Best Friend is Cutting.

[LittlePaperStars]

One of my friends are cutting.
It's been a week since she started, and I found out today.

She said that she's done it because of a guy. She dosn't believe that she's good enough for anyone, and I can't convince her how lucky I am to have her in my life. I want her to stop before it gets really bad.

She cuts out of boredom.
She doesn't want to tell anyone else.
She doesn't want help.
But I told my counselor about her, and how I'm so so so worried about her. She told me that we'll think of something.

I'm so worried, because she started on her wrist, and uses the same thing I used. I feel like I'm her influence because I told her about my cutting when she didn't start yet. I felt so bad, that I almost broke my 12 day streak...
I don't know what to do...what should I do to help her?

Sorry, my thoughts are really unorganized...

[anonymous53]

First, it's not your fault, don't feel guilty. Maybe you can both try to stop, together? Convince her this is one addiction...you don't need.

[ShatteredGlass]

I agree. It's not your fault. You cannot control anyone else's actions she made the decision herself and will have to make a decision not to for herself the only think I can think of is maybe try and set example, if her cutting is doing this to you, what is your cutting doing to her? Stop for her. And stop for you. Start working on expressing your emotions adaquetly once you can manage your emotions and live a cut free life you're already an inspiration to everyone who knows you and everyone who cuts.

[Amaryllis]

It's great you care and want to help her, hun. But in the end only she can over come this. Sit with her. Share with her your experiences and achievements. Tell her it gets worse, that it isn't worth the life-long scars she will leave. The secrets and lies. That her parents will find out sooner or later. Tell her you're there if she needs you, tell her you're good enough, encourage her to see a counsellor.

And all you can do is hope she takes the right steps. Good luck :) I'm here if YOU ever need me.

Love,
Faith and Trust

[LittlePaperStars]

The thing is, she feels like she NEEDS to see blood; she feels numb.
She knows that there's another way, but she doesn't seem to want to find it right now...
She also said that she'd throw away her blade tonight.
I'm still scared for her, and I already spoke to my counselor.

[AncientCatastrophe]

Support her, you are the best thing right now that could help her. The bot of you may not have the same reasons but the thing you could do is to help and convince her.

[ShatteredGlass]

What's the best thing someone can do for you? You cut so at least you can understand a little. Whatever you need someone to be for you, be that for her.

[Triste]

Be there for her, tell her that you're there for her and that you'll be in this with her to the end. It sucks when something like that is happening with a.friend, but its happened to me before and I just let her get.worse because I was too weak to help. Don't make the mistake I did.

[LittlePaperStars]

She's quit- I'm so happy for her :D This seriously made my week and it motivates me too :)