My gayness

[holdendeman]

Well, I am gay and have came to the conclusion since i turned 12. Now I am late 13. I starting thinking about it since i turned 10 to 11. If you are wondering if you are gay or not, listen to this...

A gay person realizing he or she or gay consists of these times...
Having no attraction to the opp. gender (or little if bi.)
Then you go in denial that you are gay which may result in asking questions on this forum.
Then you will decide you are gay. The end.

With denial, this is the golden rule. There are no such things as phases. You like one, the other or both. If you're questioning your sexuality, you are bisexual or gay.

This is how I came out- we were going home from a band competition trip at Darien Lake (I won the Soloist's award :P ) and one of my best friends (a girl) was sitting in a seat BEHIND me on the Chaffer bus. You can not sit with someone of the opposite gender, so I had to sit with a guy that annoys me. The girl (I'll just call Sally as a code name or whatever) and I were talking from the crack in between the window and our seats. We were both sitting with people. She had always suspected I like guys, but I always denied. She never asked if I'm gay, she just jokingly says I am. (and were bad whisperers.....) she legitly asked me if I'm gay, and I rolled my eyes. She was like really!? I know your lying!! And I said does it look like it? And she said yeah and laughed. I said I am and she was pretty surprised, and she asked mean trillion questions about it and about guys I like, blah blah blah.

The only other person that knows is also one of my best friends. Sadly it was over text, but she's supporting to the point where she's willing to find out if the guy I like is guy, when he is the guy that SHE likes.

Do any people on this site have any weird coming out moments like these?
:P

[acurasrock]

I like your story, that's cool ya could talk to that chick about it, I came out to my best chick friend first too, girls are so cool about it. I waited till I was 15 to come out and I still wasnt ready, I was caught by my mom doing some things in my room with my friend naked under the covers after school. She opened the door and there we were caught red handed. So she asked if I was gay I said yes have been, she already knew lol. And you'll have so many friends and stuff you wont have to worry about it at all, it's very awesome! Good luck bro!

[nameless12]

hahahaha yeaaa, something like that happend to me too :D it was really funny.
my best friend (wich is a girl) liked a guy, and soo i liked him too, not cuz she liked him but cuz i really liked him. so after 7 months of watching that guy be with girls and being with her and me helping them both so that they could have a good realtionship, i told her i liked him too XD, and soo she was totaly surprised and also asked me alot of questions. so now she knew everything about me and that is that.
o and i liked your story :)

[redmann]

That same thing happened to me! (but it wasnt my first time telling someone) But i was sitting by one of my friends (a girl ) and we were like talking about like familyor whatever and she just out of nowhere asked me "are you gay" It was pretty funny cause i was really suprised so without thinking i was just like "yes" and she was really cool about it though.

[Gandalf]

The OP is very narrow minded, it's saying it take no account of other sexualities, it generalises and actually alienates members of this forum for asking questions.
A good example:

"If you're questioning your sexuality, you are bisexual or gay."
-Wrong. A person questioning could be any sexuality. Or identify as straight and still be curious/question.

As a person who is currently questioning I find the majority of the post offensive.

EDIT:
1) Sorry for repeating previous poster
2) "You go into denial" - Wrong some do and some (including myself) stay "in" to avoid possible embarrassment/abuse/ridicule of mis identifying.
(sorry, I just strongly felt the need to share this)

[holdendeman]

Sorry, what I said came out a bit stronger than intended! Really sorry! And I am wrong, if your bi it is something you are forced to think about! And yes, it is important and health to think and decide what you are and everything! Just ignore the top parts I guess!

The OP is very narrow minded, it's saying it take no account of other sexualities, it generalises and actually alienates members of this forum for asking questions.
A good example:

"If you're questioning your sexuality, you are bisexual or gay."
-Wrong. A person questioning could be any sexuality. Or identify as straight and still be curious/question.

As a person who is currently questioning I find the majority of the post offensive.

EDIT:
1) Sorry for repeating previous poster
2) "You go into denial" - Wrong some do and some (including myself) stay "in" to avoid possible embarrassment/abuse/ridicule of mis identifying.
(sorry, I just strongly felt the need to share this)

[Syvelocin]

I skipped the denial part then. :P

I believe in phases, most definitely. I believe someone's sexuality can change. I think some people are born gay and some people become gay, but they don't just wake up and decide either.

And I never really questioned much. I just said... "Oh, okay, I'm bisexual." And I thought about it more when I was figuring out if I was gay or not (which was much more recently) but honestly, the minute I started thinking about it I was dead sure already, despite the next week of questions and thoughts I was going to go through.

No really interesting coming out stories. I just... came out. I came out twice though, which was fun. I came out bisexual before I came to the conclusion that gay fit better, and sort of came out again. When I realized it though, it was just a single girl I found attractive. One girl I sort of liked. And I don't think I was ever desperate to be straight, but it just never crossed my mind prior. I wasn't much of a relationship person prior to that and never really thought about guys or girls or sex or anything. But that little attraction grew to infatuation, and that single crush led to a lot more. I think it was just that one girl who opened my eyes to it. I never considered myself a close-minded person, but it really just didn't happen until my mind was open to it.