Does this count as a crush?

[Cirrus]

So, I'm a boy in an all-boy school, and recently I noticed that a guy in some of my classes is pretty good looking (I consider myself straight, but hormones and all that stuff)... All the students in the year are on speaking terms, of course, but he isn't someone with whom I have had conversations before. I started taking more notice of him, and I've seen he is relatively like me - attentive in class & quiet (but not afraid to mix) except with a few people... and I'd really like to be one of those people. In school, I can't stop thinking about him.

My point is that this obsession started really suddenly, and I don't want to get emotionally/sexually intimate with him... just be his friend, that's all. Do I have a crush on him, or not?

[Dimitri]

It may be a slight crush but like you said, you're young and hormonal.

[Contra]

Well, you're certainly attracted to him, both physically and psychologically, and he does sound like a good person. But I wouldn't call it a crush, I normally consider "crushes" the "antechamber" to love, even though sometimes it doesn't evolve to that.
Btw, I'm in the same situation as you.

[mxiii]

i think its hormones. give it time to see how it goes.

[Cirrus]

Thanks guys. I've had a few of these experiences before. Generally they just peter out, although one or two have been pretty long-running.

Trouble is, I just never know what to say - to anyone. Most conversations others make with me are stunted and end quickly. I strain to think of things to say, but nothing comes to mind.

[Contra]

It seems as you think too much about what you say, don't be too worried about messing up or it will go wrong. About finding things to say, normally small talk is good for starters, then the conversation will most likely evolve.

[Nicky97]

Don't be afraid of a word. Make it what you want it to be but don't try so hard that it prevents you from being yourself. That's right, don't try to be your best (so you think) just be yourself. It's a special pleasure in life, don't avoid it. Enjoy...

[Jordan1234]

Only hormones...

[StoppingTime]

So, I'm a boy in an all-boy school, and recently I noticed that a guy in some of my classes is pretty good looking (I consider myself straight, but hormones and all that stuff)... All the students in the year are on speaking terms, of course, but he isn't someone with whom I have had conversations before. I started taking more notice of him, and I've seen he is relatively like me - attentive in class & quiet (but not afraid to mix) except with a few people... and I'd really like to be one of those people. In school, I can't stop thinking about him.

My point is that this obsession started really suddenly, and I don't want to get emotionally/sexually intimate with him... just be his friend, that's all. Do I have a crush on him, or not?

In a short answer, probably not. Like you said, at your age, the hormones are going crazy. They make you think of crazy things, some of which you would never dream of doing,and thats fine. I doubt you have a "crush" on him, but rather, you admire him. There is a large difference. Do you just want to be like him? are you slightly jealous of him for how he acts? Again, all of these things are normal. The hormones make you think that everyone who is call you want to think of in a sexual way. However, in reality, you most likely never would.

To sum up, crush=no, admiration=more likely.

[Kujiro]

You would not know if its a crush untill its over, thats how it works.
In fact even if your friends tell you that its a crush, you would not buy it now either.

It would be a good opportunity to understand and explore yourself emotionally, exclude factors of stereotypical thinking and recieve these feelings with an open heart.
Attraction to someone can come in many forms, and its good that you are not attracted to him via the sexual approach.

As he is not afraid to mix, why not try to mix with him and talk to him. Getting to know him better as a platonic approach should be relatively eazy for 2 guys.
With that you will too get a clearer picture if its just a crush, idoling or really an emotional thing.
Hormonal changes may be a small inducing factor, but they are generally not the cause in your situation, as you have not mentioned anything about experimentation or sexual curiousity.
Im looking at it in a very emotional perspective.

Recieve with an open heart and an open mind, remember that sexuality is not a matter of choice, while denial is.
Many a times you may only find what you want by being honest and true to yourself.

Good luck
*smile*