What Do I Do?

[Zebra143]

My REALLY good friend just won't stop getting high, no matter what I say.

She says she cares about my opinion, but I'm wondering if she really does because I can't stand to be without her.

I'm afraid drugs will begin to run her life and not her.


What can I do to help her quit? Or make her want to quit?

[xXl0sth0peXx]

This isn't my area of expertise, but I don't know if there really is anything you can do. Kind of like if you have a friend who has an ED or SH, you can't get them help, they have to get it themselves..

To make her want to quit, I don't know if this is possible either, but you could always do research and see what could happen to her in the end if she doesn't stop.

Depending on ages, you could always tell an adult.

[Donkey]

you could always tell an adult.

Good way to lose a friend to be honest...

Probably won't help at all either. Talk to her on a more serious level if you want to make a difference - you could look up the effects of the drug. What exactly is she using?

[bobynrobyn]

first ..... you have to be a friend, and not a lover...refuse to fool around, and screw your brains out just to paich things up with a little seamen !! hard to do but it's the facts JACK !!!
next ..is go to a "NA" meeting, and pickup some of the pamplets they have in a rack (there free) just set one or two around the house (like if you were reading em or something) or leave em in your car in an obvious place...
next.... get some friends together, and have a little intervention..... let her know how you all feel, and where you think she is headed....
next is "PRAYER" and lots of it .......if you really care it won't hard at all
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GOD BLESS !!!!

bobynrobyn

[flumeendeavors]

This is a really hard situation...i used to be heavy on drugs and really, i only smartened up once i got help with it. I would tell somebody. I know that you're scared she's gonna hate you but i would rather have my best friend hate me while she's on drugs and get help and live and then love you for it when she's clean, than have her love me while she's on drugs and die young. Get her help. And when she's clean...KEEP HER CLEAN. If she feels like she wants to get high again, suggest doing something together instead. Take her somewhere away from drugs.

[Peace God]

Ok from glancing at the tags, I'm assuming she's just doing weed but if not correct me if I'm wrong about that...

My advice(from someone that also "just won't stop getting high") is if you really want a smoker to take you seriously, don't say extreme things. Using scare tactics and irrational sayings like "weed will kill you" or "everyone that smokes weed turns out to be a failure" will not get you far. Why? Well I hate sound like I'm promoting it but, they're just not true or at least really exaggerated. And since they're the ones that actually smoke; a lot of the time they'll either find out or already know from experience that your statements aren't that correct. Saying things like that will lead them to value your opinion less.

Instead, try to study the drug a bit through unbiased sources and point out negative effects that actually occur with prolonged use of the drug. Like social problems, legal problems, indolence, appetite problems, psychological/emotional problems etc.. You're best argument is that prolonged use really does change people's lifestyles and personalities. Convince her that those changes are mostly negative and you'll have a good shot at getting her to stop.

There... a pothead just to you how to convince a pothead to stop being a pothead.

Edit: And for the love of god, don't rat her out unless you truly think she's in danger. Again, I hate to sound like I'm promoting it, but if it's just weed then I really don't think she is in any immediate danger.

[Sordid Saint]

To be completely honest, she will be fine. I mean I don't know if she's smart enough to not get caught by the cops, but that is the worst thing that could happen to her. And depending on where you live, the consequences might not even be that bad and might only go as far as a ticket.

If you really want her to stop though, just tell her how you really feel. Like that other person said, exaggerating won't work. Nothing will really work unless you can somehow make her want to quit herself. I don't think she'll actually quit unless she wants to her self. Sorry to ruin the fun but even I am doing ok in life and I smoke around an eighth a day or more.