i like him, but he's sending me mixed signals.

[hardcore-smile]

Hey guys! So here's the deal. I just transferred to a new school and there is this guy there that I am really falling for! He seemed like he liked me too. He was always texting me asking me to hangout and last week I slept over @ his house 3 times. It seemed like he really had a thing for me. Now all of a sudden I text him asking him if he's busy and sometimes he will reply and other times he wont. Sometime I wonder if he's loosing interest in me, but when I see him in the halls at school he comes up and talks to me. He texted me today telling me to go to one of his volleyball games tonight. I don't know if this guy is into me or what? And I don't know how to get things to move quicker because right now they are kind of just stuck in place, a little help here? Thanks!

[anonymous53]

Ask him directly :) That's really all you can do. Or try kissing him.

[Slytherin_Prince]

When a guy is into someone, he tends to get nervous, whether he shows it or not. This might explain his lack of consistent text responses.
As for your issue, the person above me is correct. If you feel like things are moving at a slow pace, perhaps you should make a move. Take the initiative.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[Eclipsical]

He's just a lazy texter.

Just talk to him directly. Problem solved.

[music is my soul]

Hes probably busy. And lik Robert said hes mostly likly really nervous

[ThatScience]

Here's a tip about guys I've discovered about myself.
Now... Depending on the type of guy he is, he's probably naive.
If you like him, he doesn't know. And if he likes you he'll never tell.
That's just what I do anyway.

If I were him, I'd prefer you tell me. I'd be flattered; humbled, even!

[User Deleted]

Now all of a sudden I text him asking him if he's busy and sometimes he will reply and other times he wont. Sometime I wonder if he's loosing interest in me, but when I see him in the halls at school he comes up and talks to me.

Sounds like he is actually busy. Speaking from personal experience, I have a friend who I was able to hang out all the time with during summer but now I am very busy, I even joined swim team. Sometimes I feel bad because I think it looks like I am getting bored of hanging out, but really I am just busy as I said.

[Spook]

I don't think missing a few texts means he's suddenly lost interest in you. If he wants to hang out with you, he likes you! Maybe you want to talk to him, see how he feels. Only he can answer your question.

[ImCoolBeans]

I don't think I'd go as far as trying to kiss him if your unsure. But definitely talk to him about it if you want to pursue a relationship with him.

[hardcore-smile]

we've already kissed... i slept over @ his house.. lol.

[ImCoolBeans]

Well i wasn't sure what you were saying by you slept over his house, but know that i know that i'd say just be up-front with him

[hardcore-smile]

if im up front with him i feel like that will totally freak him out. i've already told him i liked him in the past and he told me he needs to "get to know me" first.

[LuckyLuke]

if im up front with him i feel like that will totally freak him out. i've already told him i liked him in the past and he told me he needs to "get to know me" first.

I have a friend going through the same situation and it ended horribly.

You shouldn't have done anything with him if you weren't in a solidified relationship and wanted to be; by doing anything while he said, "I need to get to know you" you've made yourself too available too quickly- why would he want to go out with you if he can "have fun" while still being really good friends without any commitment? It'd be silly of him, quite frankly.

I think that he's attracted to you and really likes you as a friend but any further, I'm not sure. Don't tell him again that you like him if you told him in the past but also don't do anything with him again and if he asks why tell him that you're not going to sleep with him without knowing if you're not going out or not.

Best of luck,

Lucky Luke

[ryantombs]

with my ex gf before we were going out... i would just tell myself good things come to those who wait my suggestion is wait and see... i am like jdude i prefer the girl to ask me i get so nervous... but i say wait a bit and just continue chilling with him and stuff but as the above poster said... dont like sleep with him have sex like that stuff cuz now he just wants fwb imo if yu say no maybe it will in a way coax (idk spelling) him into going out with you

[hardcore-smile]

i didn't sleep with him !! lol.
I just slept over @ his house. We kissed but that's about it! Today he was walking in the hall with another girl and she was telling him a story and he told her to hold on and came & hugged me & had a conversation with me. This is what I mean by mixed signals. After that I asked him what he was doing tonight & he said "he thinks he has plans but he'll text me later" and he never texted me. What's up with this guy?!?

[music is my soul]

Just because hes walking and talking with another girl doesnt mean he likes her. Alot of guys just like having girl-friends not just gf if you know wat i mean. And again he was probably busy. But like i said before dont think he doesnt lik you just because he was talking to another girl.

[hardcore-smile]

i never said that i dont think that at all, i just thought it meant something that he told her to hang on to come talk to me. but i could be wrong.

[Sacraficialsteak]

Sounds like you're stuck in the dreaded "Friend Zone" be ABSOLUTELY direct about it, even ask him out if you have, or you could wait 2-3 weeks, hang out with as much as possible; movie etc. Preferably movie, try to get off with him ;D, anyway *straightens tie* good luck
~Sacra

[HollisterrBboyy]

Be direct. In my last relationship, I was COMPLETELY honest. I'm serious. I went shopping with her, and the typical "Do these jeans make me look fat?" question cane up and I said yes they do. Try a different pair. She THANKED me for being so honest. In this, I had one of the most successful relationships ever. Be completely honest, obviously not to some extremes, but you get the point. Hopefully that helps. :)