Feeling crushed

[Megson]

I was having a conversation with my father today. We got to got to the subject about gays, lesbians, and bisexuals.

He doesn't believe in bisexual people. He thinks they're faking it, or they just hate people of the opposite gender so much, that they go gay. But its 'impossible' to be bisexual.

Also, he basically said gays were usually just 'buckboys.' He said that black people claim to not be gay, yet they always have sex with men. He said gay sex is "Sick, sick, sick."

He said a lot of other things that offended me as well, but those are the basics. It kind of stung. I'm almost positive I'm bisexual, and he basically said that my kind aren't real... And I'm an adamant supporter of gay rights and marriage, so for my own father to go on this gay rant was hurtful.

(Sorry for the rant. I needed to get it out)

[StoppingTime]

Don't worry about the rant, do that as much as you want. It really does help express your feelings. Obviously, he doesn't know what he is talking about. Although, currently, I wouldnt bring up the subject to him, it would probably only make matters worse. Also, was he screaming/ranting when he said this to you?

Don't be ashamed of who you are, and try to just let it pass. However, if he does bring it up again, then maybe you could try to question him on his beliefs.

Good Luck, and everyone here is more than happy to talk to you :)

[Megson]

Don't worry about the rant, do that as much as you want. It really does help express your feelings. Obviously, he doesn't know what he is talking about. Although, currently, I wouldnt bring up the subject to him, it would probably only make matters worse. Also, was he screaming/ranting when he said this to you?

Don't be ashamed of who you are, and try to just let it pass. However, if he does bring it up again, then maybe you could try to question him on his beliefs.

Good Luck, and everyone here is more than happy to talk to you :)

No, he was not screaming, but he isn't the screaming type. When he's upset or angry about something, he kind of mumbles, sometimes almost so low that you can't even hear him. And that's how he was talking in this conversation.

I've tried questioning his beliefs before, actually! He assumes I don't know what I'm talking about because I'm only 16. He's older, so he thinks he's sooo much wiser than me, and his opinions are always the 'correct' ones.

[thecanjump]

When ever I go out with my parents to chili's there is a gay waiter there and every time my dad would have to make a comment about gay people and how it's just abnormal. I am not much of a talker so I just allowed my dad to go on and on about the stuff while I just drift off and think of something else or if I have my food just enjoy it.

Ever since I told my mother I was bisexual and liked guys some more than girls, my father has not yet made comments about gays. None I just need to get him to shut up about his racist comments...

Just stay true to yourself and things will some time get better. Just ignore his ignorance and be happy =)

[Lights]

Many parents are unfamiliar with LGBT people, therefore their understanding of them is pretty limited. This is clearly the case with your father, and although this is a difficult thing to do, I advise you to just take what he says with a little pinch of salt and not let it get the better of you. He clearly does not understand anything about sexuality, consequently resulting in his poor judgement.

Your father sounds a lot like mine in the respect you said "he's older, so he thinks he's sooo much wiser than me, and his opinions are always the 'correct' ones." My father is exactly the same way, although I've never talked about my sexuality with him; I very much doubt he's even realised I'm gay.
I told my mother about my sexuality a couple of months ago, and she thought it was probably just a phase. I told her it was not, and I think she diplomatically agreed with me to stop me from arguing with her. She comes from a generation where there was little opportunity for LGBT people to come out and be themselves, therefore, like many parents including your father, she's a little limited in her knowledge and understanding. None of my family bash LGBT people though, I'm pleased to say.

So, sexuality is probably a subject you're best to avoid with your father. Unless you want to educate him, which you could do by coming out to him and explaining your feelings. That's a very hard thing to do for a lot of teens, but if you want to set things straight (no pun intended) with him, that might be the way to do it. Just think things over a little.

[Can'tHelpIt]

im so gad my parents support anything

[ImCoolBeans]

Don't worry about the rant, do that as much as you want. It really does help express your feelings. Obviously, he doesn't know what he is talking about. Although, currently, I wouldnt bring up the subject to him, it would probably only make matters worse. Also, was he screaming/ranting when he said this to you?

Don't be ashamed of who you are, and try to just let it pass. However, if he does bring it up again, then maybe you could try to question him on his beliefs.

Good Luck, and everyone here is more than happy to talk to you :)

I agree, maybe try to question his beliefs and tell him some of your beliefs. You're his daughter he should be understanding and accepting.

[WonderTastic]

i understand i have to hear that from my fam all the time and i have to act like i agree. yes its possible to like both genders lol its like saying you can only like one sport or one color or one game no you like more then onne no one is heteral or homo with all aspects of there life ...(basicly saying no one ljust what they supose to like and no one likes just one thing)

[sieg]

get used to it buddy, unless you tell him anytime soon he's gonna keep talking trash about lgbt community. Best of luck, sincerely been i the same place for like 4 years