How to react...

[patrick123]

Well I have been on these forums and browsing for like the past two months, and I finally decided to post.

Today something had happened that has changed my whole way of thinking. I got home from school today and got a message from my mother that my best friends mother had committee suicide.

I was having a good day until I had gotten that message. She was basically like a second mother to me. I was always over their house until this past summer due to some issues. I mean I basically went to my room, I had a lot of stuff to do, and I just sat there and had no ability to do anything.

Should I try to talk to my friend? or should I just wait till it is all over?

I really do not know how to react, because this has never happened to me.

[ImCoolBeans]

I think you should be there and give your friend your support. Show that you care, your friend needs you to be there for them right now and he/she also needs your support.

[Kujiro]

Deepest condolences,
As you have mentioned she's like a second mother to you, I'm sure it's a responsibility to aid your friend past this hurdle.

You may be at a lost as this has happened too suddenly, but that's the way life is, do not probe on what happened or why it happened, as it's definiately not a time for that.
You friend needs your support physically and mentally.

Helping him get his life back together as well ad helping yourself get over the lost is the first step you should take.

Depending on culture, he may need assistance at the services and funeral arrangements.
Waiting it out would be considered irresponsible and not something I would look for in a friend whom ive been hanging out with.

Take care
*pats*

[Blind]

You should definitely talk to your friend. He really needs some comfort at a time like this. Just Support him in anyway you can and be nice to him. It will show him that you care for him in his time of struggle

[prob1996]

Sorry to hear that! i agree with the above posters. Be there for your friend. You said that she was like a second mother to u and so obviously she meant something to u so it is a shared between you guys. Draw some suppport from one another. It is sooo hard to deal with sometimes and everyone feels different about these things. and it's ok, everyone grieves differently

[patrick123]

Yeah I know what you mean. Since I posted this I talked to my friend, and basically said that if you need anything to ask,but lile I was paniced that I wluld say the we rong thing. Should I say more? And about helping with the services I am in charge of the local firehall rentals, like watching the hall during a even, so ill be able to help out a lot with the wake. Thanks for the responses, they have helped me a lot since nothing has happened like this before.