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I.J.
September 23rd, 2011, 03:48 PM
OK, so, my friend, we're pretty good friends. He moved here last year (8th Grade), and we didn't have any classes together, but he was on my bus, and we got along like super well. The only time I'd get to talk to him in school was in the hallways, and at lunch I sat with a different group of people. But even at that, we were still good friends, and THIS year we've gotten along awesomely, and we only have lunch together. I don't know if he has any best friends or whatever, but we're close in school. We don't hang out at all outside of school though.

Anyways, he was having a birthday party. Originally, he was questionable about whether I could come, cause he didn't want me to cuss and be all inappropriate around his parents (They're more conservative, and I curse a lot), but of course I was like "Dude, I can control my cussing blah blah blah", and so he said I could come. This was all on Wednesday. So today, he told me that I couldn't come anymore, because his party was filled up (it was at a laser tag place). He said it was because he invited two other people, like friends of friends (he didn't know them too well, I'm guessing).

I dunno how to feel about this, but after he told me I couldn't come, I just felt like really bad for the rest of the day. I don't understand why he would do that, I'm a good friend of his, yet he can't make room for me at his party, inviting two other people he probably hasn't ever met? It just makes me think whether or not I'm actually a friend he actually cares about. I don't know if he's inviting any mutual friends of ours, but that's the thing, if he did, I just hate not being included. I just feel really bad, and don't know what to do our what to think of our friendship now, I thought we were pretty good friends, we laugh at each other's jokes ALL the time and we get along really well, but I just hope that he doesn't think of me as not as good of a friend as any of his friends.

Sorry for that hella long post, probably didn't need to be that long...

Kaius
September 23rd, 2011, 03:53 PM
Its natural to be upset, you regard him as a good friend and he pretty much just trampled all over that. It is going to hurt and it really is going to feel worse if it turns out he has invited mutual friends, but honestly mate try not to take it to heart. He's obviously not a true friend and you need to look for someone you know you can depend on. When it comes to your birthday I'd make sure you leave him out and let him feel exactly what you felt like, or better still find a new group of friends that will appreciate you like you appreciate them.

DerBear
September 23rd, 2011, 04:32 PM
It happens.

It does not make him a bad friend that he canncled at the last min as he never intended to invite you in the first place in some ways you could look at it as you pressuring him into inviting you.

anyway best thing to do is just move on