it. Some of my 15 year old friends have dated 20 year olds, just make sure he's not just after sex (Which he probably is)

[NomSan]

It's only 3 years difference. I don't see any problem with it.

[Ambrosia]

A three year age difference is not a problem---When you're both in the same legality square. If you were 18 and he was 21, it wouldn't be a big deal. Even 17 and 20 wouldn't. But the fact is that you are 16 and this person is 19. The difference there is huge because he is---in all technicality---an adult. It would be illegal for you two to engage in any type of sexual act. You could get him into huge trouble.

I suppose I have no room to speak on the age difference, though, seeing how when I was 14 I dated an 18 year old but I never once engaged in anything sexual with him. Why not just be friends with him and leave it at that, hmm? It's easier, less risky, and he won't have the chance to get in trouble. A 19 year old dating someone your age (You are most likely a mid-year High School student, sophomore in high school) makes it seem like he simply wants sex. Men like that can't find anyone their own age and see young girls like you to be innocent and stupid (No offence) and willing to do anything to please.

Be careful. Do what you want, of course. But I don't recommend it.

[Jose]

It does not matter how close to age if there is sex and u r under 18 and hes over 18 its illegal also u ever wonder what 19 yo sees in someone 3years younger other than sex just saying

[Triste]

That sounds completely okay to me. That's not too much of an age gap, but everyone is right when they say that it is considered a big age gap legally. If you guys do go out, which wouldn't be a problem, then I suggest you two be careful.

[Smith98]

Thanks for the replies. I don't think the age is the issue but like you guys say the legality issue. I'd rather not put either of us into that situation.:)

[NobodysCupOf Tea]

I think that youre too young, not that the age gap really makes a difference.

[CaptainObvious]

It does not matter how close to age if there is sex and u r under 18 and hes over 18 its illegal also u ever wonder what 19 yo sees in someone 3years younger other than sex just saying

that's wrong. most countries in the world, as well as most US states, have ages of consent that range from 14 to 16 years of age. additionally, jurisdictions generally also have close in age exemptions that would further cover this circumstance.

if the relationship would be illegal, i wouldn't recommend it. realistically, the younger person is the one the law is meant to protect, so if you feel comfortable as the younger person, it's not like there's some moral reason that you shouldn't do it. that said, your boyfriend runs great risk.

however, it is quite possible that the relationship would be legal now or very soon, given your age (this obviously depends on where you live). if that's the case, it is entirely up to you whether you are comfortable with things or not. the age difference should probably make you think about it very carefully, though: will you two have things in common in a relationship other than sex, if he's college-aged and you're still in high school? and if not, are you ok with a relationship primarily based on sex?

[bradsandman123]

As long theres a 4 year or less age difference as long as the younger of the twos parents are ok with you dating it's legal in 90% of the country if you have sex and theres a issue with the parents of the younger person they could press misdemeanor usually a class d or lower most likely a class e for both parties or civil charges if not enough criminal intent is produced beyond a reasonable doubt