Liar, Liar

[Ashleigh]

Hi, I'm not entirely sure if this is the right place to post so I'm sorry if it's not.

I am 15 years old and I am in my last year at high school (year 11)

From about halfway through year 8 untill a week before we split up for summer I was sexually assulted by someone who I used to consider a friend.

After telling my boyfriend I went to the police as he suggested. They recorded every incedent that has happened and after speaking to him they know one thing has 100% definatly occurred as he has confessed to threatening me to send photos of myself but he denies ever touching me dispite the fact i have two witnesses.

He has now told everyone in my year and half of the year below that I have gone to the police and lied about him doing all this to me. He told them exactly what happened but denied everything, not admitting to the one thing he admitted to the police.

I am now dealing with people talking behind my back calling me a liar and some even come up to me and say it to my face. Today I had 3 people come up to me and accuse me and it seems to be getting worse and worse each day.

To be honest I've no idea what to do about it and I'm just fed up of it. Half the people that confront me have never even spoken to me before and they're just judging me on this..... But why would I lie? What would I gain from it?!

[sarah newman]

To be honest, I think you should tell a teacher. They would sort out the people who are bothering you. Because you have a big year in front of you, you don't need this holding you back.
Yes, what this boy did was a really horrible thing to do, and he has made it even worse by spreading stuff about you. You can report him for that. If people come up to you, you can either say that "it has nothing to do with you, leave me alone" or totally blank them.
You need to keep your head held high, try and keep your confidence up and get on with your life.
I had a similar thing happen to me. I was sexually assaulted by my so called boyfriend, and he spread round that I forced him, so my friendship group started to rock a bit, but then I got proof that I wasn't lying. If your friends have gone off you because of this then they aren't true friends. You are not alone. Always remember this.
If you wanna talk more, pm me, good luck with whatever you decide. x

[Aubrie]

I had pretty much the same thing happen. You need to look into your local laws. Most areas have a law against that sort of a behavior. It's harassment of a witness/victim. It can be physical, but also verbal falls under the law. Of course, it may be different there, but that's how it is here, so make sure you read up on it. I know here harassment of a witness/victim is a felony offense. Report it to a teacher or other trusted adult. There is no need for those people to be saying that to you. It just makes dealing with it harder than it already has to be.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to comment, PM, or email me.

[Ashleigh]

Hey, thanks for getting back to me. I will go talk to my mentor tomorrow and see what she thinks. I'm just really annoyed that people would even think I would make that up... I had someone who I don't really get along with come up to me today telling me that they believe me so that made me feel a little better. x

[AncientCatastrophe]

Don't listen to them, they don't know a thing that you've been through no matter what they say don't be affected by it. And maybe always stay with your friends when your in school so you won't be bothered much.

[Ashleigh]

To be honest I don't know who my friends are anymore. Just found out one of them was using me to pass information on to the person who did this to me :/ xx

[Amaryllis]

Sweetheart, there will always be people who will call you a liar. It's still a taboo, even if it's happened to a lot of people, it's hard for people to come to terms with it, especially if it's someone they know. Not to mention, they have no idea what to do.

It's really brave of you to speak up like that. Hell, I can't even say the word "molested" or "Rape" or even "sexual abuse". I can't even type it down to my friends on VT, even though I know they won't think I'm lying and that they won't judge me. It's just a difficult and embarrassing thing to do. All I can do is hint for help through my posts and my poems, art and photographs.

I have a lot of respect for you for telling someone. If you spoke the truth, you have nothing to hide. He does. In the end, you will be okay. I don't have the strength to speak up about my father or mother. In fact, I never plan to. You did it. You have a boyfriend who will stand by you. Now you need to hold on. Look people in the eye and speak. Tell them the truth. Good luck.

Love,
Faith and Trust