Pre marital sex

[Kuervo]

what are your guy's opinion on pre marital sex? any opinion is valuable :)

[Angel Androgynous]

I think it's individual choice and that pre-martial sex is okay. I really don't get the big deal... if you don't like it, don't do it.

[Neptune]

I don't think it is a problem. If people wanna fuck before marriage, let them. It's not hurting me.

[Nihilus]

It's fine and 100% natural. It's up to the person.

[NomSan]

I'm never gonna get married, so I don't see a problem with having sex before marriage.

[Sage]

Pre-marital sex fucking rocks, man.

[jurisprudent]

Ya, I'm neutral on Premarital sex, it happens everywhere, not really a big deal, just take proper precautions to avoid the riskys.

[Infidelitas]

Well, technically I have, so I am fine with it.

[Short Circuit]

You have got to find out if your right for each other, what better way than sex?

[Sage]

what better way than sex?

Uhhhh, conversation?

[Luves Everything x]

With conversation, you learn things like your hobbies, but without pre-marital sex you wouldn't learn whether you were compatible like that: and that could raise divorce levels, physical abuse or even unhappy marriages, which isn't a good thing :( In cases like this sex before marriage is a good thing.

[Efflorescence]

Well, whatever I guess........but I think that both should be prepared for any consequences whatever those may be........
Anyway they have to face them so they can do whatever they want....... enjoy.............

[StoppingTime]

Personally, I wont do it (Jewish and observant) and this is prohibited. But really, I dont care if you do it, I just think that is a matter that shouldn't be taken lightly, and you should really think about it before.

[BOSS]

I find it kinda pointless and I don't believe in it and I never will. God wants us to have a very well driven sex life but only with your WIFE or HUSBAND and sex out side of mirage is actually a sin believe it or not "I was surprised as well" sooo think about that next time you want to get into a girls or guys pants.

[Origami]

With conversation, you learn things like your hobbies, but without pre-marital sex you wouldn't learn whether you were compatible like that: and that could raise divorce levels, physical abuse or even unhappy marriages, which isn't a good thing :( In cases like this sex before marriage is a good thing.

What the hell does sex have to do with a marriage? Sex is nowhere in the vows. Poorly thought assumptions like that raise teenage pregnancies, poorly excused suicides, and substance abuse. Oh fuck, look where we're at now. Marriage = Love. Sex = Lust. Love does not equal lust. Thus marriage and sex should no correlate with one another. Yes, you fuck your wife, but that's not the reason to be married, and if it is, just stick to casual sex.

As for premarital sex, casual sex is the best way to go.

[Vonn]

I find it kinda pointless and I don't believe in it and I never will. God wants us to have a very well driven sex life but only with your WIFE or HUSBAND and sex out side of mirage is actually a sin believe it or not "I was surprised as well" sooo think about that next time you want to get into a girls or guys pants.

The point of casual sex is to feel good and make the other person feel good in return. Sex has been around forever, while the idea of God has not. Every person that existed before the introduction of God or marriage had sex. It wasn't sinful because it was during a time when sin didn't exist. Marriage may be holy, but sex really isn't.

[Kaius]

It doesn't bother me. As long as you're ready for it it doesn't matter when you do it. Within reason obviously but yeah.

[Fiction]

Marriage doesn't really change anything does it? It's just confirmation that you're together a promise that you're staying together. It's a nice thought, and i'd like to get married but it doesn't really mean anything. There is nothing wrong with pre-marital sex, just as Aaron said, as long as they're both ready for it, and they're not going to regret it later.

[Triceratops]

I think you should have sex before you get married. I mean, what if you got married to someone and only just found out that they were so totally shit in bed...awkward.

[DerBear]

The fact of sex before marrige does not bother me.

But I will say, I dont do casual fucks with anyone who wants too.

For me sex is a more intimate act, I think it should be done out of love and care for both people involved. Gentle and loving and care.

But thats just my view and opinon

[Genghis Khan]

But I will say, I dont do casual fucks with anyone who wants too.

you're what, 15?

[Epic]

Sex is a natural thing.... I didn't even know there are people who don't have sex until marriage. Wow they must be like in their 30's...

[jurisprudent]

I think you should have sex before you get married. I mean, what if you got married to someone and only just found out that they were so totally shit in bed...awkward.

:what: Lol, marriage isn't all about being good in bed.

[Luves Everything x]

sex is a more intimate act, I think it should be done out of love and care for both people involved. Gentle and loving and care.

I totally agree: whilst sex is ok before marriage, i dont think things like one night stands are very important.

sex out side of mirage is actually a sin

It's only a sin if you believe in God or the equivalent, if you dont than it isnt a sin.

[Sage]

:what: Lol, marriage isn't all about being good in bed.

What do you know about marriage? You aren't even old enough to get married yet.

[Efflorescence]

Marriage doesn't really change anything does it?

Yes it does. It makes things worse from what I observe around me.

you're what, 15?

Oh my.....because you're so much older than him. You're....(drum rolls)...17!!!!!!!!!

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[DerBear]

you're what, 15?

Yes I know I am only 15 and yes I am still a virgin (and proud of it) but I just know that I wont have sex with just anyone.

I totally agree: whilst sex is ok before marriage, i dont think things like one night stands are very important

Just like you I myself dont care about one night stands and I think sex is a more intimate act.

[embers]

Yes it does. It makes things worse from what I observe around me.



Oh my.....because you're so much older than him. You're....(drum rolls)...17!!!!!!!!!

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Somebody's moody.

[Epic]

Wow You guys are bitchy today eh?
Sex dosen't have to be something intimate... Did you guys ever hear of something called Prostitution? :P

[Luves Everything x]

Just because prostitution does exist, and isn't usually intimate, doesn't make it the right thing to do.

[Epic]

lol Right and Wrong Is just a popular opinion, Doesn't mean you have to follow it.

[Luves Everything x]

I spose so, but that really only counts for societally right and wrong; things that are morally right or wrong are down to what you think

[prob1996]

Pre-marital sex fucking rocks, man.

^^^ hahahaha absolutely agree!!!!!!!!!!!^^^


It really depends on the persons involved. I feel it's ok and as long as done safely and with no harm, why not????

[Genghis Khan]

Oh my.....because you're so much older than him. You're....(drum rolls)...17!!!!!!!!!

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You're not funny man, you really aren't.

[Peace God]

Best kind of sex there is.

[Sage]

Yes I know I am only 15 and yes I am still a virgin (and proud of it) but I just know that I wont have sex with just anyone.

Have you been offered casual sex? Because if not, then that isn't something to really take pride in.

[DerBear]

Have you been offered casual sex? Because if not, then that isn't something to really take pride in.

What I am saying is I wont just have sex with anyone just because they ask, and the answe to your question would be no but anyone who knows me knows that I am rather conservative and would not do that anyway, I was not taking pride in it really I was just making a statment

[Jess]

well I see nothing wrong with it at all....I personally will never do it, before or after.....um but that's another story.......>_<

[Amaryllis]

Yes I know I am only 15 and yes I am still a virgin (and proud of it) but I just know that I wont have sex with just anyone.

What I am saying is I wont just have sex with anyone just because they ask, and the answe to your question would be no but anyone who knows me knows that I am rather conservative and would not do that anyway, I was not taking pride in it really I was just making a statment

Make up your mind ;P

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It's their body. Whatever they wanna do with it is their choice. If they want the risk of falling pregnant or impregnating another, sure. If they only want to have sex when they're married, sure. Saying someone shouldn't do something or should is silly and hypocritical.

Different people have different views on sex. Some view it as just another natural part of life. Some people find it hard not to have sex. Some people don't want to have sex. Hell, some of my friends won't even say "sex". But I'm 15, I'm not married, I've never had willing sex so I wouldn't know.

Your body, your choice.

[jurisprudent]

What do you know about marriage? You aren't even old enough to get married yet.

It's called research. ;)

[Amaryllis]

It's called research. ;)

Research isn't enough to give you an in depth view of a subject such as this. It's like talking about anorexia as if you've been through it after some "research".

[jurisprudent]

Research isn't enough to give you an in depth view of a subject such as this. It's like talking about anorexia as if you've been through it after some "research".

As if I don't know that, I know research is not enough, but it is enough to know that marriage is not only about being good in bed.

[Amaryllis]

As if I don't know that, I know research is not enough, but it is enough to know that marriage is not only about being good in bed.

Lots of married couples divorce because one of them won't have sex with the other or they just don't have that "spark" anymore.

EDIT: But I agree, marriage shouldn't just be about getting laid. Unfortunately, however, sex is quite a big part of the marriage. But it depends on the couple.

[Efflorescence]

Somebody's moody.

Oh my, I found a pic of a cute little baby.......you should at least appreciate.

You're not funny man, you really aren't.

you're what, 15?

I find your above statement very funny, on the contrary. I didn't know you had to be 17 to be considered 'mature' or entitled to your own opinion. And what he said makes a lot of sense even though he's 'only 15':

Just like you I myself dont care about one night stands and I think sex is a more intimate act.

I agree with you...keep it up.

Have you been offered casual sex? Because if not, then that isn't something to really take pride in.

And why?

[Luves Everything x]

I think only someone who has done both can make a true judgement, on which is right, or better or whatever, but as no-one can do that, than it shouldn't be up to others to decide what you should or shouldn't do (expect the law and stuff like that)

Pre marital sex is right for whoever wants it to be right, and wrong for those that don't.

[Genghis Khan]

I find your above statement very funny, on the contrary. I didn't know you had to be 17 to be considered 'mature' or entitled to your own opinion. And what he said makes a lot of sense even though he's 'only 15'

My point was, he's 15, it's highly unlikely that people will casually walk up to him for sex. In no place did I imply that he has to be exactly my age.

[embers]

Oh my, I found a pic of a cute little baby.......you should at least appreciate.

Waste of effort, really.

[Slytherin_Prince]

There is no such thing as "holy matrimony".
Marriage is much like a business accord, a combining of funds, nothing more.
Sexual acts have nothing to do with this accord, and therefore they are not related.
For that reason, I see no reason why pre-marital copulation should be prohibited.
If someone willingly abstains, however, that is their own choice.
It will, however, never be mine.
One should stay loyal to their partner, certainly, but when sexual acts with
said partner are allowed is decided by both participants, not the charade
that is present day marriage.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

[acurasrock]

I think its important to make sure you are sexually compatible before getting married. There's no way one should have to wait until the wedding day, possibly to find out it isnt what they expected and have tons of problems. I say, YES, YES, to Pre-Maritial sex. Or better yet, dont get married.

[Luves Everything x]

Marriage is much like a business accord, a combining of funds, nothing more.

Thats a little bit emotionless, isn't it??? Isn't marriage supposed to be about love and emotions and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, not money

[Slytherin_Prince]

Thats a little bit emotionless, isn't it??? Isn't marriage supposed to be about love and emotions and wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, not money

Not emotionless, but rational thinking.
If you truly "love" someone, though I resent the possibility, marriage would have the same function.
Combining funds and assets. it's all business.
If marriage was all about love, it would be much simpler.
It's just a way to control the other party's assets and combining financial power and wealth.
Besides, if you want to bind yourself to someone, would you really need marriage to do so?

[Luves Everything x]

I agree that with certain peoples marriage it ends up being about the money, but at the heart of it, marriage is a way to show everyone that you want to spend your life with the person you are marrying, whether they are rich or poor, sick or healthy, till the day you die.

I don't think it's rational thinking, and I understand that even though some marriages are for money, and some marriages for love don't work out (been there, done that) but marriage itself still stands.

[Bath]

I think pre-marital sex should be up to the individual's morals and values, it's not an easy "right or wrong" thing like murder or cheating. If you feel comfortable waiting that long, and feel it's necessary, then go for it.

Waiting until you're married, waiting until you find love, or losing it in the locker room when you're 15. None of these things make you a good or bad person, and it shouldn't define you. It's your personal business.

[Efflorescence]

My point was, he's 15, it's highly unlikely that people will casually walk up to him for sex. In no place did I imply that he has to be exactly my age.

Ok....just forget it ok? Anyway I don't know why the fuck I made such a fuss on something that was not directed at me, especially considering the fact that I'm 17 not 15, so I didn't have any reason to be 'offended'.....

Anyway, just to tell you that I don't think it's highly unlikely...in fact I am certain that nowadays even girls as young as fourteen can be 'walked up to' for that sort of thing.

How do I know? No comment.

Waste of effort, really.

Ok.

[embers]

Ok.

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[Efflorescence]

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Man, what the hell do you want me to tell you? If I say 'this', you tell me I'm moody, if I say 'that' you post me a pic of Squidward Tentacles. Now that is really a waste of effort. At least the baby was cute.........

It looks like nothing I say is good enough...TOO BAD......not my problem.

[User Deleted]

Its okay if the two people have an idea what they are doing. If they don't want a kid then they shouldn't have sex even if they are married.

[embers]

Man, what the hell do you want me to tell you? If I say 'this', you tell me I'm moody, if I say 'that' you post me a pic of Squidward Tentacles. Now that is really a waste of effort. At least the baby was cute.........

It looks like nothing I say is good enough...TOO BAD......not my problem.

Fine, I'll say something more productive.

I actually agree with you on the part of fourteen year olds having casual fucks. It happens over here, and I'm sure it also happens where you live. I just think you need to calm your nerves a bit, you know. The baby was cute.

FqjNzFPnPew

[Efflorescence]

Fine, I'll say something more productive.

I actually agree with you on the part of fourteen year olds having casual fucks. It happens over here, and I'm sure it also happens where you live. I just think you need to calm your nerves a bit, you know. The baby was cute.

FqjNzFPnPew

I know I need to calm down, it's that I'm a bit biased as it's something that happened to someone close to me. It disgusts me especially when the other partner is much older and is supposed to be the 'adult'. Of course there's nothing I can do about it but I hate it.

Aside : (even your baby is cute) lol

[embers]

I know I need to calm down, it's that I'm a bit biased as it's something that happened to someone close to me. It disgusts me especially when the other partner is much older and is supposed to be the 'adult'. Of course there's nothing I can do about it but I hate it.

As much as it does disgust me too that 15 year olds in my year are having casual fucks with people as old as 23, I have to respect that it's their decision to do so. Still, it's waaaaay illegal for that kind of shit to be happening, so I am against it.

[Luves Everything x]

If they don't want a kid then they shouldn't have sex even if they are married.

I don't think that's true, nowadays there are numerous ways to prevent pregnancies that don't involve abstinence

[Simon.]

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The purpose of Sexual intercourse is clearly for Reproduction. There are plenty of other things to do than spilling your seed around with any drunk bimbo you meet.

[Luves Everything x]

That seems a bit harsh

[embers]

The purpose of Sexual intercourse is clearly for Reproduction.

Says who?

[Genghis Khan]

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The purpose of Sexual intercourse is clearly for Reproduction. There are plenty of other things to do than spilling your seed around with any drunk bimbo you meet.

Who says it has to be with some drunk bimbo I meet? Why can't I have sex with my girlfriend without the intention of producing children?

[Sage]

There are plenty of other things to do than spilling your seed around with any drunk bimbo you meet.

Yeah, like not spilling your seed and just using contraceptives or abortion. Oh, or plenty of other sexual acts that I probably can't describe here. Besides, if you keep all that to yourself for so long, you'll just become really uptight and unlikable and conservative.

[Efflorescence]

I think that saying 'I can use contraceptives' is ok, but saying 'There's always abortion' is not ok.

The reason is that I think that even most of the people who are pro-choice agree that abortion is a terrible experience and that using it as a form of birth control is A) not healthy both psychologically and physically and B) lame, to put it mildly.

[Sage]

I think that saying 'I can use contraceptives' is ok, but saying 'There's always abortion' is not ok.

You're right, that was somewhat redundant. Abortion is just another sort of contraceptive, like condoms or the morning after pill.

[Efflorescence]

You're right, that was somewhat redundant. Abortion is just another sort of contraceptive, like condoms or the morning after pill.

I agree with you that the morning after pill is a form of abortion, but condoms are not.

And abortion is not a form of contraceptive and shouldn't be used as one in my opinion.

[Sage]

I agree with you that the morning after pill is a form of abortion, but condoms are not.

And abortion is not a form of contraceptive and shouldn't be used as one in my opinion.

Why do you have such a negative attitude towards sex?

[Efflorescence]

Ummmmmmm..........this is um.....well never mind........
I do not have a negative attitude towards sex.
It's just that I think that abortion is not in any way like condoms and that using abortive procedures as a method of birth control is wrong.

[HaydenM]

I don't think their is anything wrong with premarital sex, but if you don't want kids be safe.

[embers]

I don't think their is anything wrong with premarital sex, but if you don't want kids be safe.

Implying people are 'kids' until they get married.

[Simon.]

Says who?

The vicar of Christ.

http://www.cadenhead.org/workbench/gems/pope-benedict-saturno-hat.jpg

[Jess]

seriously? Not everyone's going to listen to the "vicar of Christ"

[Angel Androgynous]

The vicar of Christ.

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Your "arguments," are completely centered on religious belief...

Religion should be kept out of politics. :rolleyes:

[embers]

The vicar of Christ.

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The KKK told me I should hate black people.

[Infidelitas]

Well, if you don't plan on getting married, its not pre-marital sex. Is it?

If the pope told you that it was safe to eat poop, would you believe him?

[Simon.]

If the pope told you that it was safe to eat poop, would you believe him?

Do you imagine him saying that? :yawn:

[Angel Androgynous]

Do you imagine him saying that? :yawn:
Hypothetically, what if he said that you have to eat poop every Wednesday to honor God? Oh well, why listen to some silly old man in a silly old hat?
Who the hell appointed him as the "vicar of Christ" anyway?

[User Deleted]

I don't think that's true, nowadays there are numerous ways to prevent pregnancies that don't involve abstinence

Accidents happen, Cymbalta cant always help.

Sorry I had to do that. How would you like to know you were a a broken condom or a dud of an abortion pill. Nobody would. And when someone is the person who has the accident I have NO sympathy for them. Because they shouldn't be sluts and have sex when they don't need or want to.

[embers]

Do you imagine him saying that? :yawn:

That's besides the point. If the Pope said something along the route of pure disgusting (such as the eating shit), you would listen to him?

[Beaker]

In my eyes, marriage is a purely legal agreement. It bears no grounds on whether you should have a baby or not. Personally, I'm never going to get married, but I can see from a religious standpoint how it might be important

[ImCoolBeans]

This is a bump, don't do that.
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