i'm crazy

[itswhatever_yep]

i dont know what to do i want to kill myself so bad. My boyfriend broke up with me and basically doesnt want anything to do with me and wont even hang out as friends. I just want to die. I started cutting. I need help but im scared to go to anyone I dont want people to know i'm crazy. I love my ex more than anything in this entire world and i dont want to be without him. I just want to be dead

[Hyper]

So you'd kill yourself over teenage love?

You need a bit of reality.. There are other people who love you more than a guy who breaks up with you. It's understandable that you're sad, but killing yourself over a kid isn't the best thing to do, you would then even lose any change of being with him, and you'd be well simply put it dead

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

im gonna be harsh to get a point out that ive tried to get out throughout the whole selfharm section. where the hell is cutting going to lead u. 1. its gonna hurt u, 2. its not gonna make shit better. all ur gonna do is start resorting to that then becoming sad that u cant stop, thats what i call weakness. teenage love isnt something to kill urself over. try and talk to him, perhaps something HUGE happened in his family and hes utterly destroyed over it. if i was in that kind of situation, i wouldnt wana talk/be around a gf or friends, id just want to be alone to think. give him some time, and u stay healthy and dont start tht wweakling habit of cuting urslef, it'l only make things harder

[weird-o]

dont kill urself/cut urself over some boy its just not right.mabe u 2 wernt ment to be. and if u are it just might not be now maybe later in life.but there will be some one for u but if u kill urself u will never find him

[*lynn*]

dont start tht wweakling habit of cuting urslef


weakling habit? look, you might think cutting isn't the best way to deal with problems, but you shouldn't just brush it aside like that. it's a big deal, and actually you have to be pretty strong to do it to yourself. so maybe next time you can watch how you word things, okay? because it's offensive to read things like that. this place is to help people, not to bash on the ways some people cope with the things in their life.

[Sapphire]

i dont know what to do i want to kill myself so bad. My boyfriend broke up with me and basically doesnt want anything to do with me and wont even hang out as friends. I just want to die. I started cutting. I need help but im scared to go to anyone I dont want people to know i'm crazy. I love my ex more than anything in this entire world and i dont want to be without him. I just want to be dead

I know that its tough when in this situation, but you have to be strong. You are entitled to feel sad, abandoned, let down etc and I'm not going to take that away from you. You just have to hang on in there.
Dying won't solve this. Only living can do that. Go out with friends, even if it's just to the cinema it will help break up the desperation you are experiencing. A little time with your friends can show you that there are people who care and want you around.

May I ask what made you make that first cut?
No matter what other people have said it is not a weakness. It provides a way of coping to those who have no others. It isn't by any means a good way of coping, but it keeps some people alive. But it destroys lives at the same time. There are a whole 6 months where I can't remember anything apart from 3 events because I was so caught in depression and self harm.
If you need to chat I'm here

[BillyWitchDoctor.com]

weakling habit? look, you might think cutting isn't the best way to deal with problems, but you shouldn't just brush it aside like that. it's a big deal, and actually you have to be pretty strong to do it to yourself. so maybe next time you can watch how you word things, okay? because it's offensive to read things like that. this place is to help people, not to bash on the ways some people cope with the things in their life.

i say things how i think, u cant possibly think ur gonna help people stop a habit like cutting if u dont be assertive and somewhat agressive. i say nothing personally, i dont mean to go out at someone when i say something, but i say what i think. how are u mentally strong if ur CUTTIN URSELF to solve problems?? many people are able to do painful things to themselves goign against what the body actually wants, going against what would be healthy, that doesnt mean u have a strong mind. if ur mentaly strong, you'd be able to realize u need help and go out to a school counselor and be able to admit u have some problems in ur life. if my best friend told me they were cutting, id tell them they need to get help and stop this WEAKLING HABBIT. When u cut urself to deal with a problem, you prove that ur mind and control over urself is weak and you cant bring urself to do what needs to be done. i beleive that 100% and u telling me im being insensitive isnt going to stop that. im here to help people, and when somebody's being stupid enough to fucking take a blade and cut themselves when they cant deal with a problem, im going to be as agressive as i need to be to ram it into their heads that that is wrong. the longer it takes to convince someone that cutting themselves isnt going to solve anything and that its just going to make things worse and harder on ur mind, the more harm they end up getting done because they continue to cut themselves. now, on the other hand, say i have a son one day or a daughter, dont matter, and s/he comes to me saying that they have some sort of problem and they've been cutting themselves. im not gonna say "u lil weakling, deal w/ ur problems the strong way." im goign to congradulate them for doing things correctly and doing what needs to be done: realizing u cant handle the situation and getting real help from others who know what to do. if ur a cutter and u are able to stop, realize in cutting u cant handle ur problems for the given situation and seek real help, you have a very strong mind and strong control over ur body, health and what needs to be done.

[Sapphire]

Telling someone they are being weak isn't going to help. Being aggressive isn't going to help. These will most likely make people defensive and an argument will break out. Your heart is in the right place, just the manner you went about it isn't the best.
You are more likely to help someone stop by showing them in a non-aggressive manner the fact that it ruins lives, congratulating them on doing well (as you have said), supporting them on the road to recovery and help them to find replacement outlets for emotions.

It takes a strong level of desperation to cause someone to feel the only way they can cope is through hurting themselves. It takes a strong level of determination to break the cycle/addiction. Self harm is not a coping mechanism for the weak or the strong, it is one for the desperate.

[*lynn*]

being assertive about things is great billy, but being aggressive isn't. it doesn't help, and only makes things worse!!

and cutting doesn't mean that you aren't mentally strong, and just because peole are cutting doesn't mean that they don't know that they need help. most cutters know that what they are doing is not good for their bodies, but they don't know how or who to ask for help. and partly because that is is because of the reaction people might have towards their SI. people might react like you and say that they are weak and not strong.

you aren't helping by being aggresive. i hope you know that.