A smorgasboard of problems

[LuckyLuke]

Hello, thank you for taking the time to help. It's greatly appreciated. I apologize for the length.

I started dating late. I had my first girlfriend when I was 17 (this year) and hadn't so much as asked someone out before that or since. I was really happy at the time but afterwards I realized that she didn't appreciate me. But it's been a few months and I'm going through what I'm sure every teen guy goes through and that's being a bit lonely on the relationship side of life.

I'm blessed in the sense that I have friends; there's plenty of people that are happy to listen to my problems and laugh with me and cry with me but I truly, truly miss having someone to hold. Someone to cuddle. Someone to kiss.

I have no issue with confidence in terms of asking someone out, both a blessing and a curse, but there's a few problems:

- The two or so girls that I like, in my school, are either taken or seemingly not interested. I'm very close friends with both of them.

- The entire school thinks I'm gay. I'm not, however; my mannerisms and love of fashion suggest otherwise and when living the highschool life, people only see what's on the surface level.

- Because the entire school thinks I'm gay, most of my friends and all of my really, really close friends are girls who thought I was gay and were likely looking for a GBF; I disappointed them in that sense but we're still really close regardless :P haha.

- I have NO idea where to look to ask someone out outside of my school... my ex-gf was from a different school and I only met her through an introduction by my cousin. Where the hell do I look?

- I'm incredibly busy. I'm in a program that demands a considerable amount of time for study, extra curriculars, and community service; I also intern somewhere (but this ends in November) and participate in varsity sports. I have time for friends, little time to spare and can sometimes arrange things to have nights off- but I'm busy. The point is that if a girl were interested in me, she would either have to be busy herself or understand that I care for her I'm just busy. She'd have to be accepting of it.

Anyway, I really just want some advice. I know that relationships aren't the be all and end all but after going shopping with a friend yesterday and seeing troves of couples hanging around the theater cuddling, holding hands, kissing, I'm just feeling a bit "meh".

Any advice?

[wyatt]

I'm in a relationship right now, but I know how it feels to care and be in a relationship and it sucks to be alone, but your life has to take your priority, I know this sounds a bit insensitive but in my opinion, you need to stay out and keep up with your life, it is you who needs to take your priority. wait until life calms down a bit then go for it.. best luck,
Wyatt

[AmusedDJ]

im like this too, about the relationship thing

[AmusedDJ]

oh but i have 0 confidence in myself

[CuriousO_oDude]

I'm the same, almost
(minus the confidence)

I guess these should help:

1) Maybe just say that you like them, they could like you too

2) Prove that you aren't gay. I'm not asking you to change your personality, but a few tweaks here and there can't hurt anything.

3) You can still be their friends, so no worries there.

4) Gym, maybe? Or younger girls at school? Maybe you could ask relatives to introduce you to someone, like before:)

5) Even though you are busy, you need some love too:) Maybe instead of those days where you would just veg out in front of a TV, spend with your girlfriend, or spend it finding one lol :lol:


I really hope my advice helps :) good luck and best wishes my friend:)