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Chester
September 23rd, 2011, 11:29 PM
Is this normal for a 16 year old to have such a bad memory?

I just turned 16 this month, but I am a really forgetful person. And this has been going for many years. I cannot recall my days back before 5th grader. All I remember are just some sherds of unclear memories, especially the sad and extraordinary ones. But I am pretty sure they happened.

I tried to ask my mom about it, about how often she got mad at me when I was young, how I used to cried a lot under the desk in her office, and how she used to clip and pull my ears between her fingers, while dragging me out of the room and I was crying and more more more... But she denied them. She told me that those things did not happen. I can't believe it. I am really sure they did happen, the scenes are like vivid images in my head. However I can never tell the details or reasons and causes of how those things happened.

So, I tried confirming it to my younger sister, and she said that she had no idea about it, she said she didn't remember those!! She did say that our mom pressed down our ears whenever she's angry though.. but that's it! Seriously, Am I going crazy?!

At the first place our family situation is kinda wrecked, messed up, between one another. Our personalities are natural enemies. There's nothing we can do about it. And my parents had always cared about my little sister a lot more since we're kids. And this is probably why my sister admitted that her old days with our parents are mostly of good memories.

Not only about old memories, I forget recent things too. Like "where did I place the key?" And I'll go crazy cluelessly searching all over the place. This doesn't just happen twice or thrice, you should really know how many keys I have ever lost. It happens frequently, to my books, USB, pencils, comb.. Sometimes I even forget whether I've taken my morning bath or no!! What's worse, no matter how I tried to flashback, IT'S ALL BLANK, there's nothing for me to recall! as if I had been doing my stuff absent-mindedly. It doesn't come back in a trice, also not after a day or two. No matter how long I waited, I can't retrieve anything, it doesn't help me to remember!

Trust me, if you asked me what I were doing at school in the past 3 days, I won't be able to tell you.

Please help me, does this mean anything? Should I see a doctor or a psychologist?

smartass722
September 24th, 2011, 10:06 PM
the bad memories could possibly be dreams you had when you were younger and therefor no one else knew about them...i have a few of those

i also dont really remember good memories of my past a few but not a lot mostly they were tramatic events (usually bad) or not even tramatic just like being yelled at during class

as for the short term memory depending on how short it is it could just be that you started thinking of something else and there for you forgot...i remember once being tolled that theres 3 types of memories the 3 min, 5 hours, and lifetime memories each you remember for that amount of time

CJC95
November 20th, 2011, 04:29 AM
I can't really help with that problem, because I'm not a doctor or a psychologist! However I would definitely go see a GP because they can refer you to the right people. Better to go along and find out it's nothing, than not go and find out later you have a problem!

All I can say is that any bad memories from childhood have possibly been manipulated in your head to seem worse, because at the time you were angry with your Mum so you probably exaggerated what happened to make it sound worse, and that's what you remember. Go see a GP so they can refer you the best people for your situation, that's where you'll get the best help.

Yianni
December 23rd, 2011, 11:17 AM
I agree, the bad memories may be your dreams... here's an idea that I have, try keeping a journal of all the things you do. Start out with every little detail with the times tha you did those and keep writing in it about what happened dor maybe a month. If you have noticed a difference then its probably working! I don't know if this will actually help, butit could improve your memory.